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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    "death aint nothin but a heartbeat away"

    How true.
    Fire baby, please don't say that :hugs: x
    I don't want you to leave :cry2: x
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    Aww I'm worried about you now baby :jumphug: x
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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    "death aint nothin but a heartbeat away"

    How true.
    That's so true

    (Original post by starfab)
    Hey don't get upset you didn't see this. You knew ar some point anyway
    :hugs:

    oh btw... blog? Go ahead with it if you want.

    hmm how to tag on new app?
    True :hugs:

    Not in the mood anymore

    Don't think you can
    (Original post by starfab)
    Huh. Wonder if there was a way to quote more than one post on new app

    I should feel proud I achieved so much whilst feeling as low as I felt today...
    Yeah you can

    :hugs: proud of you you did alot, my baaji is strong :hugs:

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    (Original post by KittenMediaya)
    That's so true


    True :hugs:

    Not in the mood anymore

    Don't think you can


    Yeah you can

    :hugs: proud of you you did alot, my baaji is strong :hugs:

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    Fair enough. If you get in the mood, go for it.
    Hmm

    Ahh will try to figure out how to do that.
    :hugs: proud of me too. Thanks behenjj now you making me blush.
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    (Original post by starfab)
    Fair enough. If you get in the mood, go for it.
    Hmm

    Ahh will try to figure out how to do that.
    :hugs: proud of me too. Thanks behenjj now you making me blush.
    I have no idea how to make one maybe you should start it for an example

    You just do it twice and 2 quotes appear in the reply box, thats all.

    Blush more more more :blush:



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    I am so sad because there is so much pressure on my shoulder from dad, he is expecting so much of me.

    I genuinely think i am tired of studying, i don't think i can study for.. What? My entire life :cry: at the same time, i don't want to give up now because i am the so called 'clever' child go knows how to do everything, which isn't true 😣 i am fed up of everyone's expectations from me.

    Yesterday, my dad was shouting at me because of my BROTHER's student finance. Basically, he had applied ages ago but we didn't get any response from them. Yesterday he phoned up and they rejected his ID and were waiting for us to send another one. Who's fault is it for calling late? Me or me brother's? Apparently mine because my dad says:
    " She can sort out all her stuff, be organised BUT she can't be bothered to find out about her brother's stuff" "whenever i asked her out of worry why his brother's student finance is so late, she told me 'i don't know'"

    WHY THE FU*K IS IT MY RESPONSIBILITY TO DEAL WITH HIS THINGS? Because apparently i know everything, everyone thinks i am a robot and they'll ask me a question, i will work out a reply in a matter of seconds. :ahee:

    But i researched anyway, i even made a thread about it no one knows about. My dad thinks i am selfish. It's not truuue.

    I've never felt so bad. Recently been wanting to cry for no reason. This is so hard to deal and I'm aware it sounds so petty but it isn't. My dad had never been as angry as yesterday.

    And then my mum tells me that dad is having mental problems.she didn't say it directly, but i think he has depression. FOR THE FIRST TIME my dad cried, he had tears in his eyes because he was fed up of life. He said the children get happy when i leave home. Whenever i enter a room they leave. And i am not going to lie, but that is true. Not because we don't love him but because the fear he has spread. He gets angry at everything. If everyone in a room is using their phone, he will start speech about ow the worlf has changed. He will go '' give me all your phone i am going to smash them under the cars outside'' and it's my mum who can stop her. Dammit. And then my mum cries and it all gets tensed. I hate it.

    I don't even avoid him as much, i try to deal with everything he says because after all he is my dad. I know he does this because his dad was extremely abuses to him and to everyone single member of their family, he has scars left from that, he told us about what he used to do but in his eyes you can tell he still loves him. Since his dad passed away, he says he regrets moving in another country but the fact is he did that just to provide them with food an money. His entire he worked for others, for his sister's marriage and heck he had 7 of them and although he had 2 bothers to help, they all betrayed him. They would use him to get what they wanted dammittttt i'm going to stop here this is so long.

    I know he has been through alot and that's why i cried. He is expecting us to still love him because he loved his dad despite the abuse. Dont get me wrong i am not saying he is abuses me, never in my life he's ever even raised his hand to slap me. But he does get more angry with my brothers to the point of slapping them which i think is the reason why they avoid him more than me. Then my dad will regret and skb himself to sleep for doing that.

    I am so worried about him but at the same i can't deal with the pressure. This all needs to stop.

    Please god help us.

    Sorry for the rant.
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    (Original post by abc_123_)
    Fire baby, please don't say that :hugs: x
    I don't want you to leave :cry2: x
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    Aww I'm worried about you now baby :jumphug: x
    I felt awful last night :hugs:
    I'll stay for now babe :hugs:
    Please don't be worried Hun :console: I don't wanna worry you
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    I am feeling so hopeless atm. Like there is no way out, it will like that forever and ever. Anyone got advice on how to deal with this (above)?
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    (Original post by LunaCat)
    I am so sad because there is so much pressure on my shoulder from dad, he is expecting so much of me.

    I genuinely think i am tired of studying, i don't think i can study for.. What? My entire life :cry: at the same time, i don't want to give up now because i am the so called 'clever' child go knows how to do everything, which isn't true 😣 i am fed up of everyone's expectations from me.

    Yesterday, my dad was shouting at me because of my BROTHER's student finance. Basically, he had applied ages ago but we didn't get any response from them. Yesterday he phoned up and they rejected his ID and were waiting for us to send another one. Who's fault is it for calling late? Me or me brother's? Apparently mine because my dad says:
    " She can sort out all her stuff, be organised BUT she can't be bothered to find out about her brother's stuff" "whenever i asked her out of worry why his brother's student finance is so late, she told me 'i don't know'"

    WHY THE FU*K IS IT MY RESPONSIBILITY TO DEAL WITH HIS THINGS? Because apparently i know everything, everyone thinks i am a robot and they'll ask me a question, i will work out a reply in a matter of seconds. :ahee:

    But i researched anyway, i even made a thread about it no one knows about. My dad thinks i am selfish. It's not truuue.

    I've never felt so bad. Recently been wanting to cry for no reason. This is so hard to deal and I'm aware it sounds so petty but it isn't. My dad had never been as angry as yesterday.

    And then my mum tells me that dad is having mental problems.she didn't say it directly, but i think he has depression. FOR THE FIRST TIME my dad cried, he had tears in his eyes because he was fed up of life. He said the children get happy when i leave home. Whenever i enter a room they leave. And i am not going to lie, but that is true. Not because we don't love him but because the fear he has spread. He gets angry at everything. If everyone in a room is using their phone, he will start speech about ow the worlf has changed. He will go '' give me all your phone i am going to smash them under the cars outside'' and it's my mum who can stop her. Dammit. And then my mum cries and it all gets tensed. I hate it.

    I don't even avoid him as much, i try to deal with everything he says because after all he is my dad. I know he does this because his dad was extremely abuses to him and to everyone single member of their family, he has scars left from that, he told us about what he used to do but in his eyes you can tell he still loves him. Since his dad passed away, he says he regrets moving in another country but the fact is he did that just to provide them with food an money. His entire he worked for others, for his sister's marriage and heck he had 7 of them and although he had 2 bothers to help, they all betrayed him. They would use him to get what they wanted dammittttt i'm going to stop here this is so long.

    I know he has been through alot and that's why i cried. He is expecting us to still love him because he loved his dad despite the abuse. Dont get me wrong i am not saying he is abuses me, never in my life he's ever even raised his hand to slap me. But he does get more angry with my brothers to the point of slapping them which i think is the reason why they avoid him more than me. Then my dad will regret and skb himself to sleep for doing that.

    I am so worried about him but at the same i can't deal with the pressure. This all needs to stop.

    Please god help us.

    Sorry for the rant.
    I can relate to this so so much
    Please please do not give up Ms LunaCat
    Gimme a PM sometime, I'm here for you :hugs: and I know you're a very strong, talented individual.
    You can get through this :cube: Always here to listen
    (Original post by LunaCat)
    I am feeling so hopeless atm. Like there is no way out, it will like that forever and ever. Anyone got advice on how to deal with this (above)?
    I can tell you that I've gone through something a little similar and that there is a way out :jumphug: I have felt like that before and know just how awful it is.
    There is always hope even when times are so hard.
    Never give up :penguinhug:
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    (Original post by CheeseIsVeg)
    I can relate to this so so much
    Please please do not give up Ms LunaCat
    Gimme a PM sometime, I'm here for you :hugs: and I know you're a very strong, talented individual.
    You can get through this :cube: Always here to listen

    I can tell you that I've gone through something a little similar and that there is a way out :jumphug: I have felt like that before and know just how awful it is.
    There is always hope even when times are so hard.
    Never give up :penguinhug:
    Thank you so much :hugs: i might PM soon, really worried about dad but then i can't spend too much time on my phone either.
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    (Original post by KittenMediaya)
    I have no idea how to make one maybe you should start it for an example

    You just do it twice and 2 quotes appear in the reply box, thats all.

    Blush more more more :blush:



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    lmao. Think I use tsr enough. But hmm now I might acc.

    You even told me how to do so on old app 😂

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    (Original post by LunaCat)
    Thank you so much :hugs: i might PM soon, really worried about dad but then i can't spend too much time on my phone either.
    Do PM soon :hugs: I know exactly what you mean I promise you it'll work itself out :hugs: Whenever you can!
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    (Original post by CheeseIsVeg)
    Do PM soon :hugs: I know exactly what you mean I promise you it'll work itself out :hugs: Whenever you can!
    Thank you

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    (Original post by LunaCat)
    Thank you

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    Hiding dad's home and i am scared to go downstairs


    :hugs: Yeah definitely give me a PM :cube:
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    Tell me all you want to, you can trust me. I can tell you that I have been in this situation, my Dad had been pretty abusive (physically) to me and my siblings due to the stress at work building up and stuff and yeah I was scared to go downstairs when he was around.
    Long story short got him to go to the Doctor's because I couldn't take it anymore and he's on medication meaning that events are rare/don't happen.


    Let me help. :lovehug:
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    Heartbroken :cry2:

    The transplant offer fell through again :cry2: absolutely heartbroken for my papa to be in this situation again but he won't stop fighting

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    (Original post by CheeseIsVeg)
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    Tell me all you want to, you can trust me. I can tell you that I have been in this situation, my Dad had been pretty abusive (physically) to me and my siblings due to the stress at work building up and stuff and yeah I was scared to go downstairs when he was around.
    Long story short got him to go to the Doctor's because I couldn't take it anymore and he's on medication meaning that events are rare/don't happen.



    Let me help. :lovehug:
    I will do sometimes x
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    I am so sorry to hear that :console: exactly that except my dad is not abusive to me, but he is to my brothers Just because i am a girl. Recently he decided not to talk and although he thinks we haven't noticed, we have. :sad:

    I'm glad you took your dad to doctor's the chances of the same happening with my dad is low though. Asian family= don't believe in depression so no matter how many times we will tell him to go doctors, he will never go. I can't even imagine telling him ngl For him, doctor's are for health, and mental health is not health for him.....if i am making sense right now
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    I have an exam on tuesday and just can't revise :cry: so much stress.
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    I am so sorry to hear that :console: exactly that except my dad is not abusive to me, but he is to my brothers Just because i am a girl. Recently he decided not to talk and although he thinks we haven't noticed, we have. :sad:

    I'm glad you took your dad to doctor's the chances of the same happening with my dad is low though. Asian family= don't believe in depression so no matter how many times we will tell him to go doctors, he will never go. I can't even imagine telling him ngl For him, doctor's are for health, and mental health is not health for him.....if i am making sense right now


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    He was/is abusive to everyone but especially me. I think it's because I'm more annoying in the way that I will voice that I am not content with the favouritism/current situation. :hugs: Thanks.

    That's dangerous. Try to talk to him whenever possible/safe but not too much. Little things like how are you and how was your day or can I get you anything/help you in any way. Used to do that a lot to eventually get him to trust/understand that I was mature enough for him to open up to me and tell me that his mental health was poor.

    This is where I am not sure what to do. I do not have an Asian family so I'm not sure what to suggest. Give him some weblinks and try to sway his ridiculous opinion? It sounds as though a trip to the GP and then referral to a mental health specialist would do him lots of good
    Tell him that he is not alone also :hugs: It is normal to not have perfect mental health.

    (Original post by LunaCat)
    I have an exam on tuesday and just can't revise :cry: so much stress.
    :console: I have also experienced this
    Take some time out, go for a walk or something and spend that time on reflecting on whatever is stressing you out
    Then go to wherever you find is most comfortable to study and spend as much time as is needed for you to feel more confident about the exam :cube: You can do it LunaCat! :party: :woo: :rave: :lovehug:
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    Omg my dad left the house crying and shouting omg omg omg
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    '' jab me baher jaaon ga, to sare hoosh hoon ge ke - chukhar hai jaan chut gayi hamari - Ab sare nitche ah jae ge. Allah kare mera accident ho jaye aur me mar jaoon " and he smashed the door and didn't listen to anyone
    omg i will neevr forgive myself if he crashes his car :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: please god, let him be safe. I have no idea what to do my mum's crying and i'm feeling so helpless, i don't even know ytf i am in the toilets :cry:

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