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    I always find that when I am faced with a decision in my life in which there are plenty of arguments for and against each option, I am completely paralysed. This is not because I am unable of rationally considering the consequences of each decision, but because whatever decision I make, I will always think that I should have made the other.

    For example, if I chose to study subject X at school instead of subject Y, I would spend all of the time I was doing subject X thinking about how good subject Y would have been, and how bad of a decision I made. This is not necessarily because taking subject X was a bad decision, it's just how my brain seems to work. Had I taken subject Y, I would be constantly telling myself that subject X would have been better, and would worry endlessly. This is seriously affecting my ability to make decisions.

    Does anyone have any idea how I can break this destructive habit?

    First of all nothing stops you from doing subject Y years later, after you finish school (maybe you've been working for a few years and suddenly decide you want to go back and study something else!).

    Consider why you chose subject X over subject Y in the first place, what made you think that X was better?

    Also remember that a subject isn't as huge a matter as you'd think! I know people with a history degree in banking, and with a physics degree pursuing a career in art!
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