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    Just curious how people manage the spending in their relationships with their BF/GFs. Like when you go out for dinner, drinks, other stuff etc how do you decide who pays?

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    a) what your approach is, e.g. "we always go 50/50", "we alternate", etc;
    b) and how much you earn relative to your partner, e.g. "I make about 1.5x as much as my bf", etc

    I know most of you are students here, so for b) just your gauge of how rich you & your family are relative to your partner and their family will do

    We club all our disposable money together at the end of every month when all the bills have been paid and use that for money on dates, takeaways, days out etc. So we both pay towards everything.

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    My boyfriend and I kind of take it it turns on who pays for food out, takeaways, food shopping etc, I'm only on minimum wage though so he understands that I can't afford to spend as much as he can
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    He pays for everything, I just buy my own stuff that I need (although he will still give me money if I ask). I told him this upfront when we started dating, I said I want you to pay for everything and he said whatever you want baby. When they are thirsty af they'll do whatever you ask

    a) We alternate based on who paid last with a vague idea of who has paid what to keep things somewhat 50/50. It doesn't matter too much if I end up paying more or less so long as one person isn't free-riding off the other.

    b) I am a student and my girlfriend has a well paid job. I make it clear what I can and can't afford and we go from there. If she wants to do something extravagant and I cannot afford it then she can pay, and likewise for me.
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