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    Should an 18 year old girl be allowed to sleep over at her 24 year old boyfriend's place?

    A bit of background: From what I've always been told/perceived myself as is mature & sensible, never been drunk/drinking through choice of my own & certainly not like a lot of teens who go out partying until the early hours of the morning etc, apparently ahead of my time particularly in terms of mindset compared to most my age. Lives at home with my family & run my own small business.

    He's incredibly well mannered, has a job, has his own flat, on the same wavelength as me & looks up to me like an absolute gentleman. Very protective, understanding, polite & always making sure I'm alright, walks me home everytime regardless to make sure I'm safe etc. He has his own flat & has done since he was 19 due to the loss of his parents.

    What's your views on this generally? Being an adult is it her own decision & you can't stop her/have to trust she is the sensible young lady she appears or is it an absolute no no & everything should be done to stop this? Please leave your reasoning & how you'd approach this with said parents who are very worrisome/over protective & this is their first time letting go.
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    I see no problem with it.
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    (Original post by butterfly8998)
    Should an 18 year old girl be allowed to sleep over at her 24 year old boyfriend's place?

    A bit of background: From what I've always been told/perceived myself as is mature & sensible, never been drunk/drinking through choice of my own & certainly not like a lot of teens who go out partying until the early hours of the morning etc, apparently ahead of my time particularly in terms of mindset compared to most my age. Lives at home with my family & run my own small business.

    He's incredibly well mannered, has a job, has his own flat, on the same wavelength as me & looks up to me like an absolute gentleman. Very protective, understanding, polite & always making sure I'm alright, walks me home everytime regardless to make sure I'm safe etc. He has his own flat & has done since he was 19 due to the loss of his parents.

    What's your views on this generally? Being an adult is it her own decision & you can't stop her/have to trust she is the sensible young lady she appears or is it an absolute no no & everything should be done to stop this? Please leave your reasoning & how you'd approach this with said parents who are very worrisome/over protective & this is their first time letting go.
    Both adults, so it's no issue
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    (Original post by butterfly8998)
    Should an 18 year old girl be allowed to sleep over at her 24 year old boyfriend's place?

    A bit of background: From what I've always been told/perceived myself as is mature & sensible, never been drunk/drinking through choice of my own & certainly not like a lot of teens who go out partying until the early hours of the morning etc, apparently ahead of my time particularly in terms of mindset compared to most my age. Lives at home with my family & run my own small business.

    He's incredibly well mannered, has a job, has his own flat, on the same wavelength as me & looks up to me like an absolute gentleman. Very protective, understanding, polite & always making sure I'm alright, walks me home everytime regardless to make sure I'm safe etc. He has his own flat & has done since he was 19 due to the loss of his parents.

    What's your views on this generally? Being an adult is it her own decision & you can't stop her/have to trust she is the sensible young lady she appears or is it an absolute no no & everything should be done to stop this? Please leave your reasoning & how you'd approach this with said parents who are very worrisome/over protective & this is their first time letting go.
    I say 18 is old enough, do your parents have an issue with you doing this?
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    It is quite an age gap but you are an adult and therefore should be free to make your own decisions. Even if your parents object to this relaitonship.
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    (Original post by Rock Fan)
    I say 18 is old enough, do your parents have an issue with you doing this?
    I agree, however they get very funny even about being in a relationship & seem very immature about it all. My mum in particular comes off as awkward when approached with the subject & I feel like it's something bad that I shouldn't be doing. I've never approached the subject of sleeping at his place as she gets awkward enough even bringing up a boy's name in which I'm friends with.
    Unfortunately as much as I hate doing it, I've had to lie quite a few times about where I'm going and such just so I can spend time with him, I'd like to be able to be honest with them & not have to sneak around/lie about where I am and what I'm doing with who if that makes sense.
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    The age gap is troubling (as a 23 yo I'm not sure I'd want to date an 18 year old), but it's still within a range where it could go either way. You are an adult now and you have to find these things out for yourself - your parents should not be interfering in your personal life.
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    (Original post by butterfly8998)
    I agree, however they get very funny even about being in a relationship & seem very immature about it all. My mum in particular comes off as awkward when approached with the subject & I feel like it's something bad that I shouldn't be doing. I've never approached the subject of sleeping at his place as she gets awkward enough even bringing up a boy's name in which I'm friends with.
    Unfortunately as much as I hate doing it, I've had to lie quite a few times about where I'm going and such just so I can spend time with him, I'd like to be able to be honest with them & not have to sneak around/lie about where I am and what I'm doing with who if that makes sense.
    You shouldn't have to lie at your age, plus 18 and 24 isn't a massive age gap.
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    Lol
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    By18 I think the time for parental rules is past, except perhaps for what happens under the parents roof. The aim of parenting is to equip you kids with good judgement for adult life.
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    He certainly hopes so
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    (Original post by medbh4805)
    The age gap is troubling (as a 23 yo I'm not sure I'd want to date an 18 year old), but it's still within a range where it could go either way. You are an adult now and you have to find these things out for yourself - your parents should not be interfering in your personal life.
    lool what's the youngest you would date if you mind me asking?
 
 
 
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