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    Every single time we talk about marriage or kids or around that subject I notice him being a bit weird and giving short and unsure answers however most of the time it's not even me starting these conversations. I try not to get as deep but when I decide to fully engage in these topics he says "let's not get ahead of ourselves". What's going on in his head? Why starts a conversation if you're going to shut me down with that response?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Every single time we talk about marriage or kids or around that subject I notice him being a bit weird and giving short and unsure answers however most of the time it's not even me starting these conversations. I try not to get as deep but when I decide to fully engage in these topics he says "let's not get ahead of ourselves". What's going on in his head? Why starts a conversation if you're going to shut me down with that response?
    Have you been together a while? It seems strange he start those conversations but not actually want to talk about it properly
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    Maybe your boyfriend feels like he has a lot to deal with at the moment let alone marriage, kids etc. as you said. He prefers probably not to rush things straight and to "not get ahead of ourselves".
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    If your relationship with him hasn't been long enough then I'd understand why he's responding that way. If it is then he needs to stop. If you're getting into a relationship, not intending to start a family or get married then what's the point? If he doesn't believe in marriage or doesn't want kids then fair enough but you do. It just won't work I'm afraid
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    He wants to talk about those things but at the same make sure you don't get the impression he is super keen and wanting kids early (which turns off a lot of women). That's the most likely reason. He also may be worried you may get the wrong idea and start wanting kids etc (this is less likely in my opinion).

    He doesn't want to creep you out but at the same time wants to discuss those things in a non serious manner.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Every single time we talk about marriage or kids or around that subject I notice him being a bit weird and giving short and unsure answers however most of the time it's not even me starting these conversations. I try not to get as deep but when I decide to fully engage in these topics he says "let's not get ahead of ourselves". What's going on in his head? Why starts a conversation if you're going to shut me down with that response?
    How old? How long together?
    How seriously are you interested in marriage and when?
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    Every single time we talk about marriage or kids or around that subject I notice him being a bit weird and giving short and unsure answers however most of the time it's not even me starting these conversations. I try not to get as deep but when I decide to fully engage in these topics he says "let's not get ahead of ourselves". What's going on in his head? Why starts a conversation if you're going to shut me down with that response?
    how long u been dating?

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