I often experience crushes on a really deep level (which is very sad, I know) and I've never done anything about them, for many logical reasons. I find myseld drawn to a very handsome colleague of mine , with an incredible arse to boot. He is very charming and sweet, which doesn't bode well as he's got a rep as a bit of a playa. I'm pretty inexperienced for my age and feel at a loss as to what to do. Any tips?
Very inexperienced. Crushing again Watch
- 06-02-2017 21:19
- 07-02-2017 08:10
Just try to get to know him as a guy from the office and a friend first. See if you click on that level then casually flirt and see if there is any response from him. Be careful and watch to see if he seems like a 'playa' because you don't want to get involved with that. The nice thing about a crush (who doesn't know you have a crush on him) is that you can make him to be whatever you want him to be..... in your mind. You don't have to deal with the reality of his being a cad to women, a real slob in his flat, or boring, etc. Truthfully, I find that deep level crushes rarely come to fruition. Someone can correct me if I'm wrong. I think with a deep level crush we get so caught up in the fantasy, butterflies in our stomach when we see them etc. that we place them on an unachievable pedestal. That is why it is best, if possible, to just mentally approach him as a friend and see where it goes from there. Good Luck.
- 07-02-2017 11:31
Thanks for the reply!! That does sound like a good idea. Just tired of having so many feelings and nothing ever coming to it.
- 26-02-2017 16:48
Worrying twist. Gonna give a bit more detail. He's an F1 I'm an NA. Tried for a week to ask him out. On 3rd attempt saw him talk to a pretty dietician and then a pretty pharmacist. So it didn't happen. Then find he's friends w/ pharmacist on fb. With shall I do now?
- 06-03-2017 08:09
Well, I'm sure you're a pretty NA. Just continue to talk with him when you can. Are you fb friends with him? To be honest he may not want to date anyone from work because that can lead to awkwardness. See if there is a way a small group of you could do something together after work. That would be a non-pressured way to get to know each other outside of work.
- 21-03-2017 17:54
Well the answer was a no after I dropped him a note asking him out for drinks. I can see why they're called crushes. Thank you so much for your replies though!