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SEX [why does it gross me out?]
About 6 months ago, I had been with my hen boyfriend for about a year and a half. I could say I was in love with him..it might not have been real love, but it felt like it. I found him physically attractive and we had loads in common socialy, emotionaly and stuff. Anyway he did make me feel very sexy and sexual aroused. However, as we were about to have actual sex, the idea just grossed me out completely. It kept happening all the time and i ddidn't understand why. Eventualy due to OTHER reasons we broke up. I started dating and met another guy whom I felt strongly about... same thing again. The idea of sex with him in my head seemed great, but when it came to the actual 'lets do it' I felt completely grossed out like I didn't want to do it.
Before you jump into conclusions, in both situations it was not because I wasn't 'ready' or because I didn't fancy them physically. I did loads...I just don't get why the actuality of sex just puts me off. I know in the long run it will affect my other relationships. I mean, sex is a part of a health relationship. I mean...getting married and saying to my husband, NO SEX EVER is a lil bizzare. Plus, I want to, want to have sex for me too.. but ughh. it's hard o explain. Do I need a doctor??
Before you jump into conclusions, in both situations it was not because I wasn't 'ready' or because I didn't fancy them physically. I did loads...I just don't get why the actuality of sex just puts me off. I know in the long run it will affect my other relationships. I mean, sex is a part of a health relationship. I mean...getting married and saying to my husband, NO SEX EVER is a lil bizzare. Plus, I want to, want to have sex for me too.. but ughh. it's hard o explain. Do I need a doctor??
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Just sounds to me like you're not ready. You could speak to a sex therapist...
I think that you are getting self conscious and thinking about it to much, you need to try and relax (I know easier said than done) but I do think that if you worry about it it may make it worse.
I think we all go through times when we just don't want to and it just does gross you out i know I go through times like this and I've been married for a long time.
good luck
I think we all go through times when we just don't want to and it just does gross you out i know I go through times like this and I've been married for a long time.
good luck
because it's not feeling ready that's the problem, perhaps u should just ignore ur doubts, try to relax and make urself do it anyway (with someone u care about and trust). then maybe u'll see it's not gross, and it'll probably change ur thoughts on it?
It wasnt like i imagined it would be either 
It is pretty gross when u think about it but I think you're probably not ready. Don't rush into anything u are not comfortable with and dont worry about it. You don't need to even think about it (otherwise u might worry) just let your boyfriend know how you feel and then forget about it. In time things wil be ;0okay.
Anonymous
About 6 months ago, I had been with my hen boyfriend for about a year and a half. I could say I was in love with him..it might not have been real love, but it felt like it. I found him physically attractive and we had loads in common socialy, emotionaly and stuff. Anyway he did make me feel very sexy and sexual aroused. However, as we were about to have actual sex, the idea just grossed me out completely. It kept happening all the time and i ddidn't understand why. Eventualy due to OTHER reasons we broke up. I started dating and met another guy whom I felt strongly about... same thing again. The idea of sex with him in my head seemed great, but when it came to the actual 'lets do it' I felt completely grossed out like I didn't want to do it.
Before you jump into conclusions, in both situations it was not because I wasn't 'ready' or because I didn't fancy them physically. I did loads...I just don't get why the actuality of sex just puts me off. I know in the long run it will affect my other relationships. I mean, sex is a part of a health relationship. I mean...getting married and saying to my husband, NO SEX EVER is a lil bizzare. Plus, I want to, want to have sex for me too.. but ughh. it's hard o explain. Do I need a doctor??
Before you jump into conclusions, in both situations it was not because I wasn't 'ready' or because I didn't fancy them physically. I did loads...I just don't get why the actuality of sex just puts me off. I know in the long run it will affect my other relationships. I mean, sex is a part of a health relationship. I mean...getting married and saying to my husband, NO SEX EVER is a lil bizzare. Plus, I want to, want to have sex for me too.. but ughh. it's hard o explain. Do I need a doctor??
I found the problem. You're boyfriend is a hen.
See a therapist if you're worried....
MSD
I found the problem. You're boyfriend is a hen.
See a therapist if you're worried....
See a therapist if you're worried....
lol
the most apropriate post yet.
Anonymous
About 6 months ago, I had been with my hen boyfriend for about a year and a half. I could say I was in love with him..it might not have been real love, but it felt like it. I found him physically attractive and we had loads in common socialy, emotionaly and stuff. Anyway he did make me feel very sexy and sexual aroused. However, as we were about to have actual sex, the idea just grossed me out completely. It kept happening all the time and i ddidn't understand why. Eventualy due to OTHER reasons we broke up. I started dating and met another guy whom I felt strongly about... same thing again. The idea of sex with him in my head seemed great, but when it came to the actual 'lets do it' I felt completely grossed out like I didn't want to do it.
Before you jump into conclusions, in both situations it was not because I wasn't 'ready' or because I didn't fancy them physically. I did loads...I just don't get why the actuality of sex just puts me off. I know in the long run it will affect my other relationships. I mean, sex is a part of a health relationship. I mean...getting married and saying to my husband, NO SEX EVER is a lil bizzare. Plus, I want to, want to have sex for me too.. but ughh. it's hard o explain. Do I need a doctor??
Before you jump into conclusions, in both situations it was not because I wasn't 'ready' or because I didn't fancy them physically. I did loads...I just don't get why the actuality of sex just puts me off. I know in the long run it will affect my other relationships. I mean, sex is a part of a health relationship. I mean...getting married and saying to my husband, NO SEX EVER is a lil bizzare. Plus, I want to, want to have sex for me too.. but ughh. it's hard o explain. Do I need a doctor??
Perhaps it's because you have only an imagined version of it to compare your experience to, and that once you get used to the reality of it you can overcome it's grossness.
MSD
I found the problem. You're boyfriend is a hen.
See a therapist if you're worried....
See a therapist if you're worried....
LMAO. That was funny. I am still laughing. That was funny. I am still laughing.
I have no idea what the problem is though, so don't hate me OP for laughing at said funny comment. I am still laughing.
how weird, im in EXACTLY the same situation...its weird because i fantasise about guys, i really want to have sex with them but when it actually comes to it, i always end up making excuses because at the time it makes me feel sick...i cant explain, its as if i think they will think its gross. and so that makes me think it IS gross. lol how odd, i htought i was the only person in the world who felt like this lol! good luck, i dont know what i can possibly do to overcome this either? i wasnt abused or anything as a child, i honestly cannot think of any reason why im like this 
MSD
I found the problem. You're boyfriend is a hen.
COMEDY. GOLD.
When you're naked and in bed with him, you just need to relax, lay back and let it come, no pun intended.
You might need an orgasm or three, so you know what's coming (ah, can't escape the puns!).
I found that I didn't really care about sex till I first had it, bits of it seemed quite disgusting too. After I'd done the deed I spent the next 10 years trying to get into various women's pants.
Maybe your other half could bring you off with oral, or his fingers. I think you'll feel a lot better about the whole idea with the thought of a better orgasm lingering.
I'm not a girl though, so maybe I'm full of it
I found that I didn't really care about sex till I first had it, bits of it seemed quite disgusting too. After I'd done the deed I spent the next 10 years trying to get into various women's pants.
Maybe your other half could bring you off with oral, or his fingers. I think you'll feel a lot better about the whole idea with the thought of a better orgasm lingering.
I'm not a girl though, so maybe I'm full of it
HawaiianDelight
When you're naked and in bed with him, you just need to relax, lay back and let it come, no pun intended.
DodgyTrousers
You might need an orgasm or three, so you know what's coming (ah, can't escape the puns!).
You do realise that I'm now morally obligated to kill you both?
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