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    My ex left me 5 months ago. He got into another relationship a week after and they are still together.

    I think I surprised him because I wasn't really that bothered about our relationship ending, even though we were together for 3 years. I'm a bit of a free spirit and I guess I realised we can't have been that strong if he moved on so easily. I still like my ex as a person though and hope he is happy.

    Not one week has gone by since our break up without him contacting me. Lately he's been contacting me every 1-2 days. He usually says stuff like 'hope you're weekend is going well!' or 'I really hope you're having a lovely day!' or 'wishing you all the best!' or 'look at this video!' or 'did you hear about ___?' Just random stuff like that. I rarely initiate anything with him. I'm completely confused why he is still contacting me this often 5 months on. Honestly I thought he'd have forgotten about me now. He should be happy with his girlfriend and messaging her, not me.

    Literally just 10 minutes ago he sent me another message saying 'just thought I'd send you a little hello'.

    WTF lol O_o

    Someone please explain what's going on here! I thought exes bugger off when they break up with someone and find someone else. I know I always have.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My ex left me 5 months ago. He got into another relationship a week after and they are still together.

    I think I surprised him because I wasn't really that bothered about our relationship ending, even though we were together for 3 years. I'm a bit of a free spirit and I guess I realised we can't have been that strong if he moved on so easily. I still like my ex as a person though and hope he is happy.

    Not one week has gone by since our break up without him contacting me. Lately he's been contacting me every 1-2 days. He usually says stuff like 'hope you're weekend is going well!' or 'I really hope you're having a lovely day!' or 'wishing you all the best!' or 'look at this video!' or 'did you hear about ___?' Just random stuff like that. I rarely initiate anything with him. I'm completely confused why he is still contacting me this often 5 months on. Honestly I thought he'd have forgotten about me now. He should be happy with his girlfriend and messaging her, not me.

    Literally just 10 minutes ago he sent me another message saying 'just thought I'd send you a little hello'.

    WTF lol O_o

    Someone please explain what's going on here! I thought exes bugger off when they break up with someone and find someone else. I know I always have.
    Seems likely he misses you and regrets his decision, guess he isn't happy in his relationship but I wouldn't got back to him.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My ex left me 5 months ago. He got into another relationship a week after and they are still together.

    I think I surprised him because I wasn't really that bothered about our relationship ending, even though we were together for 3 years. I'm a bit of a free spirit and I guess I realised we can't have been that strong if he moved on so easily. I still like my ex as a person though and hope he is happy.

    Not one week has gone by since our break up without him contacting me. Lately he's been contacting me every 1-2 days. He usually says stuff like 'hope you're weekend is going well!' or 'I really hope you're having a lovely day!' or 'wishing you all the best!' or 'look at this video!' or 'did you hear about ___?' Just random stuff like that. I rarely initiate anything with him. I'm completely confused why he is still contacting me this often 5 months on. Honestly I thought he'd have forgotten about me now. He should be happy with his girlfriend and messaging her, not me.

    Literally just 10 minutes ago he sent me another message saying 'just thought I'd send you a little hello'.

    WTF lol O_o

    Someone please explain what's going on here! I thought exes bugger off when they break up with someone and find someone else. I know I always have.
    Probably because you didn't take the break up badly, it feels like a mutual thing so he probably sees you as a friend still
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    (Original post by Kravence)
    Probably because you didn't take the break up badly, it feels like a mutual thing so he probably sees you as a friend still
    'just thought I'd send you a little hello'. - I doubt he sent this to all his other friends. Seems like he just sent it to his ex girlfriend. Not really appropriate if he's in a relationship with someone else now.

    The amount of contact and the content of his messages seems a little much for someone who sees someone as a friend IMO, especially if she isn't initiating back.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My ex left me 5 months ago. He got into another relationship a week after and they are still together.

    I think I surprised him because I wasn't really that bothered about our relationship ending, even though we were together for 3 years. I'm a bit of a free spirit and I guess I realised we can't have been that strong if he moved on so easily. I still like my ex as a person though and hope he is happy.

    Not one week has gone by since our break up without him contacting me. Lately he's been contacting me every 1-2 days. He usually says stuff like 'hope you're weekend is going well!' or 'I really hope you're having a lovely day!' or 'wishing you all the best!' or 'look at this video!' or 'did you hear about ___?' Just random stuff like that. I rarely initiate anything with him. I'm completely confused why he is still contacting me this often 5 months on. Honestly I thought he'd have forgotten about me now. He should be happy with his girlfriend and messaging her, not me.

    Literally just 10 minutes ago he sent me another message saying 'just thought I'd send you a little hello'.

    WTF lol O_o

    Someone please explain what's going on here! I thought exes bugger off when they break up with someone and find someone else. I know I always have.

    In no particular order:

    1. Booty call now or sometime in the future.
    2. He is genuinely a friend and likes to stay in touch.
    3. He doesnt want to admit he dumped you , feels guilty and is insecure, so he needs your reassurance. He likes to think he is the perfect guy and you are charity.
    4. He wants to keep an eye on you to make sure you dont do better than him.
    5. he is bored with current gf.

    Tbh just respond once a week/ fortnight or cut contact.
 
 
 
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