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    I have had anxiety for as long as I can remember; it's mainly in social situations that it arises the most.

    It can be quite debilitating at times, and very hard to explain to people as a lot of them don't understand what it is like unless they have of course suffered with it themselves.

    Just little things like ordering something from a counter or going to get petrol makes me anxious and I have to rehearse what I will do and say in my head countless times before I go and do said activity; otherwise I get really nervous and back out.

    I detest crowded places which means I rarely go out to socialise etc. I also find it hard to talk to new people and also make eye contact with people.

    I have seen the doctor about it before as I was being bullied at my previous work place and so went off sick with both depression and anxiety; obviously the stress of that situation didn't help and I am only just starting to feel a bit better nearly a year on.

    I am 20 years old and would like more of a social life, please help!
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    Hi, I'm the same I can't go out for very long as it gets too much for me to handle what I find helps is if I have someone I trust with me as it calms me down. I've been trying to go out places I normally wouldn't myself and just taking it one day at a time has really helped, it is a slow process but it does work it's just a case of taking some time. 2 years ago I couldn't even go to the shops alone it was that bad now I can go to town and be around loads of people. don't get me wrong I have my bad days but that's the thing with mental illness it's a rollercoaster.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have had anxiety for as long as I can remember; it's mainly in social situations that it arises the most.

    It can be quite debilitating at times, and very hard to explain to people as a lot of them don't understand what it is like unless they have of course suffered with it themselves.

    Just little things like ordering something from a counter or going to get petrol makes me anxious and I have to rehearse what I will do and say in my head countless times before I go and do said activity; otherwise I get really nervous and back out.

    I detest crowded places which means I rarely go out to socialise etc. I also find it hard to talk to new people and also make eye contact with people.

    I have seen the doctor about it before as I was being bullied at my previous work place and so went off sick with both depression and anxiety; obviously the stress of that situation didn't help and I am only just starting to feel a bit better nearly a year on.

    I am 20 years old and would like more of a social life, please help!
    CBT is a type of therapy that helps a lot for anxiety. It focuses on why you have the anxieties you do and how to challenge the beliefs that lead to them so you can prevent those anxieties. There's another post atm titled "cbt" in which i've gone into some more detail about what it is and how it works so you can look there if you're interested or just google it.
    You can find some info on it online and try it yourself or see a therapist to get more help explaining it and applying it to your life.
    You can talk to a doctor about how to access therapies.

    For more severe anxiety where you're starting to get panic attacks or physical symptoms of anxiety you can also try medication if you like. That focuses on improving the physical symptoms of anxiety to make it easier for you to manage. Again, that's something you talk to a doctor about. Meds will not cure anxiety and it is still important to look at why your are anxious and how you can change your thoughts to help you.

    Other than that, things like making sure you have some me time every day so stuff doesn't pile up as much, working out some coping mechanisms for your anxieties (like I have issues with public transport, but music helps me so I use noise cancelling headphones to block out all the noise and listen to my music), motivating yourself to try new things- maybe give yourself a reward if you step outside your comfort zone. You can check out mind.org and sane.org for some more info and advice on anxiety and how to manage it.

    Hope that helps. Good luck
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    Anxiety can sometimes take over our life .leaving us no knowing which way to turn or what to do manage symptoms and improve our lives.I want to share with you some of those that give practical information to cope with your anxiety disorder.How to select a therapist,support groups(what to look for where to find one),Tips to overcome test anxiety.
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    (Original post by Kindred)
    CBT is a type of therapy that helps a lot for anxiety. It focuses on why you have the anxieties you do and how to challenge the beliefs that lead to them so you can prevent those anxieties. There's another post atm titled "cbt" in which i've gone into some more detail about what it is and how it works so you can look there if you're interested or just google it.
    You can find some info on it online and try it yourself or see a therapist to get more help explaining it and applying it to your life.
    You can talk to a doctor about how to access therapies.

    For more severe anxiety where you're starting to get panic attacks or physical symptoms of anxiety you can also try medication if you like. That focuses on improving the physical symptoms of anxiety to make it easier for you to manage. Again, that's something you talk to a doctor about. Meds will not cure anxiety and it is still important to look at why your are anxious and how you can change your thoughts to help you.

    Other than that, things like making sure you have some me time every day so stuff doesn't pile up as much, working out some coping mechanisms for your anxieties (like I have issues with public transport, but music helps me so I use noise cancelling headphones to block out all the noise and listen to my music), motivating yourself to try new things- maybe give yourself a reward if you step outside your comfort zone. You can check out mind.org and sane.org for some more info and advice on anxiety and how to manage it.

    Hope that helps. Good luck
    Thank you for your reply it's given me some food for thought 😄
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    (Original post by Mazzii342)
    I know how you feel, you basically described me there! I know what you mean about people not understanding, I rarely get anybody understanding unless like you say, they have it too. It sucks because it can make you feel very alone and therefore depressed. I too rarely go out socially, especially crowded places, and I have been out clubbing once and hated every second. i
    I feel you on the clubbing thing I hate it! Only been three times since I turned 18 and hated every single of those times haha!
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    (I'm really sorry it sent the reply before I finished!)

    I know how you feel, you basically described me there! I know what you mean about people not understanding, I rarely get anybody understanding unless like you say, they have it too. It sucks because it can make you feel very alone and therefore depressed. I too rarely go out socially, especially crowded places, and I have been out clubbing once and hated every second.

    In terms of help, you say you've been to the doc? Maybe go back and see if they can help you by offering counselling or medication if you're not already on it? I was prescribed anti depressants which also work for anxiety, I was offered CBT but it was a long waiting list and my anxiety actually means I was too anxious to talk to somebody so I didn't do it. I would recommend speaking to somebody if they offer though, I regret not saying yes because I feel very alone now. Medication might be a good starting point but it doesn't get to the underlying issues which means it just masks the problem.

    I know it sucks not being able to socialise a lot, I am also 20 and miss out on a lot of things because I'm unable to meet new people and find myself getting knots in my stomach just thinking about it! But yeah, good luck I hope you're able to start to socialise more with whatever help you choose! x
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    (I'm really sorry it sent the reply before I finished!)

    I know how you feel, you basically described me there! I know what you mean about people not understanding, I rarely get anybody understanding unless like you say, they have it too. It sucks because it can make you feel very alone and therefore depressed. I too rarely go out socially, especially crowded places, and I have been out clubbing once and hated every second.

    In terms of help, you say you've been to the doc? Maybe go back and see if they can help you by offering counselling or medication if you're not already on it? I was prescribed anti depressants which also work for anxiety, I was offered CBT but it was a long waiting list and my anxiety actually means I was too anxious to talk to somebody so I didn't do it. I would recommend speaking to somebody if they offer though, I regret not saying yes because I feel very alone now. Medication might be a good starting point but it doesn't get to the underlying issues which means it just masks the problem.

    I know it sucks not being able to socialise a lot, I am also 20 and miss out on a lot of things because I'm unable to meet new people and find myself getting knots in my stomach just thinking about it! But yeah, good luck I hope you're able to start to socialise more with whatever help you choose! x

    Thanks again! I feel a bit more positive after your reply and the others on here too! X
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    (Original post by Mazzii342)
    (I'm really sorry it sent the reply before I finished!)

    I know how you feel, you basically described me there! I know what you mean about people not understanding, I rarely get anybody understanding unless like you say, they have it too. It sucks because it can make you feel very alone and therefore depressed. I too rarely go out socially, especially crowded places, and I have been out clubbing once and hated every second.

    In terms of help, you say you've been to the doc? Maybe go back and see if they can help you by offering counselling or medication if you're not already on it? I was prescribed anti depressants which also work for anxiety, I was offered CBT but it was a long waiting list and my anxiety actually means I was too anxious to talk to somebody so I didn't do it. I would recommend speaking to somebody if they offer though, I regret not saying yes because I feel very alone now. Medication might be a good starting point but it doesn't get to the underlying issues which means it just masks the problem.

    I know it sucks not being able to socialise a lot, I am also 20 and miss out on a lot of things because I'm unable to meet new people and find myself getting knots in my stomach just thinking about it! But yeah, good luck I hope you're able to start to socialise more with whatever help you choose! x
    Heya, I know you're not the OP, but I just want to say that waiting lists are long for nearly all therapies, unfortunately :sadnod: so I would really suggest going back to your GP to get on the waiting list. :hugs:
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    Heya, I know you're not the OP, but I just want to say that waiting lists are long for nearly all therapies, unfortunately :sadnod: so I would really suggest going back to your GP to get on the waiting list. :hugs:
    Ah I know, I guess it shows how many people suffer with mental health issues. At least I know I'm not alone I guess! Haha. Yeah I think I'm using that as an excuse to not go, it's a big step for me not sure if I'm ready to take it! Thanks for your reply, your right it's important I do!
 
 
 
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