Hate Valentine's Day
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Original post by Devify
So should father's day and mother's day both be removed too. Cause some people may not have one of their parents anymore so why can't everyone else do it privately instead of rubbing it in?
This!
I find father's day really difficult for this reason but also appreciate that others have nice times with their dads, that's a lot harder for me than Valentine's would be if I was single. I don't think there is anything wrong with either!
I'm not a fan because I'm bitter, but I don't think others should miss out and hide away from everyone else if they want to celebrate it. That'd be like cancelling Christmas for everyone because some people don't celebrate it. They don't have to, but allow the people that do to enjoy it
Original post by chelseadagg3r
I'm not a fan because I'm bitter, but I don't think others should miss out and hide away from everyone else if they want to celebrate it. That'd be like cancelling Christmas for everyone because some people don't celebrate it. They don't have to, but allow the people that do to enjoy it
Bitter? In what way? Towards the day? You never seem bitter
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Original post by BurstingBubbles
I wouldn't say I'm really genuinely bitter, I just kind of make jokes about being bitter with my friends if that makes sense
In all it's just a normal day for me, with the added bonus of hilarious punny valentines cards that my friend, Grace, and I send to each other in bulk 
Original post by Anonymous
Don't know if this has already been mentioned, but you get a free sub when you get a large drink at subway and pornhub premium is free on valentines day, thank me later.
Not too fond of subway, thanks though.
Original post by sherlockfan
Yes it does lol, what else can it mean.
I've not drunk alcohol in 5 years and yet, I attended the pub quiz every Sunday for 2 years. I even gave up fizzy drinks, so I was on the water!
Why do you make such a wide assumption on what everyone does in the pub?
I'd say that valentines is below that of Christmas and Halloween for 'in your face' stuff. What about the Football and Rugby World Cups, do they bother you?
What is it about people celebrating being in a relationship that you don't like? You say you're celibate and quite happy, so what's the big deal? A lot of single people 'complain' about Valentine's day, but generally that is just good natured ranting, as opposed to genuine annoyance.
Original post by _Sinnie_
I've not drunk alcohol in 5 years and yet, I attended the pub quiz every Sunday for 2 years. I even gave up fizzy drinks, so I was on the water!
Why do you make such a wide assumption on what everyone does in the pub?
I'd say that valentines is below that of Christmas and Halloween for 'in your face' stuff. What about the Football and Rugby World Cups, do they bother you?
What is it about people celebrating being in a relationship that you don't like? You say you're celibate and quite happy, so what's the big deal? A lot of single people 'complain' about Valentine's day, but generally that is just good natured ranting, as opposed to genuine annoyance.
Why do you make such a wide assumption on what everyone does in the pub?
I'd say that valentines is below that of Christmas and Halloween for 'in your face' stuff. What about the Football and Rugby World Cups, do they bother you?
What is it about people celebrating being in a relationship that you don't like? You say you're celibate and quite happy, so what's the big deal? A lot of single people 'complain' about Valentine's day, but generally that is just good natured ranting, as opposed to genuine annoyance.
Its a pretty valid assumption. Pubs are places where people drink. If you don't thats fine but youre the exception.
(edited 7 years ago)
Original post by Ragedarling
Is this seriously what people talk about on this site? Rant to your friends or rant on YouTube. Stop being such a spoil sport 😂
any reason we can't talk about it on here?
Original post by sherlockfan
Its a pretty valid assumption. Pubs are places where people drink. If you don't thats fine but youre the exexception.
Ahh, well, but your assumption was that the suggestion of going to the pub was to drown your sorrows and dismissed the counter argument by saying that are no other ways to interpret 'going to the pub' - which is not a valid assumption.
But this is off topic.
My actual question was:
"I'd say that valentines is below that of Christmas and Halloween for 'in your face' stuff. What about the Football and Rugby World Cups, do they bother you?
What is it about people celebrating being in a relationship that you don't like? You say you're celibate and quite happy, so what's the big deal? A lot of single people 'complain' about Valentine's day, but generally that is just good natured ranting, as opposed to genuine annoyance."
Original post by sunshine774
Any particular reason why you hate it?x
Because he/she (delete as appropriate) doesn't have a partner, duh!
Original post by _Sinnie_
Ahh, well, but your assumption was that the suggestion of going to the pub was to drown your sorrows and dismissed the counter argument by saying that are no other ways to interpret 'going to the pub' - which is not a valid assumption.
But this is off topic.
My actual question was:
"I'd say that valentines is below that of Christmas and Halloween for 'in your face' stuff. What about the Football and Rugby World Cups, do they bother you?
What is it about people celebrating being in a relationship that you don't like? You say you're celibate and quite happy, so what's the big deal? A lot of single people 'complain' about Valentine's day, but generally that is just good natured ranting, as opposed to genuine annoyance."
But this is off topic.
My actual question was:
"I'd say that valentines is below that of Christmas and Halloween for 'in your face' stuff. What about the Football and Rugby World Cups, do they bother you?
What is it about people celebrating being in a relationship that you don't like? You say you're celibate and quite happy, so what's the big deal? A lot of single people 'complain' about Valentine's day, but generally that is just good natured ranting, as opposed to genuine annoyance."
No, what I actually said was that people who are not in relationships who go out to 'celebrate' Valentines' day are simply drowning their sorrows- putting on a fake show of happiness. There's nothing wrong with that at all- but let's just acknowledge it for what it is.
I don't mind other people celebrating. I just want to walk down the high street without seeing hearts everywhere really. Also when I see ads saying 'do something for your special someone' or words to that effect I just think **** you, you dont know anything about me, why do you think I'm in a relationship' lol
Original post by sherlockfan
No, what I actually said was that people who are not in relationships who go out to 'celebrate' Valentines' day are simply drowning their sorrows- putting on a fake show of happiness. There's nothing wrong with that at all- but let's just acknowledge it for what it is.
I don't mind other people celebrating. I just want to walk down the high street without seeing hearts everywhere really. Also when I see ads saying 'do something for your special someone' or words to that effect I just think **** you, you dont know anything about me, why do you think I'm in a relationship' lol
I don't mind other people celebrating. I just want to walk down the high street without seeing hearts everywhere really. Also when I see ads saying 'do something for your special someone' or words to that effect I just think **** you, you dont know anything about me, why do you think I'm in a relationship' lol
If you had someone you'd be over the moon, I am saying this because I can relate, I have never had a gf and valentines day is just another day for me.
Original post by Newbie_noob
Your just butt hurt because you don't have a valentine, deny it as much as you want but it is the truth. If you had someone you'd be over the moon, I am saying this because I can relate, I have never had a gf and valentines day is just another day for me.
lol I expected someone to say this but it couldn't be further from the truth.
and it's you're. you. are. you're. :headbanging:
(edited 7 years ago)
Original post by sherlockfan
No, what I actually said was that people who are not in relationships who go out to 'celebrate' Valentines' day are simply drowning their sorrows- putting on a fake show of happiness. There's nothing wrong with that at all- but let's just acknowledge it for what it is.
I don't mind other people celebrating. I just want to walk down the high street without seeing hearts everywhere really. Also when I see ads saying 'do something for your special someone' or words to that effect I just think **** you, you dont know anything about me, why do you think I'm in a relationship' lol
I don't mind other people celebrating. I just want to walk down the high street without seeing hearts everywhere really. Also when I see ads saying 'do something for your special someone' or words to that effect I just think **** you, you dont know anything about me, why do you think I'm in a relationship' lol
But that's an even less valid assumption about literally every single person who does something fun on Valentine's Day but isn't in a relationship. Why would you assume that is true? Happiness is not defined by whether you're in a relationship, surely as someone who is happily celibate that would literally be your point?
You said you didn't like the holiday because it offered nothing for you. The suggestion was that you can derive your own meaning and value from it, I.e. by going and doing something you enjoy with people you like. What that is, is entirely irrelevant.
But during the world cup, football is everywhere. During Halloween, decorations are everywhere. Do you have a problem with that too? Or is it just Valentine's Day?
Your last part is interesting. Those are targeted ads to people in a relationship, Like all marketing. Surely you don't shout at the t.v when those thrush adverts come on? Why are you taking those adverts so personally?
You are happy being celibate, yes? Why then is other people celebrating their relationships such an issue?
Original post by _Sinnie_
But that's an even less valid assumption about literally every single person who does something fun on Valentine's Day but isn't in a relationship. Why would you assume that is true? Happiness is not defined by whether you're in a relationship, surely as someone who is happily celibate that would literally be your point?
You said you didn't like the holiday because it offered nothing for you. The suggestion was that you can derive your own meaning and value from it, I.e. by going and doing something you enjoy with people you like. What that is, is entirely irrelevant.
But during the world cup, football is everywhere. During Halloween, decorations are everywhere. Do you have a problem with that too? Or is it just Valentine's Day?
Your last part is interesting. Those are targeted ads to people in a relationship, Like all marketing. Surely you don't shout at the t.v when those thrush adverts come on? Why are you taking those adverts so personally?
You are happy being celibate, yes? Why then is other people celebrating their relationships such an issue?
You said you didn't like the holiday because it offered nothing for you. The suggestion was that you can derive your own meaning and value from it, I.e. by going and doing something you enjoy with people you like. What that is, is entirely irrelevant.
But during the world cup, football is everywhere. During Halloween, decorations are everywhere. Do you have a problem with that too? Or is it just Valentine's Day?
Your last part is interesting. Those are targeted ads to people in a relationship, Like all marketing. Surely you don't shout at the t.v when those thrush adverts come on? Why are you taking those adverts so personally?
You are happy being celibate, yes? Why then is other people celebrating their relationships such an issue?
but valentine's ads are just so much more patronising. they literally tell people how they should live their lives, give them a fake ideal to aspire to and tries to make everyone else feel bad. i take issue with any ad that pretends to know what I want and need, these are just worse.
I never said I dislike Valentines because it doesn't 'offer anything for me'. I could just as easily do without christmas and halloween.
look nothing you say is going to make me like valentine's day, so this is pointless, and I'm tired.
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Original post by sherlockfan
but valentine's ads are just so much more patronising. they literally tell people how they should live their lives, give them a fake ideal to aspire to and tries to make everyone else feel bad. i take issue with any ad that pretends to know what I want and need, these are just worse.
I never said I dislike Valentines because it doesn't 'offer anything for me'. I could just as easily do without christmas and halloween.
look nothing you say is going to make me like valentine's day, so this is pointless, and I'm tired.
I never said I dislike Valentines because it doesn't 'offer anything for me'. I could just as easily do without christmas and halloween.
look nothing you say is going to make me like valentine's day, so this is pointless, and I'm tired.
Everyone will work out eventually that anything you are told that goes against what you think won't change your mind no matter how valid
Original post by sherlockfan
Can't walk up the high street without seeing valentine's day everywhere. Can't walk into a shop that doesn't have a valentine's day display. It's madness. Why can't couples just celebrate it in private without bothering everyone else lol. Can't even go on Google without being reminded of it. Or anywhere else on the internet for that matter.
You probably feel bad because no one loves you .
Original post by Newbie_noob
Because he/she (delete as appropriate) doesn't have a partner, duh!
The worst part is the moment of realisation when you realise that all of the people celebrating Valentines Day are in love.
Social media and the advertising in shops make you feel like you should be in love, or at least be admiring someone.
What if you are in love with someone that you can't have? Someone who barely knows you exist and has a family and life of their own?
It's not the gifts that matter to me; I have plenty of money to buy myself chocolates, roses and teddy bears if I want to. It's being made to feel like I shouldn't be single. But it is what it is, I guess.
Social media and the advertising in shops make you feel like you should be in love, or at least be admiring someone.
What if you are in love with someone that you can't have? Someone who barely knows you exist and has a family and life of their own?
It's not the gifts that matter to me; I have plenty of money to buy myself chocolates, roses and teddy bears if I want to. It's being made to feel like I shouldn't be single. But it is what it is, I guess.
sherlockfan
but valentine's ads are just so much more patronising. they literally tell people how they should live their lives, give them a fake ideal to aspire to and tries to make everyone else feel bad. i take issue with any ad that pretends to know what I want and need, these are just worse.
I never said I dislike Valentines because it doesn't 'offer anything for me'. I could just as easily do without christmas and halloween.
look nothing you say is going to make me like valentine's day, so this is pointless, and I'm tired.
I never said I dislike Valentines because it doesn't 'offer anything for me'. I could just as easily do without christmas and halloween.
look nothing you say is going to make me like valentine's day, so this is pointless, and I'm tired.
Do Valentine's ads tell people how to live their life? Christmas ads show happy families sitting around a dinner table getting lots of presents, are they telling people with little income to buy more presents? Do beauty adverts not push a fake ideal onto people far, far more than any Valentine's advert (and 365 days a year).
I've been single a lot and I have never felt that Valentine's day was anything other than a commercial opportunity. I never felt like it was some sly dig into my single status, or how I lived my life. Sure, on that day, I'd feel like I wanted someone in my life more than on other days, but I didn't exactly resent the holiday itself.
I'm just trying to understand why it is Valentine's day in particular that bothers you over and above all these others (which I think are arguably, and in some cases objectively, worse).
I must have mis-remembered, I thought you specifically stated that the holiday didn't offer anything for you - it was late and I was on my phone. However, you have stated you're celibate and that you don't believe single people celebrate Valentine's day, plus that you wish the holiday was something everyone could celebrate, thus it is reasonable to assume that you don't see Valentine's day as offering anything to you.
I'm not trying to change your mind, I'm just trying to understand your viewpoint. I get that it might be annoying to choose to be celibate and then have a holiday focused around being in a relationship, but surely, as you're happy and comfortable with that choice, you can let it pass you by? I mean, its going to be much less annoying than if you wanted a relationship, couldn't get one and then everyone celebrates having one.
The other thing to remember is, relationships/procreation are one of the core and most fundamental aspects of being Human/alive (particularly when you consider that we generally have eating, sleeping, breathing etc. down pretty well). Even more so as it is the only interactive, social aspect. Now that I think about it, one day of the year to celebrate that (however commercialised) is oddly little.
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