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    K word hard R.
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    it is not smart making a thread like this since the negative responses about the culture will trigger everyone and cause a **** storm.
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    (Original post by Plantagenet Crown)
    I don't see why the fridge is a problem. Ham and bacon, just like most foods, would obviously be in packages and not just lying around the fridge touching other food.

    There will also likely be males on your course who you will have to work with, this in and of itself isn't fitnah. Being able to appropriately and healthily interact with the opposite sex is an important life skill, and contrary to what many Muslims say, doing so will not necessarily make the relationship sexual or awkward.
    I am a Muslim and I completely agree with this. OP is just being incredibly paranoid.
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    (Original post by sameehaiqbal)
    I am a Muslim and I completely agree with this. OP is just being incredibly paranoid.
    Cross contamination is pretty hard to avoid anyways.

    E.g. Our banknotes are covered in cocaine (forbidden in all religion I'm guessing).

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Contam...United_Kingdom
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    (Original post by AishaGirl)
    This is not a rule within Islam, yes it is the husband obligation to provide for his wife and children but women are also permitted to work.

    Also Muslim men really dislike it when their wife earns more than they do
    That's not fair r u both going to live in poverty because your ignorant husband is insecure
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    Faith and Spirituality forum is a cancer on this site, second only to NCA. ****ing awful thread.

    Did you find it very difficult to avoid haram situations?

    I'm actually Ex-Muslim, but regardless, you won't find yourself in a "haraam situation" ever. You have 2 legs, you're sentient, if your flatmates are planning a party or whatever, they won't be drinking J20 and you know that. If you wanna avoid it altogether, make yourself scarce; I'm guessing you wouldn't wanna be around drunk people, so there's no point joining. On the off chance you would join, you might even make friends. Granted it'll be rare to find a non-drinker at parties but it does happen commonly enough to make it worth the stay. Easy opportunity to meet a friend there too with something quite significant, at least in terms of Uni, in common so

    I have this weird view in my head of there being fitnah around every corner you turn and pressure from the people in your halls to "socialise" when there is alcohol and music every time.

    No pressure tbh. Is true that all people do at Unis for fun is drink, it's trashy as ****. But, I guess Unis are at fault for offering very very few alternatives to it. You'll find most societies are just guises for getting smashed every weekend. Idk, some like that s fair enough. But there's no pressure, I don't drink and never once was forced to. In fact, is the opposite, people are welcoming all the same and will probably say "ohh, xyz also doesn't drink" and you might make a friend that way. The image you have in your head is retarded though lmao, nobody goes round in groups and assaults other students with cans of Carling :rofl:

    Would you say that it's easy to just mind your own business and study or is it really distracting with all the temptations around? If you had to give some important advice for a muslim going to uni, what advice would you give?

    Minding your own business and studying will lead to you leaving Uni with a frightening lack of social skills or ability to deal with other people. You can't pick and choose, it's better to face these "challenges" head on and at least attempt to deal with people's personalities. Tbh, it seems you define people by what makes them non-Muslim, not what makes them a good/bad person. It's quite an uncomfortable, discriminatory view. But, if you want to ostracise yourself the library is usually 24/7. So..:erm:

    My dad is already freaking out about me going because he thinks it's going to be like a brothel... he said students don't always go out and they have parties inside most of the time

    Your dad is wonderfully retarded.

    Non Muslims, would you be bothered if a practising Muslim was in your hall? Someone who wears the hijab, prays, fasts etc?

    Nobody cares, genuinely. As long as you're not shoving it in people's faces or being discriminating, they won't care. You will actually face more issues with shunning non-Muslims tbh. Every Uni has facilities for religion and every Uni will have an ISOC of varying size, make use of it.

    Hope that helped.
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    You don't need to drink. You don't need to go to parties. You don't need to eat pork. You can be a good Muslim at university without doing any of these things.
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    (Original post by lulucoco98)
    That's not fair r u both going to live in poverty because your ignorant husband is insecure
    Obviously if the husband cannot provide by himself the his wife can work too... It's exactly the same for most families.
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    (Original post by AishaGirl)
    I play csgo and overwatch, do you play these games?
    Are you sure these aren't haram?

    Image Makers will be punished on the Day of Judgement
    Narrated Abdullaah ibn 'Umar (d.73H) radiallaahu 'anhu: Allaah's
    Messenger sallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam said, "Those who make these
    images (suwar) will be punished on the Day of Resurrection, and it
    will be said to them, make alive what you have created." (Al-Bukhaaree
    7/541, no.835; Muslim, 3/160, no.,5268)

    Al-Haafidh Ibn Hajar (d.852H) says, "It is a command to do that which
    one is unable to do. From it we get a description of how the
    punishment of the image-maker will be. He will be ordered to breathe
    the soul into the image which he has made and he will not be able to
    do so. As a result his punishment will continue (UNCEASINGLY)." (Fath
    ul-Baaree, 10/398).
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    (Original post by astutehirstute)
    Are you sure these aren't haram?

    Image Makers will be punished on the Day of Judgement
    Narrated Abdullaah ibn 'Umar (d.73H) radiallaahu 'anhu: Allaah's
    Messenger sallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam said, "Those who make these
    images (suwar) will be punished on the Day of Resurrection, and it
    will be said to them, make alive what you have created." (Al-Bukhaaree
    7/541, no.835; Muslim, 3/160, no.,5268)

    Al-Haafidh Ibn Hajar (d.852H) says, "It is a command to do that which
    one is unable to do. From it we get a description of how the
    punishment of the image-maker will be. He will be ordered to breathe
    the soul into the image which he has made and he will not be able to
    do so. As a result his punishment will continue (UNCEASINGLY)." (Fath
    ul-Baaree, 10/398).
    This is referring to drawings of people or sculptures of people. A video game is no different to sponge bob or the simpsons. Thanks for looking about for my best interest but I think I've got it covered.
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    (Original post by AishaGirl)
    Salams.

    Muslims who are currently at uni or who have been at uni, what is your honest review / opinion of the lifestyle there? Did you find it very difficult to avoid haram situations?

    I have this weird view in my head of there being fitnah around every corner you turn and pressure from the people in your halls to "socialise" when there is alcohol and music every time.

    Would you say that it's easy to just mind your own business and study or is it really distracting with all the temptations around? If you had to give some important advice for a muslim going to uni, what advice would you give?

    My dad is already freaking out about me going because he thinks it's going to be like a brothel... he said students don't always go out and they have parties inside most of the time.

    Non Muslims, would you be bothered if a practising Muslim was in your hall? Someone who wears the hijab, prays, fasts etc?
    w/salaam

    My advice would be avoid student accomodation (at least from 2nd year onwards) as it gets really irritating with drunken people in halls, constant fire alarms, and people blaring music / smoking dodgy stuff whilst your trying to sleep.

    it can be easy to mind your business at uni tbh. you can integrate with other people in places like libraries, societies (avoid sports socs as most involve drinking games) and lectures / common rooms.

    I never used to go out and never went to a party during my 4 years at uni, yet ended up running multiple societies, was surprisingly popular amongst healthcare students, social care students, engineering students, comsci students, prettymuch all science based, despite not being very social (I have social anxiety disorder and was overcoming PTSD all by myself whilst at uni).

    at the end of the day, dont feel pressurised by other people and be yourself. a lot of people feel the need to completely change themselves but Id say be the true you: the one who can be who they wanted to be in school but couldnt to whatever reasons
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    (Original post by AishaGirl)
    Obviously if the husband cannot provide by himself the his wife can work too... It's exactly the same for most families.
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    (Original post by AishaGirl)
    No it's not haram but it's risky as when they put their bacon in the fridge it may touch my food.
    depends on how things work but folks tend to have their own shelf, if there are too many for that you could always have a plastic food container/small storage box in the fridge with your things in so bacon/ham can't touch it, though obviously people aren't going to be sticking meat exposed, it'll be in its own packets anyway.

    You can of course get a mini fridge just be aware to make sure it's actually a fridge and not just a cooler/chiller since the latter won';t be cold enough to safetly store meat, milk etc.
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    I can't say my experience will directly advise you as I am agnostic. However, I moved to a big university city in June (there are 5 separate universities here), I'm of student age, though not yet a university student myself. Most of my friends are university students. I don't drink and I don't have a lot of money to eat out a lot of the time. I'm pretty introverted. I met my best friend on a Facebook group. She's quiet and hardworking like me and so she keeps nice company, and through her I have become friends with her friends. I've also introduced her to people I've met along the way. We go to free events, public lectures, student music recitals, and cheap movies when they're on, etc. We go on walks and jogging together. We study together in the library (I'm at college). They live in student accommodation, I live in a flat, so even though I live 'alone' I don't really feel lonely because I have made friends and they're only ever a WhatsApp away. Sometimes they come over to my place & we eat pizza and watch TV/Netflix.

    What I'm trying to say is, maybe avoid living in halls, and otherwise, be true to yourself, you will be guided towards people who share your interests.

    Hope this helps xx
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    The truth is that universities are not multicultural melting pots but are patchwork quilts. Although students of different countries of origin and religion study together they don't socialise together all that well with most of them gravitating towards people of their own types apart from people in societies that they are members of. Student life for Muslims often revolves around I-SOC although Muslims are usually the largest distinguishable group of people to associate with town folk.

    I once met a Muslim home student who started at the University of Bath but transferred to Leeds in the second year. His reason was the limited number of other Muslim home students at the University of Bath and only a small Muslim community in the city. He wanted to live close to a larger Muslim community.
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    (Original post by Arran90)
    The truth is that universities are not multicultural melting pots but are patchwork quilts. Although students of different countries of origin and religion study together they don't socialise together all that well with most of them gravitating towards people of their own types apart from people in societies that they are members of. Student life for Muslims often revolves around I-SOC although Muslims are usually the largest distinguishable group of people to associate with town folk.

    I once met a Muslim home student who started at the University of Bath but transferred to Leeds in the second year. His reason was the limited number of other Muslim home students at the University of Bath and only a small Muslim community in the city. He wanted to live close to a larger Muslim community.
    I think they should open a couple of muslim only universities and anyone who is uncomfortable with the lifestyle of the non believers in universities, should be directed to take up their courses in that uni. Problem solved for both parties
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    (Original post by AishaGirl)
    This is not a rule within Islam, yes it is the husband obligation to provide for his wife and children but women are also permitted to work.

    Also Muslim men really dislike it when their wife earns more than they do
    'dislike it when their wife earns more than they do' Isn't marriage about pushing forward one another and wanting the best for one another? If my wife was earning more than me I wouldn't necessarily care.Its not a competition,it's a partnership.
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    My now ex husband absolutely hated it when I was earning more than him (3 times more). Thought it was a slight on his masculinity and manhood.

    We're not Muslim so it can happen in any walk of life.
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    (Original post by sam1793)
    'dislike it when their wife earns more than they do' Isn't marriage about pushing forward one another and wanting the best for one another? If my wife was earning more than me I wouldn't necessarily care.Its not a competition,it's a partnership.
    As I just told you in Islam it's the husbands job to provide and if he is not the main source of provision it can be a bit on him. Imagine your parents did not earn much and your uncle was the main provider of for you, don't you think your parents would feel a bit awkward?
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    (Original post by AishaGirl)
    As I just told you in Islam it's the husbands job to provide and if he is not the main source of provision it can be a bit on him. Imagine your parents did not earn much and your uncle was the main provider of for you, don't you think your parents would feel a bit awkward?
    This comparison makes no sense.
 
 
 
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