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    Hey guys. In a bit of a situation and would really appreciate somebody helping out.

    I started university last September and really struggled with the environment there. I have always considered myself quite a bubbly and outgoing person - I'm definitely ambitious and in situations like debating, I actually love to get involved and speak out in front of many people.

    Since then, I fell into a really deep depression since I did not know where to turn or what to do. I found myself on an unexpected gap year, but was so lucky to land myself in a job which I planned to do post-university. I've really been blessed with luck. But I've noticed that I've developed what I believe is social anxiety, and it's really quite terrible. Getting this job in the heart of London made me realised just how distressed I feel being around so many people. Very weird considering I used to love the city and being in busy situations. I feel like I have head rush.

    My diet is pretty good, I try to go out and I do socialise but many of my friends are at universities all across the UK. I leave work and see so many young people my age but literally don't know how to try and make new friends whilst I'm on my own.

    Additionally, I'm trying to still study. But I'm struggling to get out of bed and it's not just laziness, and I know that this is a sign of depression. I've also heard from people who are friends with me that I seem awkward/uncomfortable in social situations at times and that really makes me feel self conscious and bugs me that I don't come across as a normal person. The worst thing is that most of the time I don't even feel the awkwardness, and it's almost like I'm just detached from the whole situation. The feeling is literally like "meh, alright". I'm also known for not having much of a filter and I feel like there is the same approach to that. ESPECIALLY when I have always considered myself to be outgoing and bubbly. I really don't know what to do, or whether meds are the route which I should go down.

    I'm just very confused and would appreciate someone letting me know anything which they think may help me at all. I know that I haven't been very specific, but it's hard to pinpoint exactly what I'm feeling

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    Hey guys. In a bit of a situation and would really appreciate somebody helping out.

    I started university last September and really struggled with the environment there. I have always considered myself quite a bubbly and outgoing person - I'm definitely ambitious and in situations like debating, I actually love to get involved and speak out in front of many people.

    Since then, I fell into a really deep depression since I did not know where to turn or what to do. I found myself on an unexpected gap year, but was so lucky to land myself in a job which I planned to do post-university. I've really been blessed with luck. But I've noticed that I've developed what I believe is social anxiety, and it's really quite terrible. Getting this job in the heart of London made me realised just how distressed I feel being around so many people. Very weird considering I used to love the city and being in busy situations. I feel like I have head rush.

    My diet is pretty good, I try to go out and I do socialise but many of my friends are at universities all across the UK. I leave work and see so many young people my age but literally don't know how to try and make new friends whilst I'm on my own.

    Additionally, I'm trying to still study. But I'm struggling to get out of bed and it's not just laziness, and I know that this is a sign of depression. I've also heard from people who are friends with me that I seem awkward/uncomfortable in social situations at times and that really makes me feel self conscious and bugs me that I don't come across as a normal person. The worst thing is that most of the time I don't even feel the awkwardness, and it's almost like I'm just detached from the whole situation. The feeling is literally like "meh, alright". I'm also known for not having much of a filter and I feel like there is the same approach to that. ESPECIALLY when I have always considered myself to be outgoing and bubbly. I really don't know what to do, or whether meds are the route which I should go down.

    I'm just very confused and would appreciate someone letting me know anything which they think may help me at all. I know that I haven't been very specific, but it's hard to pinpoint exactly what I'm feeling

    Best Wishes
    Meds can be very helpful if you need them. They are not always needed though and can have some undesirable side effects. It is often worth trying just therapy and lifestyle changes to start with to see if you can avoid meds. If you think it may be worth trying meds, have a chat with your doctor and maybe see a psych (with younger people they sometimes want the more specialised perspective).
    Before that though, if you haven't already, you can go see your doctor and tell them how you are feeling, how it is affecting your life and ask for some help and advice. If you want to ask about anything specific, including meds, you can.

    You can check out mind.org and sane.org for info and advice and can ask me any question you have if you like. I've been on ADs so have some insight there too.
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    Debating matters is preparation for life for these young people .Across the UK student and high achieving professionals are popping pills .Theses drugs are not being taken recreationally by party goers but by students cramming for essays and exams,anxious businessmen and those struggling to overcome jetlag.
 
 
 
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