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    I have been suffering from major anxiety for two years now. The type of Anxiety I have is social anxiety. I stress alot and feel as if something bad is going to happen. When I am in public or social situations people tend to stare at me and I cant stand it. I feel very nervous and when I want to speak to someone my starts thudding quite hard and get scared of speaking to that person. I fear that if I speak to them they will be rude and brush me off.
    Please give me advice regarding my anxiety
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    (Original post by aspire.1a)
    I have been suffering from major anxiety for two years now. The type of Anxiety I have is social anxiety. I stress alot and feel as if something bad is going to happen. When I am in public or social situations people tend to stare at me and I cant stand it. I feel very nervous and when I want to speak to someone my starts thudding quite hard and get scared of speaking to that person. I fear that if I speak to them they will be rude and brush me off.
    Please give me advice regarding my anxiety
    Hi there! Have you seen a doctor about this? If not, I would really recommend seeing your GP who may refer you to someone who can help, or even help you themselves. You could find therapy really helpful, or counselling. You might also find posting in Mental Health really helpful. It's a really supportive section of this website
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    Hey I totally get your situation, people never understand why I get so nervous and they think I'm paranoid when I feel like people are staring at me or if I feel like people are silently judging me. But it's just anxiety and it's hard to explain to people who don't understand. I can't even make phone calls without rehearsing everything I might have to say and even then sometimes I just don't call. And socially I am a mess- not on the outside as much, but inside my heart pounds, I start overthinking about what people might think of me, and when I make conversation I find myself drifting off or speaking really fast just to get it over with, because I don't like speaking for too long- cause then people look at you and you find yourself getting nervous and I tend to stutter or get my words mixed up cause of the damn anxiety thing!

    My advice is maybe start by going to the GP if you haven't already? It took me way too long to get help, years in fact, and I suffered in silence with this anxious horrible feeling. I know it's hard to seek help about anxiety... because you can be too anxious to go in the first place! But try to think to yourself that it's the first step to getting help. It's a necessary step, in order to hopefully be treated and therefore reduce your anxiety. The doctor might prescribe you medication or refer you to a specialist/counselling services. I am on medication for my anxiety and although it takes a while to kick in, it does work. It doesn't cure you, and it wont get to the underlying issues, but it does boost the chemicals in your brain that controls how you react or feel in certain situations, so it might help reduce your anxiety. It's a trial and error thing, you might be put on one that does nothing, so they might switch you, or change your dosage, and the side effects at first can be off-putting, but I do recommend taking them if nothing else seems to be helping.

    If you have the opportunity to speak to somebody I'd say do it. If it's purely brain chemicals that is making you feel anxious, meds with help, but for a lot of people it's due to things in the past. For me it was years of relentless bullying, and the feeling of insecurity. I hate my weight, the way I look, etc, which makes me feel more anxious about meeting new people- cause I feel maybe I am being judged. So if there's any reason for your anxiety other than just a random lack of chemical in your brain, talking to somebody to get to the bottom of it is definitely the best thing to do. Back at school I had a counselor, but then my anxiety got worse and I can't even find the courage to see one now even though my doc suggested it. My advice would be if your doc suggests it, just say yes straight away. Don't think too much, or you'll talk yourself out of it. And that way you'll end up like me, completely trapped between needing help but being unable to ask for it!

    I hope that helps, you've been suffering a long time you deserve some calm in your life
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    I understand. The way i find to try to overcome this is to sort of force myself out of my comfort zone.
    Not saying this is easy but it is better than trying to accommodate your anxiety as that makes it worse in the long term.
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    Hey I totally get your situation, people never understand why I get so nervous and they think I'm paranoid when I feel like people are staring at me or if I feel like people are silently judging me. But it's just anxiety and it's hard to explain to people who don't understand. I can't even make phone calls without rehearsing everything I might have to say and even then sometimes I just don't call. And socially I am a mess- not on the outside as much, but inside my heart pounds, I start overthinking about what people might think of me, and when I make conversation I find myself drifting off or speaking really fast just to get it over with, because I don't like speaking for too long- cause then people look at you and you find yourself getting nervous and I tend to stutter or get my words mixed up cause of the damn anxiety thing!

    My advice is maybe start by going to the GP if you haven't already? It took me way too long to get help, years in fact, and I suffered in silence with this anxious horrible feeling. I know it's hard to seek help about anxiety... because you can be too anxious to go in the first place! But try to think to yourself that it's the first step to getting help. It's a necessary step, in order to hopefully be treated and therefore reduce your anxiety. The doctor might prescribe you medication or refer you to a specialist/counselling services. I am on medication for my anxiety and although it takes a while to kick in, it does work. It doesn't cure you, and it wont get to the underlying issues, but it does boost the chemicals in your brain that controls how you react or feel in certain situations, so it might help reduce your anxiety. It's a trial and error thing, you might be put on one that does nothing, so they might switch you, or change your dosage, and the side effects at first can be off-putting, but I do recommend taking them if nothing else seems to be helping.

    If you have the opportunity to speak to somebody I'd say do it. If it's purely brain chemicals that is making you feel anxious, meds with help, but for a lot of people it's due to things in the past. For me it was years of relentless bullying, and the feeling of insecurity. I hate my weight, the way I look, etc, which makes me feel more anxious about meeting new people- cause I feel maybe I am being judged. So if there's any reason for your anxiety other than just a random lack of chemical in your brain, talking to somebody to get to the bottom of it is definitely the best thing to do. Back at school I had a counselor, but then my anxiety got worse and I can't even find the courage to see one now even though my doc suggested it. My advice would be if your doc suggests it, just say yes straight away. Don't think too much, or you'll talk yourself out of it. And that way you'll end up like me, completely trapped between needing help but being unable to ask for it!

    I hope that helps, you've been suffering a long time you deserve some calm in your life


    OMG thank you sooo much!! Whenever I go outside people stare at me especially men!!! I hate it! As soon as they stare I suddenly get hot and feel sweaty. And then I dwell on it for the rest of the day! They make it worse!!!
    I am so relieved that you replied it's really nice to know that you understand. Sometimes simply talking about it helps me alot. Im only 16 and every other kid my age seems to be relaxing having fun and taking it easy whereas I am constantly stressing I just feel like crying but I cant
 
 
 
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