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    Right, I'm asking for some advice on my friend's situation (she's 22) and to see if there's any hope for her. (This isn't my situation, I'm just trying to help her)

    She's dropped out of uni 3 times. Yes, 3 times.

    The first time was on a BA Primary Education course. She completed 1 year, and then suddenly decided she didn't want to be a teacher anymore, so she dropped out. A year later, she decided to try the *same course* again. Two months later, she realised that she'd made a mistake coming back and so decided to drop out yet again for the second time.

    Finally, a few months later, she got into a nursing course as that was something she'd been interested in for a while. All seemed to be going well, and then... 6 months later, she dropped out of uni for the THIRD TIME.

    So that leaves her today... utterly degreeless after all that time. Since September 2016, she's been mostly unemployed or doing temp work. She would like to return to university but she can't apply right now due to financial reasons (because Student Finance won't give her the funding I assume). Is there anything she can do to fix this mess?
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    First of alll.. why did she go back to the same course after dropping out of it once?
    Student Finance give you length of course +1 year...So just by doing the teaching course she's used two years of funding. I'm not sure if nursing comes out of SFE or a separate NHS pot of money. Either way she's got 1 or 2 years (depending if student finance funded the nursing degree or she got a maintenance loan) left. Student finance work backwards as well so they'd fund the third year for her.

    I think her best (and possibly only options here) are look at the Open University..that's usually cheaper..or look at part time
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    (Original post by Jackieox)
    First of alll.. why did she go back to the same course after dropping out of it once?
    I've asked her this and she just kind of shrugged her shoulders and said, "I just thought it would be different this time"...

    OU might be a good idea... Would Student Finance be able to fund her whole course though if she went? I don't think she'd be able to self-fund much of it.
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    (Original post by Barack Obama)
    I've asked her this and she just kind of shrugged her shoulders and said, "I just thought it would be different this time"...

    OU might be a good idea... Would Student Finance be able to fund her whole course though if she went? I don't think she'd be able to self-fund much of it.
    I don't think so. She's already borrowed money and blown it 3 times. It's not a good idea for her to keep borrowing money to study only to drop out.

    I don't think she clearly thought out what she wanted to do whether in uni or out of it. Her attitude as you stated in your comment says it all.

    I don't there's anything you can do for her. It's what she can do for herself... to stop messing around and really think about what she wants to do. Then apply herself to work for it.
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    (Original post by Barack Obama)
    Right, I'm asking for some advice on my friend's situation (she's 22) and to see if there's any hope for her. (This isn't my situation, I'm just trying to help her)

    She's dropped out of uni 3 times. Yes, 3 times.

    The first time was on a BA Primary Education course. She completed 1 year, and then suddenly decided she didn't want to be a teacher anymore, so she dropped out. A year later, she decided to try the *same course* again. Two months later, she realised that she'd made a mistake coming back and so decided to drop out yet again for the second time.

    Finally, a few months later, she got into a nursing course as that was something she'd been interested in for a while. All seemed to be going well, and then... 6 months later, she dropped out of uni for the THIRD TIME.

    So that leaves her today... utterly degreeless after all that time. Since September 2016, she's been mostly unemployed or doing temp work. She would like to return to university but she can't apply right now due to financial reasons (because Student Finance won't give her the funding I assume). Is there anything she can do to fix this mess?
    She doesnt sound like she knows what to do, so her efforts should go in that direction first. She should have taken advice earlier and she could have avoided this mess. She has a problem of poor decision making and not sticking with things which she needs to face up to.

    There is very limited sf left, unless she can get some discounted for compelling personal reasons. You dont say why she dropped out of nursing. You are looking for serious medical conditions or bereavement etc.

    If Uni is out, then her options are get a job, possibly go to college if she is still eligible for advanced learner loans or do an apprenticeship. She should use careers and find out what she wishes to do. Annoying because it could easily have been avoided if she had taken it seriously.
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    get a part time work and try bunch of different things to find out what she REALLY LIKE.
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    (Original post by Barack Obama)
    I've asked her this and she just kind of shrugged her shoulders and said, "I just thought it would be different this time"...

    OU might be a good idea... Would Student Finance be able to fund her whole course though if she went? I don't think she'd be able to self-fund much of it.
    How did she get on another teaching course after dropping out of one?

    She'll either need to save up or do an OU course alongside working. Of course, this is AFTER she's worked out what she wants to do.
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    (Original post by Muttley79)
    How did she get on another teaching course after dropping out of one?
    No idea. For some reason they let her in again twice (it's been the same university she's dropped out of every time)...

    I honestly don't know what she can do right now except get a low paying job. I doubt she'll ever be able to go to university again even if she wanted to.
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    It really doesn't sound like it's for her. Once is fine - we all make mistakes. Twice - bit worrying, but maybe understandable. But three times..

    She needs to consider her other, non-university options, I think. There's plenty of them - uni isn't the be all and end all.
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    She needs to find a career direction to go in which doesn't involve university now and start working and demonstrating that she can do something without giving up.
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    I've dropped out of a brick uni once and OU once. Both for different reasons. Kinda decided after that maybe uni wasn't for me.

    Your friend has dropped out 3 times. To me, it doesn't sound like uni is for her. She does need to think about what she really wants to do.
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    And here we have an example of what happens when you tell kids they won't amount to anything if they don't go to university. Your mate would probably have more to her name if she hadn't gone.

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    (Original post by Moonstruck16)
    And here we have an example of what happens when you tell kids they won't amount to anything if they don't go to university. Your mate would probably have more to her name if she hadn't gone.

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    How do you know? They just sound like an indecisive person who fails to do any research or wont stick things out. We also dont have the detail of why they really left.
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    How do you know? They just sound like an indecisive person who fails to do any research or wont stick things out. We also dont have the detail of why they really left.
    Yeah we don't know anything but if she was told as a kid to go to university or else, it's not surprise she's indecisive. No research, no will to stick things out. Sonds about right.

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    (Original post by Moonstruck16)
    Yeah we don't know anything but if she was told as a kid to go to university or else, it's not surprise she's indecisive. No research, no will to stick things out. Sonds about right.

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    You just made a claim she was, but there is no evidence to say that was the case.
 
 
 
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