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In a casual relationship do I get her something for valentines or ignore it? watch

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    We're a lot more than friends with benefits but not quite in a serious relationship yet. Haven't really mentioned valentines to her but would you say I should get her something or just awkwardly ignore it?
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    I'd jokingly bring it up in conversation tomorrow and see how she reacts
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    Really depends how you feel, what the ground rules were and her personality. It could horrify her because shes not bothered or she could feel crestfallen. Go for something not too serious, but fun.
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    Really depends how you feel, what the ground rules were and her personality. It could horrify her because shes not bothered or she could feel crestfallen. Go for something not too serious, but fun.
    There were no ground rules and I'm not sure how she'll feel about it thats why I'm so confused
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    Treat her to a non-expensive date that is fairly casual. That way you are doing something for the day but without going on a full out date with cards and flowers etc.
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    I don't think anyone would be too freaked out by being given gifts or being taken out so long as it's nothing too OTT, but try and bring it up jokingly first to test the water anyway
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    There were no ground rules and I'm not sure how she'll feel about it thats why I'm so confused
    Well the normal way is to ask tactfully.

    You could just get something thoughtful, which didnt go over the top which says you appreciate her (whatever you think you have) without going over the top. Youd better make your mind up quick though. I would get something rather than nothing because I would want to avoid her feeling disappointed. 10 is hardly going to kill you.
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    Well the normal way is to ask tactfully.

    You could just get something thoughtful, which didnt go over the top which says you appreciate her (whatever you think you have) without going over the top. Youd better make your mind up quick though. I would get something rather than nothing because I would want to avoid her feeling disappointed. 10 is hardly going to kill you.
    Yeah I've asked her if she wants to do anything and ordered her a stuffed toy from a movie she really likes. If she says no I'll just save the toy for her birthday so win win i suppose.
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    Asked her as casually as possible without even mentioning valentines and she was down for it. Crisis averted.
 
 
 
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