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Should I get a prenup? (((Help)))

Hello, Im in a bit of a dilemma and would like some help from the online community.

I am going to be getting married in July to a wonderful woman who I think I will live with for the rest of my life. I'm in my late 20s and I have a fairly successful career in high finance and I also have a small real estate portfolio. My wife earns a good salary but she's not as rich as I am. I never considered a prenup but recently it has become apparent to me that it is important that I should protect my wealth. I have colleagues who have signed prenups with their wives too. My fiancee has always hinted at the fact that she likes the idea of financial security and I do also recognise the mutual benefit of our relationship.

So, should I get one? And how would I approach her if I was to get one?
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Original post by mitch123
Hello, Im in a bit of a dilemma and would like some help from the online community.

I am going to be getting married in July to a wonderful woman who I think I will live with for the rest of my life. I'm in my late 20s and I have a fairly successful career in high finance and I also have a small real estate portfolio. My wife earns a good salary but she's not as rich as I am. I never considered a prenup but recently it has become apparent to me that it is important that I should protect my wealth. I have colleagues who have signed prenups with their wives too. My fiancee has always hinted at the fact that she likes the idea of financial security and I do also recognise the mutual benefit of our relationship.

So, should I get one? And how would I approach her if I was to get one?


Prenups are not legally binding in the UK.

Just how much wealth do you have? Is it really worth the legal costs & time in getting a prenup which may be worthless anyway?
Original post by mitch123
Hello, Im in a bit of a dilemma and would like some help from the online community.

I am going to be getting married in July to a wonderful woman who I think I will live with for the rest of my life. I'm in my late 20s and I have a fairly successful career in high finance and I also have a small real estate portfolio. My wife earns a good salary but she's not as rich as I am. I never considered a prenup but recently it has become apparent to me that it is important that I should protect my wealth. I have colleagues who have signed prenups with their wives too. My fiancee has always hinted at the fact that she likes the idea of financial security and I do also recognise the mutual benefit of our relationship.

So, should I get one? And how would I approach her if I was to get one?


So you aren't seeing things including money as "ours" when you re married then? No plans for a family? I m not sure the legalities of the prenup in a U.K. but I don't think there is a positive way you could approach it without hurting your fiancé.
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Original post by Reue
Prenups are not legally binding in the UK.

Just how much wealth do you have? Is it really worth the legal costs & time in getting a prenup which may be worthless anywa?


Yes I am aware, that's why I also think maybe its just futile.

I earn almost 200k + some property but its complicated since it's a special agreement with a few of my friends.
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So you aren't seeing things including money as "ours" when you re married then? No plans for a family? I m not sure the legalities of the prenup in a U.K. but I don't think there is a positive way you could approach it without hurting your fiancé.


I do, I aim to be accustomed to the usual benefits of a traditional marriage. I'm just concerned with protecting my wealth. I've heard some horrific stories and whilst I do trust my fiancee, it's still ringing in the back of my head.
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I do, I aim to be accustomed to the usual benefits of a traditional marriage. I'm just concerned with protecting my wealth. I've heard some horrific stories and whilst I do trust my fiancee, it's still ringing in the back of my head.

Marriage is about trust isn't it? Yes things have happened to others but that's not your fiancé, I just don't think it's the best mindset to have to think she d try to take all your money if anything did happen
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Marriage is about trust isn't it? Yes things have happened to others but that's not your fiancé, I just don't think it's the best mindset to have to think she d try to take all your money if anything did happen


I am guilt-ridden at the thought of hurting her. It's not the mindset that she'd take all my money, it's just that in the incidence where things dont work out too well and I end up losing a lot of money. My father has bad health and I have had to pay for a lot of his specialist healthcare. I could quickly spiral into debt if im not careful because I do spend a lot of money now.

Prenups in this country are also protective of the financially vulnerable.

But you're right, I dont think im going to go through with it. Thanks.
As someone of Jewish descent I am triggered by the number of brackets used in the title of this thread.

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