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Hugging males in Islam watch

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    (Original post by ScarlettDangerfield)
    I work with a lot of Muslim men (German teacher working with mostly Syrian refugees) and am always surprised at how cuddly the guys are with each other, much more so than we usually see in western Europe. Clearly no-one's told them it's haram.
    because its not haram to hug someone of the same sex as you. that's why i was asking about it because i'm a girl and i was asking if it's haram to hug a guy, not another girl.
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    (Original post by HAnwar)
    It was narrated that Ma’qil ibn Yassaar said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him.”

    Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer, 486.

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    no offence but i'm muslim and i hate these extremist teachings. stabbed in the head with an iron needle? no wonder people always assume every muslim is ISIS
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    (Original post by HAnwar)
    It was narrated that Ma’qil ibn Yassaar said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him.”

    Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer, 486.

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    what if it is consensual? as it should always be...?
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    Why does it matter? Just do what comes naturally to you, if that includes celebrating your relationships with males, by means of platonic hugs, then go for it.

    However personally I hate skin on skin contact, I don't even like skin on clothing or clothing on clothing. It just makes me cringe lol
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    no offence but i'm muslim and i hate these extremist teachings. stabbed in the head with an iron needle? no wonder people always assume every muslim is ISIS
    Just before you call these teachings "extreme" just remember they're coming from the same man who wept for you on his death bed, and who will intercede for you on Yawm al-Qiyāmah.

    SubhanAllah may Allah guide the lost youth of today.

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    what if it is consensual? as it should always be...?
    It doesn't matter, the hadith doesn't say even if it's consensual or not.

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    no offence but i'm muslim and i hate these extremist teachings. stabbed in the head with an iron needle? no wonder people always assume every muslim is ISIS
    Exactly, I don't agree with it either
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    no offence but i'm muslim and i hate these extremist teachings. stabbed in the head with an iron needle? no wonder people always assume every muslim is ISIS
    I'm pretty sure it's a figure of speech dumbass. :toofunny:
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    I don't believe it's deep like that, not every man you see or are in contact with wants to lust after you vice versa. If that's the case you won't leave your house then. Your intentions are not lustful so why would you be punished or why would it be haram on your part?
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    most muslim guys have girlfriends nowadays but will still tell you than hugging is haram lol the irony
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    most muslim guys have girlfriends nowadays but will still tell you than hugging is haram lol the irony
    Haram is haram even if all Muslims do the opposite. Follow Islam not the Muslims.
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    somebody lock this thread, the question has been answered.
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    (Original post by HAnwar)
    Just before you call these teachings "extreme" just remember they're coming from the same man who wept for you on his death bed, and who will intercede for you on Yawm al-Qiyāmah.

    SubhanAllah may Allah guide the lost youth of today.



    It doesn't matter, the hadith doesn't say even if it's consensual or not.

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    please leave the anonymous thread starter. she does not have a good understanding of islam, and doesnt know that the hadith is not literal, but is a method of showing how bad and unacceptable it is to touch a non mehram woman. She is too obsessed with hugging other males. The question has been answered multiple times. the general answer is no, dont hug, whether its sexual or not. end of thread.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    How Haram is it? I have male friends whom I hug, however I do not date/kiss them. It is normal for me to hug them, I don't feel anything 'sexual.' To me it is like hugging my girl friends, as I consider all my male friends simply friends and they are too close to me for me to like them in a crush way.
    It's not gay as long as your balls don't touch.
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    You can hug anyone.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    How Haram is it? I have male friends whom I hug, however I do not date/kiss them. It is normal for me to hug them, I don't feel anything 'sexual.' To me it is like hugging my girl friends, as I consider all my male friends simply friends and they are too close to me for me to like them in a crush way.
    Same, it is fine I hug them, talk to them it does not matter.
    In my opinion anyway.
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    the student room, more like the religion room...ama right? ^^
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    (Original post by imnotbritish)
    please leave the anonymous thread starter. she does not have a good understanding of islam, and doesnt know that the hadith is not literal, but is a method of showing how bad and unacceptable it is to touch a non mehram woman. She is too obsessed with hugging other males. The question has been answered multiple times. the general answer is no, dont hug, whether its sexual or not. end of thread.
    who is to say a person does not have a good knowledge of Islam? she can hug them
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    He won't care if one of billions of people hugs someone of the opposite gender. Be at ease.


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    (Original post by MyFightSong)
    Men in my family are like that too sadly, one rule for the men another for the women

    I even have a cousin who got a girl pregnant outside of marriage, everyone just ignored the obvious and were desperate to see the baby. I was thinking to myself if my cousin was a girl she would either be dead or disowned by the family! SOooo much unfairness!
    yeah its things like that which really pisses me off...
 
 
 
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