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    My sister goes out of holiday every 2 months for around 1 week and goes out every week on the weekends and she is 26 and I'm one year older. Their is nothing wrong with this.

    He's just complained for no reason that he goes to work, gets not a lot of sleep, then he goes to work and then has to cook for us and he gets no rest. He does factory work and my sister and I emphasis it is hard work.

    He complains that my sister never helps us but she does. I help out a lot with domestic stuff too.

    I lost my mom ages ago.

    I don't understand, no one is asking for him to cook for us. He can just cook for himself and my sister and I will cook our own stuff.

    He even complains if we eat out.

    He does this flour thing where he makes the roti which takes "one hour" by hand and it's very strenuous where he could buy it from the shop. I told him I'll buy the roti's from the shop if he's however he says no. I don't understand why he has to struggle for one hour doing it. I don't get the logic at all. I said I'll buy it and it's cheap.

    It's like saying I'll wash all those big pile clothes by hand where I could use the washing machine. Easy done.

    I don't understand, many times we told him we are capable of cooking for ourselves and II said 'll buy the roti's and he says no. Then he starts complaining.

    I'm just trying to help him.
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    Honestly, I think some people just like to be a martyr and complain. They know they can make things easier on themselves and they don't have to do it, yet they do it anyway.
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    Move out ?
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    Perhaps he would occasionally like you to cook for him? You said he could only cook his own and you'd sort yourselves. Why can't you take it in turns to cook for each other? He sounds stressed
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    Thanks for the replies.

    I could cook for him, yeah no doubt.

    I agree with the first poster, he can makes things very easy but chooses not to. I don't know why.

    With the stress, it's all down to his mindset, he thinks for a man, marrying at 29 is late which he told me and he telle me to get married quick. This is unreasonable to get stressed about.

    Theri is nothing wrong with me and my sister we are both healthy, happy people with bright futures.

    I've had a 2 graduate interview offers and he surely cant be stressed with my career, I'm very confident I'll be in a job within 2 months since things are going very well. Even an agency said my CV looks very, very strong.

    Sometimes he says to me if I don't put toilet roll in toilet, my wife could kick me out in the future.
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    Ok
    When you choose to get married is up to you
    However. At 29 the time for relying on you father is over. I'd be very annoyed too especially if you are not working. Why not?
    Toilet roll? Plain lazy.
    So he's working long hours, paying the bills and you're doing what?
    Time to grow up
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    To the above poster,

    I'm 27, going into a graduate/junior job soon and I'm working 40 hours until I get the graduate job. I'm paying for some bills.

    I'm in no way relying on my father, once I get the graduate/junior job, that is it.

    I do domestic duties such as all the washing up the dishes at lunch, tea time, dinner even in morning on the weeknds and sometimes my sister does it on the weekdays, it's either my or my sister never my father. I do the cleaning of the living room, my bedroom and toilets. We honestly help out as much as we can.

    Still not sure why he's had the rant since he can get rest, since we do help out as much as possible and since theirs nothing wrong with us.
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    To the above poster,

    I'm 27, going into a graduate/junior job soon and I'm working 40 hours until I get the graduate job. I'm paying for some bills.

    I'm in no way relying on my father, once I get the graduate/junior job, that is it.

    I do domestic duties such as all the washing up the dishes at lunch, tea time, dinner even in morning on the weeknds and sometimes my sister does it on the weekdays, it's either my or my sister never my father. I do the cleaning of the living room, my bedroom and toilets. We honestly help out as much as we can.

    Still not sure why he's had the rant since he can get rest, since we do help out as much as possible and since theirs nothing wrong with us.
    Ok. It sounded from your post as if you weren't working yet. I apologise
    There is maybe something else going on that you don't know about. He is obviously stressed for some reason. If you could talk to him at a good time maybe gently ask him
    Is he worried about work? Is he ill? Other family?
    There has to be a reason
    As a side issue, he may be genuinely concerned that you're both not married. If it is your culture to be married by now then it could really worry him
    I'm sure he's proud of your achievements. Some older men struggle to show sentiment like that
    Your best bet is to ask him without rowing what's wrong. You're all adults after all
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    Your written English is too poor for a graduate position
 
 
 
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