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I'm an 18 year old girl and basically I've never kissed a boy before. I went on a date with this guy I met on Facebook (a year older), he was really chatty online but really cold and distant in reality. I had to do all of the talking, he wasn't even smiley, he seemed really, nervous, insecure and extremely socially awkward, I'm not sure. He said he'd hug me as soon as we met, he said he couldn't wait to put his arms around me etc but then when we actually met he said he thought hugging in public is 'awkward' so won't do it, I felt a bit let down. I had to decide what we did for the day, and where we went because he just kept saying 'I don't know'.

At the end of the day, I was waiting for my bus to go home. He said 'right you have to kiss me on the lips now'. Immediately I panicked not only because I barely know how, but because he hadn't shown me ANY form of affection, not even holding my hand/hugging and I felt nothing towards him now. I said I'd kiss him on the cheek, he refused and said 'no on the lips only'. I felt so uncomfortable and pressured, I forced myself to say 'okay you kiss me then', he said 'no YOU', then my bus came thank god so I had an excuse to leave. He text me later saying 'you're going to kiss me next time!', now I'm so turned off him not only physically, but there's no spark. What do I do?
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I'm an 18 year old girl and basically I've never kissed a boy before. I went on a date with this guy I met on Facebook (a year older), he was really chatty online but really cold and distant in reality. I had to do all of the talking, he wasn't even smiley, he seemed really, nervous, insecure and extremely socially awkward, I'm not sure. He said he'd hug me as soon as we met, he said he couldn't wait to put his arms around me etc but then when we actually met he said he thought hugging in public is 'awkward' so won't do it, I felt a bit let down. I had to decide what we did for the day, and where we went because he just kept saying 'I don't know'.

At the end of the day, I was waiting for my bus to go home. He said 'right you have to kiss me on the lips now'. Immediately I panicked not only because I barely know how, but because he hadn't shown me ANY form of affection, not even holding my hand/hugging and I felt nothing towards him now. I said I'd kiss him on the cheek, he refused and said 'no on the lips only'. I felt so uncomfortable and pressured, I forced myself to say 'okay you kiss me then', he said 'no YOU', then my bus came thank god so I had an excuse to leave. He text me later saying 'you're going to kiss me next time!', now I'm so turned off him not only physically, but there's no spark. What do I do?
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I'm an 18 year old girl and basically I've never kissed a boy before. I went on a date with this guy I met on Facebook (a year older), he was really chatty online but really cold and distant in reality. I had to do all of the talking, he wasn't even smiley, he seemed really, nervous, insecure and extremely socially awkward, I'm not sure. He said he'd hug me as soon as we met, he said he couldn't wait to put his arms around me etc but then when we actually met he said he thought hugging in public is 'awkward' so won't do it, I felt a bit let down. I had to decide what we did for the day, and where we went because he just kept saying 'I don't know'.

At the end of the day, I was waiting for my bus to go home. He said 'right you have to kiss me on the lips now'. Immediately I panicked not only because I barely know how, but because he hadn't shown me ANY form of affection, not even holding my hand/hugging and I felt nothing towards him now. I said I'd kiss him on the cheek, he refused and said 'no on the lips only'. I felt so uncomfortable and pressured, I forced myself to say 'okay you kiss me then', he said 'no YOU', then my bus came thank god so I had an excuse to leave. He text me later saying 'you're going to kiss me next time!', now I'm so turned off him not only physically, but there's no spark. What do I do?
It doesn't sound like a good start, perhaps don't have a second date
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Doesn't seem like you had a good time at all, I wouldn't go on a second date .
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Don't meet him next time.
Block him.
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He sounds boring and worse, creepy. Don't meet him again and block him. You owe him nothing.

If you waste any more time on him I promise you you will cringe some day thinking back on this.
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He sounds like a manchild
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Hahah well wow that was a surprise of how you thought he was going to be and how he actually was. Just block him, don't answer his calls and don't go on a second date. No point leading anything on if you don't like him.
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Well he's probably pretty socially awkward from the sounds of it. Just tell him you're not that interested and refuse further meetings. Some dates are good and some end up being pretty bad so you just had a bad one. It happens.
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He sounds really really gross please don't meet him again. He sounds like the type of guy that doesn't understand 'no means no'. :/
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lol what a weirdo
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I'm an 18 year old girl and basically I've never kissed a boy before. I went on a date with this guy I met on Facebook (a year older), he was really chatty online but really cold and distant in reality. I had to do all of the talking, he wasn't even smiley, he seemed really, nervous, insecure and extremely socially awkward, I'm not sure. He said he'd hug me as soon as we met, he said he couldn't wait to put his arms around me etc but then when we actually met he said he thought hugging in public is 'awkward' so won't do it, I felt a bit let down. I had to decide what we did for the day, and where we went because he just kept saying 'I don't know'.

At the end of the day, I was waiting for my bus to go home. He said 'right you have to kiss me on the lips now'. Immediately I panicked not only because I barely know how, but because he hadn't shown me ANY form of affection, not even holding my hand/hugging and I felt nothing towards him now. I said I'd kiss him on the cheek, he refused and said 'no on the lips only'. I felt so uncomfortable and pressured, I forced myself to say 'okay you kiss me then', he said 'no YOU', then my bus came thank god so I had an excuse to leave. He text me later saying 'you're going to kiss me next time!', now I'm so turned off him not only physically, but there's no spark. What do I do?
Nope right out of there.

If you have no interest in continuing the relationship, then don't. If you feel like you need to deliver closure, then say how you didn't feel the spark and it was good to have met him (perhaps in the sense that you got to see how he is in person and that it wasn't how you had hoped for) but no thanks.

There could be valid reasons for his behaviour but you didn't like it so...
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I'm an 18 year old girl and basically I've never kissed a boy before. I went on a date with this guy I met on Facebook (a year older), he was really chatty online but really cold and distant in reality. I had to do all of the talking, he wasn't even smiley, he seemed really, nervous, insecure and extremely socially awkward, I'm not sure. He said he'd hug me as soon as we met, he said he couldn't wait to put his arms around me etc but then when we actually met he said he thought hugging in public is 'awkward' so won't do it, I felt a bit let down. I had to decide what we did for the day, and where we went because he just kept saying 'I don't know'.

At the end of the day, I was waiting for my bus to go home. He said 'right you have to kiss me on the lips now'. Immediately I panicked not only because I barely know how, but because he hadn't shown me ANY form of affection, not even holding my hand/hugging and I felt nothing towards him now. I said I'd kiss him on the cheek, he refused and said 'no on the lips only'. I felt so uncomfortable and pressured, I forced myself to say 'okay you kiss me then', he said 'no YOU', then my bus came thank god so I had an excuse to leave. He text me later saying 'you're going to kiss me next time!', now I'm so turned off him not only physically, but there's no spark. What do I do?
Just a typical guy you meet online. Very little social skills in person, probably has very little friends too
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I'm an 18 year old girl and basically I've never kissed a boy before. I went on a date with this guy I met on Facebook (a year older), he was really chatty online but really cold and distant in reality. I had to do all of the talking, he wasn't even smiley, he seemed really, nervous, insecure and extremely socially awkward, I'm not sure. He said he'd hug me as soon as we met, he said he couldn't wait to put his arms around me etc but then when we actually met he said he thought hugging in public is 'awkward' so won't do it, I felt a bit let down. I had to decide what we did for the day, and where we went because he just kept saying 'I don't know'.

At the end of the day, I was waiting for my bus to go home. He said 'right you have to kiss me on the lips now'. Immediately I panicked not only because I barely know how, but because he hadn't shown me ANY form of affection, not even holding my hand/hugging and I felt nothing towards him now. I said I'd kiss him on the cheek, he refused and said 'no on the lips only'. I felt so uncomfortable and pressured, I forced myself to say 'okay you kiss me then', he said 'no YOU', then my bus came thank god so I had an excuse to leave. He text me later saying 'you're going to kiss me next time!', now I'm so turned off him not only physically, but there's no spark. What do I do?

Easy, just tell him you didnt feel as though you would work out and have decided not to take it any further. Thank him for the date and wish him well.


That will get you out of kissing someone you have no interest in.
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