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    For me I'd want to raise them...

    Christian - I'm Christian
    To be outdoorsy, I really think childhood is ruined by technology.
    To try their best at everything they do.
    To be kind and compassionate.
    To make sure they are clean, happy and healthy.
    To be involved in the community and help others
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    (Original post by georgiapullmanxx)
    For me I'd want to raise them...

    Christian - I'm Christian
    To be outdoorsy, I really think childhood is ruined by technology.
    To try their best at everything they do.
    To be kind and compassionate.
    To make sure they are clean, happy and healthy.
    To be involved in the community and help others
    At age nine they will be sent to a boarding school in Switzerland to learn independence and discipline, they will receive a Calvinist upbringing valuing duty, responsibility, public service and alleviating suffering. They will write, and speak with the grace of Virgil in Latin, the madness of Goethe the German and the precision of an English lawyer.
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    (Original post by georgiapullmanxx)
    For me I'd want to raise them...

    Christian - I'm Christian
    To be outdoorsy, I really think childhood is ruined by technology.
    To try their best at everything they do.
    To be kind and compassionate.
    To make sure they are clean, happy and healthy.
    To be involved in the community and help others
    All the same points as you and Also try to teach them more than one language
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    I'd raise them with religious principles but wouldn't force a religion on them.
    I'd love mine to be outdoorsy too and would limit technology
    I'd like them to be fun and funny, never to take things seriously, know how to make others happy and always be kind/polite
    To speak to their parents about anything and everything on their mind
    Above being a dad, id love to be their friend, someone they can just mess around with, have fun and do silly things with.
    I wouldn't want them getting into relationships too early and would prefer they only had sex with someone they were fully committed to
    Never smoke, no drugs but I can't stop them having some beers with me when they're older.
    I'd push them into sports because it gives them confidence and discipline
    Take them to museums, make them read and study cool things
    Listen to meaningful music (anything but rap)
    Definitely want them to be part of their local community through charity and sports
    Always be honest and strive to be and do the best

    Above all and most importantly I'd want them to be happy which could mean making exceptions to my ideal lifestyle which is fine with me.
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    (Original post by queen-bee)
    All the same points as you and Also try to teach them more than one language
    Definitely! Languages are so important.
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    (Original post by zayn008)
    I'd raise them with religious principles but wouldn't force a religion on them.
    I'd love mine to be outdoorsy too and would limit technology
    I'd like them to be fun and funny, never to take things seriously, know how to make others happy and always be kind/polite
    To speak to their parents about anything and everything on their mind
    Above being a dad, id love to be their friend, someone they can just mess around with, have fun and do silly things with.
    I wouldn't want them getting into relationships too early and would prefer they only had sex with someone they were fully committed to
    Never smoke, no drugs but I can't stop them having some beers with me when they're older.
    I'd push them into sports because it gives them confidence and discipline
    Take them to museums, make them read and study cool things
    Listen to meaningful music (anything but rap)
    Definitely want them to be part of their local community through charity and sports
    Always be honest and strive to be and do the best

    Above all and most importantly I'd want them to be happy which could mean making exceptions to my ideal lifestyle which is fine with me.
    I definitely agree with your last one as well. I also believe that an ambition is really important in life.
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    Your children are not your children.
    They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
    They come through you but not from you,
    And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
    You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
    For they have their own thoughts.
    You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
    You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
    For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
    You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
    The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
    and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
    Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
    For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
    so He loves also the bow that is stable.


    ~ On Children, The Prophet(Khalil Gibran)
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    Some things off the top of my head
    1. To encourage them to think in a deep and logical manner.
    2. Teach them to be courteous to others and to
    3. Challenge information given to them but not to necessarily challenge others.
    4. To be multi-lingual. (I speak English, Chinese and Japanese, my girlfriend speaks Spanish and Catalan). Children have remarkable abilities to acquire language. I think language opens the doors to many opportunities in life. Also, knowing certain families of languages natively really helps them pickup similar languages in future life.
    5. To have a dream and to use the dream as motivation to make steps towards it
    6. To always be open minded and open to trying new things.
    7. Strive for continuous improvement.
    8. Teach them everything in life is a balance. Being on one side of an extreme, whether viewed as good or bad, is rarely a good thing.
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    I would want to raise them:
    1. With excellent manners and make sure they treat their teachers with respect.
    2. Knowing how to socialise instead of being in their phones 24/7.
    3. By encouraging them to make the right group of friends i.e. friends who are ambitious and want to get somewhere in life.
    4. Speaking English as well as my mother tongue language from an early age.
    5. To teach them how to respect and be kind towards others.
    6. By telling them that with hard work, their dreams and ambitions will come true.
    7. Knowing that I will always love them.
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    1. No religious education, making sure they don't adhere to a faith.
    2. Teach them the importance of education, reading, putting effort into school.
    3. Education must necessarily consist of Latin, Ancient Greek, Philosophy, History and include certain specific books, authors, philosophers.
    4. Private/public education, eventually boarding school, elite institution.
    5. Raise them as at least bilingual, making sure that at the age of 18 they know 3 strictly European languages: English, Italian and German or French (which correspond to the countries where the different sides of my family live and are also the most important culturally, that's not debatable).
    6. Encourage them to find their area of interest and pursue it, with the hope it's something I approve of (law, literature, philosophy, finance, history), ideal programme would be PPE.
    7. Focus on getting into a top unversity, would love Oxbridge, if not second preference is LSE and top US/European uni if we won't live in the U.K.
    8. Encourage them to be politically aware and informed on current affairs.
    9. Dress well since day 1.
    10. Not excessive focus on sports, but would make them try and learn a variety of ones that I approve of (certainly skiing and sailing, which matter not only as sports but are especially important for holidays, and then tennis, golf, not football or violent stuff) and chose their favourite to practice competitively.
    11. Live or spend periods/long holidays in different countries since they are children.
    12. Good manners, honesty, religious respect for friendships, elegance, style.
    13. Give them money since an early age to teach them financial wisdom on how to manage money, especially assets rather than income.
    14. Encourage them to pursue a decent and appropriate profession (not in sports, possibly not music or representative art related and not engineering). Obviously if they have a strong passion for one of these fields and are good at it, I would still be a proud parent.
    15. Would like to be friends. My father's friendly and at times immature behaviour encouraged me to become responsible, as he wanted.
    16. Spoil them. Generous allowance while at uni. Pay everything for them until they finish uni and get their desired job. I'd like them to take this for granted, but also have a sharp social conscience and understanding of the world outside their eventual bubble of privilege.
    17. Absolutely no "humble" work experience while at school/uni, only ECs and relevant internships.
    18. Teach, in every matter, an interest for form, but a zealous commitment to substance.

    I know I'm quite demanding, and as such I deeply fear they will disappoint me...
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    (Original post by usualsuspects)
    1. No religious education, making sure they don't adhere to a faith.
    2. Teach them the importance of education, reading, putting effort into school.
    3. Education must necessarily consist of Latin, Ancient Greek, Philosophy, History and include certain specific books, authors, philosophers.
    4. Private/public education, eventually boarding school, elite institution.
    5. Raise them as at least bilingual, making sure that at the age of 18 they know 3 strictly European languages: English, Italian and German or French (which correspond to the countries where the different sides of my family live and are also the most important culturally, that's not debatable).
    6. Encourage them to find their area of interest and pursue it, with the hope it's something I approve of (law, literature, philosophy, finance, history), ideal programme would be PPE.
    7. Focus on getting into a top unversity, would love Oxbridge, if not second preference is LSE and top US/European uni if we won't live in the U.K.
    8. Encourage them to be politically aware and informed on current affairs.
    9. Dress well since day 1.
    10. Not excessive focus on sports, but would make them try and learn a variety of ones that I approve of (certainly skiing and sailing, which matter not only as sports but are especially important for holidays, and then tennis, golf, not football or violent stuff) and chose their favourite to practice competitively.
    11. Live or spend periods/long holidays in different countries since they are children.
    12. Good manners, honesty, religious respect for friendships, elegance, style.
    13. Give them money since an early age to teach them financial wisdom on how to manage money, especially assets rather than income.
    14. Encourage them to pursue a decent and appropriate profession (not in sports, possibly not music or representative art related and not engineering). Obviously if they have a strong passion for one of these fields and are good at it, I would still be a proud parent.
    15. Would like to be friends. My father's friendly and at times immature behaviour encouraged me to become responsible, as he wanted.
    16. Spoil them. Generous allowance while at uni. Pay everything for them until they finish uni and get their desired job. I'd like them to take this for granted, but also have a sharp social conscience and understanding of the world outside their eventual bubble of privilege.
    17. Absolutely no "humble" work experience while at school/uni, only ECs and relevant internships.
    18. Teach, in every matter, an interest for form, but a zealous commitment to substance.

    I know I'm quite demanding, and as such I deeply fear they will disappoint me...
    Maybe you will disappoint them with the number of expectations you have.
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    Maybe you will disappoint them with the number of expectations you have.
    It's not like I expect them to become astronauts or cure cancer.
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    1) Be raised agnostic/atheist
    2) Would teach them to love animals/nature
    3) Raise them as outdoorsy and they're not touching a phone until they're 12/13
    4) Would prefer them to grow up vegetarian but if they wanted to eat meat as they grew older I'd be fine with that too. As long as they respected my choices
    5) I'd always tell them to question and criticise authority if there's a flaw in it.
    6) To be kind (but not to be doormats)
    7) To be bookworms.
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    raise them with the belt
 
 
 
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