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    Hi there, my first post on here.

    Anyway me & my girlfriend of 3 years broke up 3 or 4 months back (her choice).

    Now I'd been with a few girls before her but never in a serious relationship and she was the only girl I've loved.

    I was pretty upset for a few weeks but have dealt with it pretty well and have been back to myself and enjoying life for the past two months.

    Only thing is not a day goes by where I don't think of her or get memories pop up in my head, this happens quite a lot throughout the day. I don't really miss her anymore and don't want to be back with her but why can't I forget her? Will it take a long time? Or until I meet someone else. Has anyone else had the same where they just can't stop thinking about an ex?
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    I don't really miss her anymore and don't want to be back with her but why can't I forget her?
    She'll never be completely out of your mind because she was the first person you ever fell in love with. Even when you're completely over them, you'll always find yourself thinking about the first love once in a while. We're only humans.

    Will it take a long time? Or until I meet someone else.
    You'll detach yourself more and more from her memory, especially when you experience another love. And you will fall in love again, but of course it won't be the same, doesn't mean it won't be as great or even better though.

    Has anyone else had the same where they just can't stop thinking about an ex?
    When you're out of a relationship, it feels like you lost parts of yourself because you offered that person an insight into your soul, your dreams, your life. Your partner was also an important aspect of your routine so it's difficult to adapt and just forget about them once you're single.

    You can't simply throw away 3 years of your life, they meant a lot to you and you went through a lot together. Give yourself some time.
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    Yes you will, definitely. What seems massive now really won't matter in the future
 
 
 
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