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How to not say i love you?

My girlfriend recently told me she loved me, i just smiled and kissed her. Dont get me wrong ive never felt this way about anyone before, i have lots of feelings for her and i am totally falling in love with her its just that i dont feel like im quite there yet and when i do say it i want it to be true and totally from the heart and actually mean something.

What can i say/do if she says it again in future? Or am i just being daft holding it back and should i just say it back? I just feel that people use the term far too often and loosely these days and i really want to mean it when i say it.

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Reply 1

qubog

"I have really strong feelings for you too" or "I'm falling for you" are hackneyed but they do the job

Reply 2

recneps

If you keep putting it off she's going to notice and start asking if somethings wrong. Best to say it sooner rather than later.

Wait and see if she says it again any time soon, and you might have to respond.

Reply 3

StandingOnAir

Anonymous

Dont get me wrong ive never felt this way about anyone before, i have lots of feelings for her and i am totally falling in love with her its just that i dont feel like im quite there yet and when i do say it i want it to be true and totally from the heart and actually mean something.

Tell her that.

If you say you think you're falling in love with her but don't want to use the term loosely because that wouldn't do it justice, there isn't much she can fault you on.

Whatever you do, don't carry on just smiling whenever she says it, because chances are she'd presume the worst.

Reply 4

SmilerNuts

I totally agree with the last post.
It's something special and you shouldn't just say it if you're not sure you actually feel it just to appease someone else

Reply 5

fairysparkle

SmilerNuts

It's something special and you shouldn't just say it if you're not sure you actually feel it just to appease someone else

:dito:

Reply 6

D-503

I love U2, a great musical ensemble and an easy way out of the situation (generally only works for texting though).

Reply 7

SmilerNuts

Pechorin

I love U2, a great musical ensemble and an easy way out of the situation (generally only works for texting though).

Oh dear... ;no;

Reply 8

D-503

SmilerNuts

Oh dear... ;no;

Maybe just as a last resort :p:

. But OP, surely the issue is why you are that reluctant to say it? Maybe you should rethink your relationship as you obviously dont feel the same way about each other. Fair play however, for not being prepared to say it in spite of not meaning it.

Reply 9

Peter North

I love spending time with you

Reply 10

N_n_N

you don't love her, it seems. simple as that :P

Reply 11

ophqui

'Do you?' or 'Yeah i know'

owch.

Reply 12

SmilerNuts

I love spending time with you

Ultimate slap in the face :p:

Pechorin

But OP, surely the issue is why you are that reluctant to say it? Maybe you should rethink your relationship as you obviously dont feel the same way about each other. Fair play however, for not being prepared to say it in spite of not meaning it

He's reluctant to say it cause he doesn't feel that way and when he does he wants it to be truly special which is a great way to think imo.
Just cause one persons feelings have developed faster isn't reason for them to break up or "rethink the relationship". Give it time and it'll all be fine :smile:

Reply 13

N_n_N

ophqui

'Do you?' or 'Yeah i know'

owch.

lol i had to do that various times :biggrin:

Reply 14

Peter North

I love spending time with you

anyone seen the friends episode where ross tells mona he loves her, she then says "ohh and i love spening time with you, ross"

Classic!

Reply 15

CarlyStarlet

Her: "I love you."

You: (Smiling slightly) "So you should."

:smile:

Reply 16

Joderz

when my bf said it to me for the first time i said 'aww...thats so cute' ha!! *hanging my head in shame*
i bet he felt like such a tit after that.
but then i went home and realised...hey, i actually do love him...y didnt i just say it!??!!??!!?

Reply 17

Lolly-88

I'm in the same situation my boyfriend told me lots of times that he loves me and i just kissed him to shut him up...although sometimes he keeps saying it over and over trying to get me to respond :s-smilie:

. I think the best thing would be to just tell her that you're falling for her.

Reply 18

devils_nose

Just be honest with her - I wasn't ready to say it at the same time as my boyf.. I did love him (still do, incase he's stalking me :p:

) but it was a huge deal for me to say it the first time and I didn't want him thinking I had just said it as a reaction to him saying it first (I couldn't figure out a better way of typing that) I wanted him to know I meant it!! He was really sweet about not pressuring me and understood where I was coming from.. I'm sure your gf will be too :smile:

Reply 19

Mischievous Mj

If you say you think you're falling in love with her but don't want to use the term loosely because that wouldn't do it justice, there isn't much she can fault you on.