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    So there is a girl I am very good friends with....the complication is I fancy her

    When I say good friends I mean we text every day, we have lunch every so often and event spent the evening together last week (dinner then cinema then dessert)

    I've known her for over a year now and have always been fairly close with her but recently we've gotten closer

    I want to tell her how I feel but I don't know if she feels the same way - if she doesn't then I am worried our friendship will end. If she does, I am not sure I could give her everything she may need emotionally and physically. I am quite an emotionally reserved person and very aphysical but am heterosexual.

    I feel though that it would be very hard to keep things just as they are because of how I feel

    what should I do
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    If you like someone you should tell them, it will only hurt you if you kept these feelings to yourself. It's possible that she does like you but she may be too afraid to tell you. If she does end the friendship then it's probably for the best, it's very hard to stay friends with someone you like more than a friend but the feelings are not reciprocated.

    You never know unless you ask.
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    If you like someone you should tell them, it will only hurt you if you kept these feelings to yourself. It's possible that she does like you but she may be too afraid to tell you. If she does end the friendship then it's probably for the best, it's very hard to stay friends with someone you like more than a friend but the feelings are not reciprocated.

    You never know unless you ask.
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    (Original post by UWS)
    If you like someone you should tell them, it will only hurt you if you kept these feelings to yourself. It's possible that she does like you but she may be too afraid to tell you. If she does end the friendship then it's probably for the best, it's very hard to stay friends with someone you like more than a friend but the feelings are not reciprocated.

    You never know unless you ask.
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    Let me get this straight.

    You text this person every day, eat lunch with them, have dinner + movie dates with them and you're still pondering as to what to do? If you like her, if you really do, approach her, message her, tell her that you feel what you feel and ask her if she might feel the same. If she does, you're going to be happy. If she doesn't, you'll feel less happy, but if your friendship is as strong as you say, you can move past it. In any case, you will never know until you talk to her and ask her.
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    I think you should tell her , I get the impression from your description that she could feel the same. It would only hurt you to carry on as such and spend forever wondering 'what if'. I'm hopeful it'll work out for you , but if it doesn't (which it won't) then you can cut off all ties and get closure !
 
 
 
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