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    He started off flirting and then after a few days
    he has been on a campaign to let me know he isn't interested. 'Forgetting' meetings he has with me, forgetting social events I will be at, forgetting my surname (all of which I knew he knew as they were in his diary). Making jokes that I'm a ****. When I'm talking to him alone all he does is go on about how hot our mutual work colleagues are. If we're alone together he is so uncomfortable and will play music so he doesn't have to speak to me. At social events he will flirts with women right in front of me to show me he doesn't like me and to avoid being alone with me.

    He's added me on Facebook but I deleted him as he's so rude at work I don't see why I would want to be in contact out of it!

    He clearly think I'm in love with him but I don't see how he can have come to that conclusion. It's so irritating.

    am I right to think that's why he is the way he is?
    And would it be a bit mean of me to block him on Facebook and forget he exists?

    Mutual friend think it is but he's just horrid! Why is he on this campaign to let me know he's not interested when I never said he was?
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    Although I've obviously not met the man, he sounds pretty full of himself. I'd think nothing of it and ignore him back. I won't bother blocking him because the chances of him trying to add you again are low if he's going out of his way to avoid you.

    I would like to enforce this though - maybe he's trying to let you know where you stand (i.e. I'm not interested in you) but he's taking it too far without realising? Either way, doesn't sound like you're missing an awful lot.
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    He already made a big issue of me deleting him of Facebook. Wants me to know he's not interested but still wants my attention I guess. Absolutely grade A idiot
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    If he's already made the whole unfriending thing a big issue I wouldn't block him or he'll start whining to everyone about what a bad person you are. Although this may not matter in most circumstances, because this is work and it should be professional, the less he has to talk about the better.

    If he wants your attention he could be juvenile and might be trying the whole 'playing hard to get' thing. God, I would avoid him at all costs if it turns out this is the case, haha!
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    (Original post by ShannyMorrison)
    Although I've obviously not met the man, he sounds pretty full of himself. I'd think nothing of it and ignore him back. I won't bother blocking him because the chances of him trying to add you again are low if he's going out of his way to avoid you.

    I would like to enforce this though - maybe he's trying to let you know where you stand (i.e. I'm not interested in you) but he's taking it too far without realising? Either way, doesn't sound like you're missing an awful lot.
    Very well put! I second this.

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    (Original post by Mezza362)
    He started off flirting and then after a few days
    he has been on a campaign to let me know he isn't interested. 'Forgetting' meetings he has with me, forgetting social events I will be at, forgetting my surname (all of which I knew he knew as they were in his diary). Making jokes that I'm a ****. When I'm talking to him alone all he does is go on about how hot our mutual work colleagues are. If we're alone together he is so uncomfortable and will play music so he doesn't have to speak to me. At social events he will flirts with women right in front of me to show me he doesn't like me and to avoid being alone with me.

    He's added me on Facebook but I deleted him as he's so rude at work I don't see why I would want to be in contact out of it!

    He clearly think I'm in love with him but I don't see how he can have come to that conclusion. It's so irritating.

    am I right to think that's why he is the way he is?
    And would it be a bit mean of me to block him on Facebook and forget he exists?

    Mutual friend think it is but he's just horrid! Why is he on this campaign to let me know he's not interested when I never said he was?
    His behaviour sounds unprofessional. You have to decide how deliberate this campaign is and how much of it is being carried on at work. You then have to decide whether you want to tell work , but you will need evidence.

    Whether or not he flirts with work colleagues is irrelevant.

    No need to have him on facebook or any form of social media.

    If he is rude and misses meetings, so its a pattern then its impairing your work.
 
 
 
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