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    (Original post by claireestelle)
    the uk benefits are a bit different
    Point taken, but it's not like marriage is a tradition solely associated with the UK, so even if these benefits don't apply to us in particular it's something to think about.
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    (Original post by prazzyjazzy)
    Point taken, but it's not like marriage is a tradition solely associated with the UK, so even if these benefits don't apply to us in particular it's something to think about.
    Oh i don't disagree, that's there's many benefits to be considered compared to solely cohabiting. The only thing I've been able to do legally without us being married is having my fiance as my beneficiary on my life insurance policy, the rest could be contested without us being married i think.
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    (Original post by MagicNMedicine)
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    Definitely this!


    I hate how not wanting to get married is seen as 'abnormal' and the pressure from society is constantly there. Why should I even have to give reasons why I don't want to get married. Surely it should be as normal as someone saying they do want to get married. If someone decides they don't want marriage or children people instantly assume there's something wrong with you and you get the whole: 'oh I was the same till I met my husband/wife'. **** you humans. **** you society.


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    ON the whole social pressure of relationships this guardian article seems relevant if a somewhat depressing read.


    It's the breaking of a taboo’: the parents who regret having children

    https://www.theguardian.com/lifeands...aving-children
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    (Original post by ChaoticButterfly)
    Libertarian socialist. Equal distribution of power and the view that marriage is a result of inequality and is patriarchal. Workers owning the means of production does not mean I have to support witch hunts for minority relationships groups.

    I believe Thatcher was big on social conservatism and was not a free love advocate :rolleyes:

    Thatcher wasn't a real libertarian basically.
    Lighten up. :hand: I was merely drawing on the similarity between what you said about society and what Thatcher said - 'twasn't an attack on your politics. :eviltongue:
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    (Original post by Hydeman)
    Lighten up. :hand: I was merely drawing on the similarity between what you said about society and what Thatcher said - 'twasn't an attack on your politics. :eviltongue:
    I don't mind

    Socialism needs to shake off it's authoritarian image. It needs to become the libertarian option again.
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    (Original post by claireestelle)
    Oh i don't disagree, that's there's many benefits to be considered compared to solely cohabiting. The only thing I've been able to do legally without us being married is having my fiance as my beneficiary on my life insurance policy, the rest could be contested without us being married i think.
    Ah, I see. When my parents got married they didn't really think about the benefits, but now that they're in the process of divorce there's a lot that they might lose. More so because my mum isn't a British passport holder/my did isn't an Indonesian citizen, so once they divorce they have to start thinking about Visas.
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    (Original post by prazzyjazzy)
    Ah, I see. When my parents got married they didn't really think about the benefits, but now that they're in the process of divorce there's a lot that they might lose. More so because my mum isn't a British passport holder/my did isn't an Indonesian citizen, so once they divorce they have to start thinking about Visas.
    There is a lot to lose by not being married, visas must be very stressful to deal with . It's a long story but as my parents divorced then got back together, then he died without a will so i got every penny, if they'd have remarried i wouldn't have had to pay our bills as a kid for a time .
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    (Original post by claireestelle)
    There is a lot to lose by not being married, visas must be very stressful to deal with . It's a long story but as my parents divorced then got back together, then he died without a will so i got every penny, if they'd have remarried i wouldn't have had to pay our bills as a kid for a time .
    Aw that's rough... My grandpa died when my mum was young and my grandma had a hard enough time paying back his debts, so I can't imagine the pressure you were under.
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    (Original post by prazzyjazzy)
    Aw that's rough... My grandpa died when my mum was young and my grandma had a hard enough time paying back his debts, so I can't imagine the pressure you were under.
    it wasn't great, we had an income from mums student loan but having to make those kinds of decisions at 9 is not a situation i'd want my kids or fiance to be in hence the life insurance and our will and poa's being sorted as soon as we're married.
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    Marriage is dying what are you on about
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    (Original post by claireestelle)
    it wasn't great, we had an income from mums student loan but having to make those kinds of decisions at 9 is not a situation i'd want my kids or fiance to be in hence the life insurance and our will and poa's being sorted as soon as we're married.
    That's good then, and fiance? Dawwww
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    Divorce rate is 42% and is at a 40 year low. its been falling for the last 13 years. Divorce rate isnt everything though and its much better people do so than stay n unhappy marriages imo.
    Its still the most stable form of family unit, so yes it is very important.
    Lol so you actually just confirmed my point like ten fold. Thank you :lol:

    a) if divorce rate is 42% now and that's lowest its been in 40 years, then can only imagine how stratospherically high it has been in previous years. All the more reason to not get married.

    a) if divorce rate is 42% now and that's lowest its been in 40 years, then that means for at least past 40 years marriage has been a sh*tty deal where c.50% of the people who go into it end up regretting it. All the more reason to not get married.
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    (Original post by Black Hand Path)
    Lol so you actually just confirmed my point like ten fold. Thank you :lol:

    a) if divorce rate is 42% now and that's lowest its been in 40 years, then can only imagine how stratospherically high it has been in previous years. All the more reason to not get married.

    a) if divorce rate is 42% now and that's lowest its been in 40 years, then that means for at least past 40 years marriage has been a sh*tty deal where c.50% of the people who go into it end up regretting it. All the more reason to not get married.
    Theres a big difference between your claim of 50% and the actual rate. The point was it is falling.

    Not really its still the most stable method in which to raise kids and a successful choice for the majority of people who choose to get married (if you choose to equate longevity with success).
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    (Original post by prazzyjazzy)
    That's good then, and fiance? Dawwww
    Yes,our weddings in October
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    The wedding I'm guessing

    Good way to have a special day of your own, all the focus on you, everyone watching what you're wearing, who you're marrying etc

    all them presents, the honeymoon... heck the future doesn't even come into, more people care more about the wedding than their own marriage lol
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    (Original post by claireestelle)
    Yes,our weddings in October
    Congrats <3 I send all my best wishes
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    I got called "a disgusting person" yesterday for saying marriage was a terrible idea. :erm:
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    (Original post by Roxy1331)
    It's just tradition really. You get be called husband and wife. Nothing more.

    That being said, I would very much want marriage.
    It also entitles you to get your husband/wife's work pension if they die.
    Entitles you to be next of kin
    Entitles you to a joint bank account and tax breaks
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    (Original post by cbreef)
    I got called "a disgusting person" yesterday for saying marriage was a terrible idea. :erm:
    lmao

    I'll go out of my way to assume it was a woman.
 
 
 
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