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    Hey guys so I am going on a coffee date with this girl later on in the week and I'm really nervous about it. I'm kinda worried that I won't have too much stuff in common with her and I'm not really too sure what to discuss. The guys she normally hangs around with are kinda the typical 'lads' type of guys, if you know what I mean by that. Whereas I'm more of a.... skinny jeans, vans, band t-shirts etc lol, I'll take rock/metal over dance/hiphop any day. I realise its a really vague description of the situation I'm in but if you guys would be able to post some advice or anything it'd be much appreciated! It should also be worth noting that I've not gone on many of these 1 on 1 meet up kind of dates with girls before, just a couple and they were always my 'type' where it'd be fairly easy to get a conversation going even just about music or something.
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    Hey guys so I am going on a coffee date with this girl later on in the week and I'm really nervous about it. I'm kinda worried that I won't have too much stuff in common with her and I'm not really too sure what to discuss. The guys she normally hangs around with are kinda the typical 'lads' type of guys, if you know what I mean by that. Whereas I'm more of a.... skinny jeans, vans, band t-shirts etc lol, I'll take rock/metal over dance/hiphop any day. I realise its a really vague description of the situation I'm in but if you guys would be able to post some advice or anything it'd be much appreciated! It should also be worth noting that I've not gone on many of these 1 on 1 meet up kind of dates with girls before, just a couple and they were always my 'type' where it'd be fairly easy to get a conversation going even just about music or something.
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    Well, she may usually hang out with lad type of guys but she did say yes to meeting you for coffee so you're off to a good start!
    As easy as it is to say.... and hard to do.... just be yourself. I think it is always best to casually ask her questions and follow up questions about her. The more you can get her to talk about herself the more, hopefully, you can find a connection to discuss. When it is your turn to talk be honest with her about what you like, the music you like, weekend activities you enjoy. If you truly don't have much in common or just don't click better to know it sooner than later. But don't be too discouraged because actually a lot of opposites do attract. Just go, ask her about herself and ask follow up questions (be interested and listen to her response), talk about your interests, goals, family etc,
    and just see how smoothly the conversation flows even if you don't have a ton in common. First in foremost you both have in common the interest in meeting for coffee..... a great start! Good Luck
 
 
 
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