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Fancying old men??

Er, so this is going to sound pretty stupid but..... I'm 21, never had a boyfriend or whatever. The thing is, I just don't fancy people my own age! I mean, I find plenty of people attractive to look at, but the thought of *doing* anything with them just grosses me out....
I have noticed however, I do find older men attractive.... not just 30+ either, like even people who are older with grey hair etc but still look good for their age.... :confused:

..Is this normal, or am I just a freak? lol

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Reply 1

Anonymous #2

this does not sound normal

Reply 2

devils_nose

you are not a freak.. some older men look after themselves very well and I look twice too!! Also some people just go for the older man - that is their type.. nothing wrong with that at all but just be wary that older men are more likely to have baggage (ie. maybe kids closer to your own age)

All in all, sounds like they float your boat so there is nothing wrong with that at all :smile:

Reply 3

warrior-1

your weird lol

Reply 4

Lucy_88

Anonymous

this does not sound normal

Yes i think it's normal. You are probably attracted to the maturity and experience. Also, older men seem to act more like gentlemen and are probably better off than younger men so maybe you are attracted to the security?
Oh and older men are more likely to be ready to settle down and therefore less likely to be promiscuous.
Or i could be talking a load of bull :p:

Reply 5

Kater Murr

I am exactly the same.

See sig, lol.

Oh, but I am attracted to the odd 30 something year old. Like Derren Brown. The rest of them are about 50+ :biggrin:

Reply 6

Mischievous Mj

It all comes down to personal taste and preference. Personally, I used to refuse to date women who weren't at least 5 years older than me as I found them (older women) to be more mature, and infinitely more educated in bedroom matters.
Perhaps it is because I'm no longer 19-21 and thinking with my trousers all the time, perhaps it is something else, but I'm no longer ageist in the slightest.

To the OP, if anyone tries to tell you that you are weird or wrong for fancying older men, it's generally because they have insecurities of their own to deal with.
Do whatever makes you happy so long as it doesn't detract from the happiness of others, that's what I say!!!

Reply 7

Francophobia

I have a tendency to fancy older men too -- though in my case it's generally those between the ages of 30-50. :redface:

I agree about this preference being a question of their maturity, experience, and relative stability in comparison to younger guys. That's not weird at all; it's understandable.

Reply 8

Meep!

I don't think there's anything wrong with you! Some older guys just ARE attractive-unless you're thinking like, 60's... which is kinda gross.

Reply 9

sparkly_woo

You're not weird at all.

Many women (and i include myself in this.. :p:

) find themselves attracted to older men, maybe because they appear more mature and refined - compared to some of the lads you see around that are our age. :s-smilie:

..there are alot of men between the ages of 30-50 or so that are indeed very handsome...you have no reason to be ashamed. :biggrin:

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

Thanks for the replies guys, at least I know i'm not the only one who likes the more mature man :wink:

Reply 11

bipolar_clown

You sound like my friend. I don't have the same views but I don't see anything wrong with it.

Reply 12

Laursy

i like billybob thornton he is old,

so is bruce willis, and george clooney

am i werid? no you like who you like!!

Reply 13

k-lee C

it's not weird at all. in fact, there is a facebook group full of people who, like you, go for the golden oldies, the silver foxes, the sexy seniors. :biggrin:

some older men are just damn hot.

Reply 14

wilksjo

your not weird i think the older guys treat you better.
ive got 2 children to my partner and hes 34 im nearly 21. we are great together.

Reply 15

HereFishyFishy

Meh, I fancy older men too. Not if they look old and saggy, mind. But if they're older and 'phroar', I wouldn't kick them out of bed.

I also fancy people my own age. If they're good looking, I'll fancy them. I'll fancy anything. :tongue:

Reply 16

Anonymous #3

You sound exactly like me, but i'm 20.

I find older men much more attractive than I do guys my age as well :wink:

The older romantic gentlemanly-types in particular, ahhhh.

It's totally normal!!

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Reply 17

hannibalsgirl

There's nothing wrong with this - just as there are women who fancy younger men, there are women who fancy older men - my last boyfriend was 19 years older than me. However, it's all down to attitude and take on life. Some men can be young in their attitudes, but some older men can act years older. One big issue I would consider is the likelihood of giving you children. Many older men may well have been in long previous relationships, and may have grown up children, or have had several children already - which means they might have had a vasectomy, or may not wish to ever have more children. Women having relationships must consider this a possibility if they want children of their own - but equally, a man considering a relationship with a younger woman must consider that if she is childless, she may well want children in the immediate future - an option that must be realistically considered!!
Weigh up your options carefully.

Reply 18

so.simple

That is a bit weird.

I could understand 30+ and stuff, but 'greying hair' makes it seem a bit strange.

Reply 19

mariangel

i have seen a few silver foxes..george clooney as an example...

i know what you mean about older guys just not that old lol maybe between 28 and 40 as a max.

people are into different things.
i hate the term normal because everyone is different.
if you're both single adults and like each who gives fcuk about anything else, just do what you feel.