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    I'm 16 (gay), and this morning I slept with a 17 year old guy from Grindr. At 1pm today, I receieved a text from an angry girl, who said that she had looked through her boyfriend's phone because he was acting suspiciously this morning, and has found our Grindr conversations and our text messages.

    She's told me she doesn't know he's bi and has constantly texting and calling me all day, having a go at me. She also found our texts from ten minutes after he left my house this morning, saying that we would meet up again tomorrow evening, which she has screenshotted and is threatening to reveal them to everybody (which I don't care about). Her and her friends have been calling and texting me all day from different numbers about how horrible I am, how much they hate me and how wrong what I've done is. The guy has told me the girl has dumped him, but still wants to meet me again tomorrow. I have been blocking their numbers but they just use different ones. What else can I do?
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    Contact the police.
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    Serves you right for sleeping with him knowing he has a girl
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    (Original post by Glassapple)
    I'm 16 (gay), and this morning I slept with a 17 year old guy from Grindr. He told me he was bi but not that he had a girlfriend. At 1pm today, I receieved a text from an angry girl, who said that she had looked through her boyfriend's phone because he was acting suspiciously this morning, and has found our Grindr conversations and our text messages.

    She's told me she doesn't know he's bi and has constantly texting and calling me all day, having a go at me. She also found our texts from ten minutes after he left my house this morning, saying that we would meet up again tomorrow evening, which she has screenshotted and is threatening to reveal them to everybody (which I don't care about). Her and her friends have been calling and texting me all day from different numbers about how horrible I am, how much they hate me and how wrong what I've done is. The guy has told me the girl has dumped him, but still wants to meet me again tomorrow. I have been blocking their numbers but they just use different ones. What else can I do?
    Tell the girlfriend to confront her boyfriend about it, because he's the one that cheated. Girls are so backwards in their thinking sometimes. You aren't the problem, he is!

    On a completely unrelated note, arent you the same guy who was sleeping with that other guy and paying all his bills?
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    (Original post by Kravence)
    Serves you right for sleeping with him knowing he has a girl
    You missed the part where he said that he wasn't aware that he had a gf
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    (Original post by Kravence)
    Serves you right for sleeping with him knowing he has a girl
    Obviously he didn't know. And even if he did know, its the boyfriend who deserves punishment, not the OP
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    Cant you just pay your way out of this one
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    (Original post by Nottie)
    Obviously he didn't know. And even if he did know, its the boyfriend who deserves punishment, not the OP
    (Original post by cherryred90s)
    You missed the part where he said that he wasn't aware that he had a gf
    He's posted on this before where he admitted he knew but didn't care
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    (Original post by Kravence)
    He's posted on this before where he admitted he knew but didn't care
    that still doesn't make him the guilty one. Assuming he didn't rape the boyfriend, the boyfriend is the one cheating and deserving a punishment.
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    (Original post by Kravence)
    He's posted on this before where he admitted he knew but didn't care
    Regardless, the only person that the gf should be harassing is her cheating boyfriend. OP shouldn't be blamed
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    (Original post by Kravence)
    He's posted on this before where he admitted he knew but didn't care

    (Original post by cherryred90s)
    Tell the girlfriend to confront her boyfriend about it, because he's the one that cheated. Girls are so backwards in their thinking sometimes. You aren't the problem, he is!

    On a completely unrelated note, arent you the same guy who was sleeping with that other guy and paying all his bills?
    (Original post by cherryred90s)
    Regardless, the only person that the gf should be harassing is her cheating boyfriend. OP shouldn't be blamed

    This is a different guy to the one I posted about before.

    Yes, I was (and still am), that guy.
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    (Original post by Glassapple)
    I'm 16 (gay), and this morning I slept with a 17 year old guy from Grindr. At 1pm today, I receieved a text from an angry girl, who said that she had looked through her boyfriend's phone because he was acting suspiciously this morning, and has found our Grindr conversations and our text messages.

    She's told me she doesn't know he's bi and has constantly texting and calling me all day, having a go at me. She also found our texts from ten minutes after he left my house this morning, saying that we would meet up again tomorrow evening, which she has screenshotted and is threatening to reveal them to everybody (which I don't care about). Her and her friends have been calling and texting me all day from different numbers about how horrible I am, how much they hate me and how wrong what I've done is. The guy has told me the girl has dumped him, but still wants to meet me again tomorrow. I have been blocking their numbers but they just use different ones. What else can I do?
    Has the one you were paying for become an ex, now?

    What else do you want to do? Just block them and go to the police if you wish to make a complaint. Its entirely predictable though as you must have known. People tend to get mad when you interfere in their relationships. Doesnt seem to bother you though.
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    Cheating isn't a crime. Harassment is.
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    (Original post by Nottie)
    that still doesn't make him the guilty one. Assuming he didn't rape the boyfriend, the boyfriend is the one cheating and deserving a punishment.
    I think both of them. Not sure what you mean by punishment, except dumping.
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    Has the one you were paying for become an ex, now?

    What else do you want to do? Just block them and go to the police if you wish to make a complaint. Its entirely predictable though as you must have known. People tend to get mad when you interfere in their relationships. Doesnt seem to bother you though.
    That one isn't an ex, I can sleep with different people at the same time, can't I?

    I'm not sure whether to keep blocking, or to make some kind of verbal intervention, or anything else.
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    I think both of them. Not sure what you mean by punishment, except dumping.
    if the girlfriend wants to harass anyone, she should do it to her (ex) boyfriend, not the OP.
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    (Original post by Nottie)
    that still doesn't make him the guilty one. Assuming he didn't rape the boyfriend, the boyfriend is the one cheating and deserving a punishment.
    (Original post by cherryred90s)
    Regardless, the only person that the gf should be harassing is her cheating boyfriend. OP shouldn't be blamed
    I agree the boyfriend is who should be harassed but OP should have some responsibility since he wasn't unaware of the guys girlfriend

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    (Original post by Glassapple)
    This is a different guy to the one I posted about before.
    I don't believe you could get unlucky like that within a short time frame
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    (Original post by Nottie)
    if the girlfriend wants to harass anyone, she should do it to her (ex) boyfriend, not the OP.
    Perhaps she feels they both played a part in what happened. It would be wrong only to be annoyed at the OP.
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    (Original post by Glassapple)
    That one isn't an ex, I can sleep with different people at the same time, can't I?

    I'm not sure whether to keep blocking, or to make some kind of verbal intervention, or anything else.
    I forgot it wasnt monogomous or a relationship. Do what you like, bit you can hardly be surprised when people get unhappy when you mess up part of their lives.
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    Err, just don't pick up the phone to unknown numbers and ignore their texts..
 
 
 
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