Introverts: Would this offend you?
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"You never talk" (even though the two of you have had lots of deep conversation together over the years).
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"You're practically invisible"
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"Nobody knows who you are"
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"You're such a weirdo"
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"The only thing you do with your life is study"
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"Go and kill yourself" (When you get an A on a test and they get an E)
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"You're going to get an A aren't you because you're little miss perfect"
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"You're such a fatty" (even though they're like twice my weight)
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"Oh look at you getting involved" (when you join in a conversation)
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"Oh check you integrating" (when you're sat with a group of people you don't normally sit with).
I had a friend constantly saying these things to me last year even though we'd been "best friends" since Year 7 and it was getting me down so I decided to just stop having anything to do with them.
Am I just being oversensitive or was this genuinely really rude of them?
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•
"You never talk" (even though the two of you have had lots of deep conversation together over the years).
•
"You're practically invisible"
•
"Nobody knows who you are"
•
"You're such a weirdo"
•
"The only thing you do with your life is study"
•
"Go and kill yourself" (When you get an A on a test and they get an E)
•
"You're going to get an A aren't you because you're little miss perfect"
•
"You're such a fatty" (even though they're like twice my weight)
•
"Oh look at you getting involved" (when you join in a conversation)
•
"Oh check you integrating" (when you're sat with a group of people you don't normally sit with).
I had a friend constantly saying these things to me last year even though we'd been "best friends" since Year 7 and it was getting me down so I decided to just stop having anything to do with them.
Am I just being oversensitive or was this genuinely really rude of them?
That's a pretty terrible friend if they weren't joking
They sound ignorant and arrogant. The worst combination possible. Good move OP. I'd break contact with them too. No second thoughts.
I've had most of those things said to me by different people throughout my life, not one person, and it has damaged my self esteem. I'm still having CBT to overcome it. Best to stay CLEAR of people like this. They will harm you.
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"You never talk" (even though the two of you have had lots of deep conversation together over the years).
•
"You're practically invisible"
•
"Nobody knows who you are"
•
"You're such a weirdo"
•
"The only thing you do with your life is study"
•
"Go and kill yourself" (When you get an A on a test and they get an E)
•
"You're going to get an A aren't you because you're little miss perfect"
•
"You're such a fatty" (even though they're like twice my weight)
•
"Oh look at you getting involved" (when you join in a conversation)
•
"Oh check you integrating" (when you're sat with a group of people you don't normally sit with).
I had a friend constantly saying these things to me last year even though we'd been "best friends" since Year 7 and it was getting me down so I decided to just stop having anything to do with them.
Am I just being oversensitive or was this genuinely really rude of them?
I really don't know the context in which these things have been said to you but I'm an introvert and maybe apart from the 2nd and 3rd ones my friends have said all of these to me before, but in a jokey way which didn't offend me at all. You've just got to laugh at the comments - if she is your best friend I highly doubt she wanted you to actually kill yourself and she's probably just jealous of you. The more you become resilient to things like this the more you can just laugh them off and embrace that you're cleverer, thinner and more studious than your friend.
As long as you are happy then it does not matter what anyone else thinks. It really is not worth the stress of worrying yourself about things like this. We are all unique individuals!
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"You never talk" (even though the two of you have had lots of deep conversation together over the years).
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"You're practically invisible" That's bad?
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"Nobody knows who you are" - I have no idea of this relevance?
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"You're such a weirdo" - Even not jokingly said, I'd take this as a complement. Weirdness is brilliant.
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"The only thing you do with your life is study"...and that's bad?
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"Go and kill yourself" PURE JEALOUSY (When you get an A)
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"You're going to get an A* aren't you because you're little miss perfect" Please take this as a complement.
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"You're such a fatty" - I'm actually speechless... (even though they're like twice my weight)
I had a friend constantly saying these things to me last year even though we'd been "best friends" since Year 7 and it was getting me down so I decided to just stop having anything to do with them.
Am I just being oversensitive HELL NO or was this genuinely really rude of them?
You're not an introvert, don't categorise yourself, if anything being reserved is brilliant.
I literally have no idea what to say other than this person from year 7 is jealous of you or you have realised how much of a horrible person they are.
This is what we call bullying peeps.
Seriously speechless...
These things can't be said in a 'jokey' way. For many introverts their inability to socialize is their biggest insecurity. Targeting that for 'banter' is cruel and damaging. If its done intentionally then it shows a lack of basic empathy. I regret staying in touch with friends like this just for the sake of having friends. The psychological damage is not worth it.
•
"You never talk" (even though the two of you have had lots of deep conversation together over the years).
•
"You're practically invisible"
•
"Nobody knows who you are"
•
"You're such a weirdo"
•
"The only thing you do with your life is study"
•
"Go and kill yourself" (When you get an A on a test and they get an E)
•
"You're going to get an A aren't you because you're little miss perfect"
•
"You're such a fatty" (even though they're like twice my weight)
•
"Oh look at you getting involved" (when you join in a conversation)
•
"Oh check you integrating" (when you're sat with a group of people you don't normally sit with).
I had a friend constantly saying these things to me last year even though we'd been "best friends" since Year 7 and it was getting me down so I decided to just stop having anything to do with them.
Am I just being oversensitive or was this genuinely really rude of them?
Ewww, Frenemy alert. Ditch straightaway
•
"You never talk" (even though the two of you have had lots of deep conversation together over the years).
•
"You're practically invisible"
•
"Nobody knows who you are"
•
"You're such a weirdo"
•
"The only thing you do with your life is study"
•
"Go and kill yourself" (When you get an A on a test and they get an E)
•
"You're going to get an A aren't you because you're little miss perfect"
•
"You're such a fatty" (even though they're like twice my weight)
•
"Oh look at you getting involved" (when you join in a conversation)
•
"Oh check you integrating" (when you're sat with a group of people you don't normally sit with).
I had a friend constantly saying these things to me last year even though we'd been "best friends" since Year 7 and it was getting me down so I decided to just stop having anything to do with them.
Am I just being oversensitive or was this genuinely really rude of them?
You're not overreacting at all. They're awful things to say to anyone, but from someone that's supposed to be your ''friend'' just isn't right (even if they are joking.)
I had a friend a few years ago that, because I'm quite, they always used to say things similar to the ''you never talk'' and ''wow you're getting involved'' stuff. I got completely sick of it after a while and cut ties with them, what's the point in having a friend that makes you feel bad about yourself nearly every time you hang out with them?
You've done the right thing, OP. Surround yourself with people that actually respect you
I had a friend like that too lately that I ditched for good. She brought me down from everything to the way I look, to my wedding theme and then to the worst, my illnesses. A friend is there to build you up, not to bring you down.
As mentioned, a true friend won't say those things. A friends' former girlfriend did mention (in the nicest way as you can!) that I don't talk much, which I know is true. But that was it. I know she wasn't being rude about it.
•
"You never talk" (even though the two of you have had lots of deep conversation together over the years).
•
"You're practically invisible"
•
"Nobody knows who you are"
•
"You're such a weirdo"
•
"The only thing you do with your life is study"
•
"Go and kill yourself" (When you get an A on a test and they get an E)
•
"You're going to get an A aren't you because you're little miss perfect"
•
"You're such a fatty" (even though they're like twice my weight)
•
"Oh look at you getting involved" (when you join in a conversation)
•
"Oh check you integrating" (when you're sat with a group of people you don't normally sit with).
I had a friend constantly saying these things to me last year even though we'd been "best friends" since Year 7 and it was getting me down so I decided to just stop having anything to do with them.
Am I just being oversensitive or was this genuinely really rude of them?
To be honest anyone would be offended from someone constantly making such comments, not just introverts. I had a friend who's been saying mean things like that for years and then she would say I'm just joking, chill. But I got fed up with it and distanced myself from her and honestly looking back I see she didn't care for me at all, she wasn't a good friend at all. So I'd say you did the right thing from distancing yourself
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