I've been flagged by my college as a potential for Oxford and I was really keen about it at first and it quickly became one of my big goals. I did lots of research and got very excited, but now I'm starting to think that it isn't for me.
I've been told by a lot of people that those at Oxford are not very accepting people and this is really important to me (I'm a bi trans man and I've been informed by some people that the hostility will chase me out). I've also heard nightmares about pastoral care and mental health stuff (not a huge issue to me but still a small concern) as well as the general atmosphere being very negative and high stress.
Is this true? Should I try anyway? I feel like I'll be sad if I don't try, but I really don't want to get an offer and then regret going or fall short of entry requirements or miss out on an unconditional. (Note that my aims for a level range from A*AA to ABB depending on how confident I feel, and my prospective course is History, regardless of where I choose to apply)
... and the ones that won't