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    My family asked if I like a girl they know for marriage, so I mentioned a family friend that we all know. I dont know her well but a lot of my family were praising her ie her being decent and helping out in the house and praying.

    So me and my uncle might go visit them for a few days, they live away from us so i'll be staying there.

    But im new to this whole game, I have spoken to girls. However if im at her house, I cant really start flirting with her or talking to her in front of her family. I mean when do I get her number.

    I would like to take my time and not rush into anything. I dont know how to approach the situation.

    If anyone has been through an arranged marriage please advice.
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    You approach the situation with calm and not to overthink things. Go with the flow - planning at this stage is unlikely to be beneficial.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My family asked if I like a girl they know for marriage, so I mentioned a family friend that we all know. I dont know her well but a lot of my family were praising her ie her being decent and helping out in the house and praying.

    So me and my uncle might go visit them for a few days, they live away from us so i'll be staying there.

    But im new to this whole game, I have spoken to girls. However if im at her house, I cant really start flirting with her or talking to her in front of her family. I mean when do I get her number.

    I would like to take my time and not rush into anything. I dont know how to approach the situation.

    If anyone has been through an arranged marriage please advice.
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    I like how one of the criteria is 'she helps around the house' lol
    The main question is how many rotis she makes per minute.


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    (Original post by A321)
    I like how one of the criteria is 'she helps around the house' lol
    The main question is how many rotis she makes per minute.


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    How round they are is more important 😂
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    People over rate the rotis, the daal and the sabji gotta be on point too tho, cant just eat rotis like bread rolls
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    (Original post by Casisalive)
    People over rate the rotis, the daal and the sabji gotta be on point too tho, cant just eat rotis like bread rolls
    Why not lol
    Have you ever had nutella on roti? Or sugar and butter on roti? Not always about the daal
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    (Original post by Ammmaaaraah)
    Why not lol
    Have you ever had nutella on roti? Or sugar and butter on roti? Not always about the daal
    I dont know what pind you came from but my bibi doesn't put nutella on my rotis, but sugar in a paratha pretty good
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    (Original post by Ammmaaaraah)
    Why not lol
    Have you ever had nutella on roti? Or sugar and butter on roti? Not always about the daal
    Never had nutella on roti. But butter and sugar OR butter and salt is amazing. I've not had a roti in forever

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    (Original post by Casisalive)
    I dont know what pind you came from but my bibi doesn't put nutella on my rotis, but sugar in a paratha pretty good
    Try it, it was an experiment that went right. No sugar and butter on roti is amazing. I'm Indian probably thats why lol
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    (Original post by A321)
    Never had nutella on roti. But butter and sugar OR butter and salt is amazing. I've not had a roti in forever

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    Butter and salt? Do you just sprinkle salt on lool
    Why not?
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    (Original post by Ammmaaaraah)
    Try it, it was an experiment that went right. No sugar and butter on roti is amazing. I'm Indian probably thats why lol
    Fine ill try it but if i die of some roti + nutella related complications its on you
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    (Original post by Casisalive)
    Fine ill try it but if i die of some roti + nutella related complications its on you
    Lol I highly doubt it. In fact you'd be running to come and thank me for telling you about it. :yep:
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    (Original post by Ammmaaaraah)
    Butter and salt? Do you just sprinkle salt on lool
    Why not?
    Lol pretty much. Don't get too generous with the salt though.

    I feel guilty after eating a roti lol

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My family asked if I like a girl they know for marriage, so I mentioned a family friend that we all know. I dont know her well but a lot of my family were praising her ie her being decent and helping out in the house and praying.

    So me and my uncle might go visit them for a few days, they live away from us so i'll be staying there.

    But im new to this whole game, I have spoken to girls. However if im at her house, I cant really start flirting with her or talking to her in front of her family. I mean when do I get her number.

    I would like to take my time and not rush into anything. I dont know how to approach the situation.

    If anyone has been through an arranged marriage please advice.
    My brother got arranged married and his wife is great. She's very clever, caring, good with family, pious - which is a bonus coz he is too and most importantly, they share a lot of common interests.
    I'd say take your time, get to know her and you don't need to flirt, just like ...ask what's her fav tv show? Or tell her a funny story or ask her what she did in uni or school?
    However if from doing that, you gauge that you dont feel compatible, then don't feel pressured to follow through. End of the day it's mutual decision.
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    (Original post by A321)
    Lol pretty much. Don't get too generous with the salt though.

    I feel guilty after eating a roti lol

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    I've never done that. I'm not a qualified salt sprinkler, might have to get salt bae to do it for me

    Why lol. Roti is healthy if you use the wholemeal flour. (I think)
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    (Original post by Ammmaaaraah)
    I've never done that. I'm not a qualified salt sprinkler, might have to get salt bae to do it for me

    Why lol. Roti is healthy if you use the wholemeal flour. (I think)
    Wtf is a salt bae. Is this some new thing with the kids lol

    Yeh don't think we use wholemeal. There's nothing like eating a fresh hot roti lol. I like how this rishta thread has turned into a roti thread. OP can now teach his new wife all these roti tricks lol. :yy:

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    (Original post by Ammmaaaraah)
    Lol I highly doubt it. In fact you'd be running to come and thank me for telling you about it. :yep:
    I am yet to learn how to make rotis but once the bibi gets home ill let you know how it went
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    (Original post by A321)
    Wtf is a salt bae. Is this some new thing with the kids lol

    Yeh don't think we use wholemeal. There's nothing like eating a fresh hot roti lol. I like how this rishta thread has turned into a roti thread. OP can now teach his new wife all these roti tricks lol. :yy:

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    lool salt bae is some viral turkish guy who sprinkles salt on the steak in a funny way basically. Just youtube salt bae.

    Oh still one roti couldn't possibly hurt! I was thinking the same, just shows how important rotis are when considering a rishta lol.

    (Original post by Casisalive)
    I am yet to learn how to make rotis but once the bibi gets home ill let you know how it went
    Roti making is an important life skill lol. Yes, do let me know how good it was!
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    (Original post by Houthi8)
    it's a troll, this keyboard warrior has been at it for months, creating anonymous Muslim/Pakistani threads to cause trouble, I thought TSR would catch on by now.
    Im not a troll, its a genuine question.
 
 
 
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