Want gay sex but want a girlfriend? Does this make me bi or gay?

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I have never had sex with a woman so Im not sure if it has to do with inexperience or not. I had sex with a guy once where well I remember it . when I was a kid I did it but I dont remember it. Anyhow I'm 18 I've only had sex with one guy once anal sex and I clearly liked it. I was the bottom and a big issue I've had with is I climaxed when he climaxed inside of me. I want to do it again. I sometimes feel like I need ****. But then I want a girlfriend. I want a relationship. And I can't be in a relationship with this guy the guy I did it with because he has a girlfriend and I dont want a relationship with a guy I want a girlfriend. I generally think women are pretty and I dont want to make out with a guy. I have been talking to a girl that I asked out and we're set to be having our first date this weekend. I look forward to it. We've been talking nonstop for two weeks straight. She knows about the guy I had sex with she's bisexual herself. She kind of actually found it hot... But I worry about if this were to get more serious if I need **** how can I get to that point to have sex with a woman. I always have thresome fantasies with a guy and a girl and I like straight porn but not lesbian or gay porn. If I had to I would watch gay porn over lesbian porn. But I prefer ffm over mmf at the same time. I find male and female bodies attractive if I see either nude. I also think vaginas look different. But I don't really want to suck **** well at least large ones for obvious reasons. I would also rather a blow job over intercourse with a woman. I currently just though really want to be ****ed by my friend again and again and again and again etc.... But then there are issues with it. I have that I need to cope with. With the morality of the situation like I think I struggle with it because when I was a kid I did it with my cousin and my parents found out and I had a lot of issues with my parents. The kind of came back. But I still want to go out with this girl. And I want to see where this end up relationshipwise. But not sure how things will go sexually. Advice am I gay or bisexual?
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Also I have only pursued relationships with women. I generally want to 25-30 years from now actually settle down with a woman. Not a man.
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you are bi
dw there is nothing wrong with that at all
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I know it isn't anything wrong with it but I just don't think I'm mentally prepared to continue that type of relationship with him.
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I know it isn't anything wrong with it but I just don't think I'm mentally prepared to continue that type of relationship with him.
Hey The main thing to do is take your time and see what works for you. You're young and uncertain, which is okay and perfectly normal - you don't need to know exactly what you want in decades to come yet!

Some people, and this could be the case with you, have different romantic and sexual orientations. It's more commonly discussed with asexual people (so someone might have no interest in sexual activity, but desire romantic attraction with women) - but it's entirely possible with sexual people as well, so you could be bisexual but more interested in women romantically or as life partners. For now, by far the best thing to do is not overthink it, go with what feels right and enjoyable and take it from there! Not everyone ends up fitting into neat boxes.
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I have never had sex with a woman so Im not sure if it has to do with inexperience or not. I had sex with a guy once where well I remember it . when I was a kid I did it but I dont remember it. Anyhow I'm 18 I've only had sex with one guy once anal sex and I clearly liked it. I was the bottom and a big issue I've had with is I climaxed when he climaxed inside of me. I want to do it again. I sometimes feel like I need ****. But then I want a girlfriend. I want a relationship. And I can't be in a relationship with this guy the guy I did it with because he has a girlfriend and I dont want a relationship with a guy I want a girlfriend. I generally think women are pretty and I dont want to make out with a guy. I have been talking to a girl that I asked out and we're set to be having our first date this weekend. I look forward to it. We've been talking nonstop for two weeks straight. She knows about the guy I had sex with she's bisexual herself. She kind of actually found it hot... But I worry about if this were to get more serious if I need **** how can I get to that point to have sex with a woman. I always have thresome fantasies with a guy and a girl and I like straight porn but not lesbian or gay porn. If I had to I would watch gay porn over lesbian porn. But I prefer ffm over mmf at the same time. I find male and female bodies attractive if I see either nude. I also think vaginas look different. But I don't really want to suck **** well at least large ones for obvious reasons. I would also rather a blow job over intercourse with a woman. I currently just though really want to be ****ed by my friend again and again and again and again etc.... But then there are issues with it. I have that I need to cope with. With the morality of the situation like I think I struggle with it because when I was a kid I did it with my cousin and my parents found out and I had a lot of issues with my parents. The kind of came back. But I still want to go out with this girl. And I want to see where this end up relationshipwise. But not sure how things will go sexually. Advice am I gay or bisexual?
If I were in your shoes I'd pursue this bi girl in the hopes of having a threesome, that way you can get your **** when you need it and some tang on the side.

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You are bisexual. Not difficult to figure out, really.
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Hey The main thing to do is take your time and see what works for you. You're young and uncertain, which is okay and perfectly normal - you don't need to know exactly what you want in decades to come yet!

Some people, and this could be the case with you, have different romantic and sexual orientations. It's more commonly discussed with asexual people (so someone might have no interest in sexual activity, but desire romantic attraction with women) - but it's entirely possible with sexual people as well, so you could be bisexual but more interested in women romantically or as life partners. For now, by far the best thing to do is not overthink it, go with what feels right and enjoyable and take it from there! Not everyone ends up fitting into neat boxes.
Yeah I'm definitely only romantically attracted to women. I find both men and women sexually attractive I guess I'm unsure because I haven't done it with a woman yet
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. Advice am I gay or bisexual?
Does the label really matter though?
Is that the actual point of your thread ?
I find your story kind of fascinating
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People of loot
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People of loot
I don't think he asked the opinion of an irrational bigot
Please gtfo of here
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If I were in your shoes I'd pursue this bi girl in the hopes of having a threesome, that way you can get your **** when you need it and some tang on the side.

Hell yeah lol. But that's not the reason I'm going out with her. I actually had a crush on her since I first met her in the beginning of the year. She's like the female virgin of me I get on very well with her and its only a plus that she's beautiful.
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I don't think he asked the opinion of an irrational bigot
Please gtfo of here
Ah man sorry. What I meant to say was sodomy
Silly me!
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You are bisexual. Not difficult to figure out, really.
I guess so I kind of always knew I was sort of bi or different from most guys I just never expected to like gay as much as I did. Thats what has made me kind of question it. But I could never see myself being in a relationship a man.
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Does the label really matter though?
Is that the actual point of your thread ?
I find your story kind of fascinating
Well it matters considering I want a girlfriend you know.
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People of loot
Pretty sure its not spelled like that.. Js.
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Pretty sure its not spelled like that.. Js.
Its people of lut however lot is lut in christianity so I wanted to mix the core teachings of the abrahmic religions for you gays
Is that alright?
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I have never had sex with a woman so Im not sure if it has to do with inexperience or not. I had sex with a guy once where well I remember it . when I was a kid I did it but I dont remember it. Anyhow I'm 18 I've only had sex with one guy once anal sex and I clearly liked it. I was the bottom and a big issue I've had with is I climaxed when he climaxed inside of me. I want to do it again. I sometimes feel like I need ****. But then I want a girlfriend. I want a relationship. And I can't be in a relationship with this guy the guy I did it with because he has a girlfriend and I dont want a relationship with a guy I want a girlfriend. I generally think women are pretty and I dont want to make out with a guy. I have been talking to a girl that I asked out and we're set to be having our first date this weekend. I look forward to it. We've been talking nonstop for two weeks straight. She knows about the guy I had sex with she's bisexual herself. She kind of actually found it hot... But I worry about if this were to get more serious if I need **** how can I get to that point to have sex with a woman. I always have thresome fantasies with a guy and a girl and I like straight porn but not lesbian or gay porn. If I had to I would watch gay porn over lesbian porn. But I prefer ffm over mmf at the same time. I find male and female bodies attractive if I see either nude. I also think vaginas look different. But I don't really want to suck **** well at least large ones for obvious reasons. I would also rather a blow job over intercourse with a woman. I currently just though really want to be ****ed by my friend again and again and again and again etc.... But then there are issues with it. I have that I need to cope with. With the morality of the situation like I think I struggle with it because when I was a kid I did it with my cousin and my parents found out and I had a lot of issues with my parents. The kind of came back. But I still want to go out with this girl. And I want to see where this end up relationshipwise. But not sure how things will go sexually. Advice am I gay or bisexual?
have you ever had gay sx?
it could be just a mater of wondering what it would be like.
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Well it matters considering I want a girlfriend you know.
You are asking us whether you are bisexual or gay.
Short answer you are bisexual but you already knew it.
It would be more helpful if discussed your situation rather than try to find which category suits you best don't you think ?
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Ah man sorry. What I meant to say was sodomy
Silly me!
Oh my god that was such a witty argument I think I want to convert to Christianity... and Islam at the same time.
Thank you for showing me the right way. I really appreciate it.
Goodnight my mentor
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