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    It feels like talking to a wall most of the time. She replies with short sentences to topics that are open and interesting, she takes forever to reply and shows little enthusiasm. Furthermore, I start 90% of conversations and think of 90% of the topics we 'talk' about. Yet she worries when I stop messaging as frequently and thinks I am becoming distant.

    How do you tell someone they are dreadful at communicating; that they are boring to talk to? I do sometimes wonder if she is even interested, but in person she is perfectly happy and obviously in love with me.
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    It feels like talking to a wall most of the time. She replies with short sentences to topics that are open and interesting, she takes forever to reply and shows little enthusiasm. Furthermore, I start 90% of conversations and think of 90% of the topics we 'talk' about. Yet she worries when I stop messaging as frequently and thinks I am becoming distant.

    How do you tell someone they are dreadful at communicating; that they are boring to talk to? I do sometimes wonder if she is even interested, but in person she is perfectly happy and obviously in love with me.
    Normally you talk to them. explain what the issue is and maybe suggest or work out some ways to improve. Why not skype? Not everyone likes messaging.
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    Normally you talk to them. explain what the issue is and maybe suggest or work out some ways to improve. Why not skype? Not everyone likes messaging.
    She is too busy to call often (we do so about once a week) and she refuses to do video calls because she dislikes them for some bizarre reason.
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    What is she like in person?

    Some people aren't into texting, they would rather prefer to interact with people in real life, that's not something you can force your way through.
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    She is too busy to call often (we do so about once a week) and she refuses to do video calls because she dislikes them for some bizarre reason.
    Just talk to her and work out a solution. Perhaps she can make an effort, but if she isnt a natural and not comfy, then no point in forcing it. No worries if shes fine irl.
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    What is she like in person?

    Some people aren't into texting, they would rather prefer to interact with people in real life, that's not something you can force your way through.
    She's great in person. We only see each other once a fortnight on average though and I feel like I need to talk properly once every 2-3 days or I start to feel 'disconnected'.
    I want to sit down and talk through it properly. No one likes being told they're boring to talk to though.
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    She told me she wants to sit you down and tell you how boring your texting is, it's why she doesn't bother replying with interesting responses.
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    I won't lie I am awful at responding to texts. Although, what is she like when you are with them in person? If she is texting all the time, then I think yes there is problem. Otherwise she may just dislike responding through messenger apps/ texting.
 
 
 
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