Female, 18, Gap year
I was with a guy for about a year, and then we called it quits because he wasn't ready for a relationship, and kept cancelling our plans etc - he's the type that likes being alone etc. I was sad, but I got over it. We still spoke all day every day - nothing had changed aside from the fact we weren't together - we weren't seeing eachother, or anything else that you get from a relationship. In essense, we were just very close friends who used to have something.
He kissed someone else on a night out after we broke up, and I've done the same - we both reacted negatively and it hurt, but it didn't motivate either of us to get back together or try again, rather it pushed us away from each other.
However, a few months on from this, I agreed to a date with someone, and told him about it as I am honest and believed he had the right to know. He then put in 100% effort in trying to get me back, saw me, etc. I went on the date, it didn't work out, and I told him as much, saying I wouldn't mind trying again with us; we hadn't ended badly, it was more of a 'we don't have time for each other at the minute'
I've not seen him since this, despite trying to make plans. Writing this it seems ridiculous that I'm still trying in this situation. I'm just unsure on how to leave it behind without hurting anybody in the process. We will be apart for three months travelling separately, and then we both go to university in September, so its not like i have time to wait and see if he changes his mind, or else I'll be another three months into whatever is between us without any change.
Any advice?