Just can't cope with this anymore.

Posting anon because my mates use this... my god where do I start.. been best friends with this girl for about 5/6yrs and always been close - saw eachother every day, went on holiday together. Anyway she decided we were too close and needed space fair enough so we didn't talk properly for a while but last week we saw eachother every day, she called etc and told me she would visit me when i was at uni.
Anyway since i've been at uni she hasn't bothered to contact me once asking how i'm getting on, if i'm ok etc and to be honest she doesn't seem to care whether i'm even alive, i've text asking how she is and called but it all goes ignored and it's really upsetting me, one minute she's fine with me and we're acting like best friends and the next she's blocking me on msn because she feels like it and ignoring my texts and calls even when they're just asking if everything is ok and wanting to tell her about uni because i assumed she'd care, obviously not. Oh and she's done some weirdo limited facebook thing so i can't see her page :rolleyes:

Sorry for the length of this but i'm at breaking point here, i want to enjoy uni etc but feel very upset that i'm being treated this way, i've tried to talk to her about it and she doesn't seem to care and it gets to me how someone can treat a friend like this, especially one they have so many memories with and once told how much they loved/cared about them :frown:

Reply 1

wilky

Sounds like this "Friend" that you want to have contact from isnt your friend at all, move on is what i say! Find some friends that really do like you!

Reply 2

Somebody

It's hard, but move on. She doesn't sound awefully nice.

Not easy to do (my friend was in a very similar situation last year - though her and her (ex) best friend had to see each other every day...), but don't contact her for a day, then another day, and another. Eventually you'll start to not worry about her and able to get on with your life.

Don't let her bother you - she sounds like she's not worth your time! Go out with uni friends and concentrate on haing fun!

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Thanks guys, you're right, i just find it hard to move on and i just cannot accept the way she is treating me as it's so wrong and i can't believe how much she's changed, we used to get on amazingly and she would call me every day for a chat and now the most i hear is a random text when she gets bored and has no one else to talk to. Really upset.

Reply 4

Somebody

Anonymous

we used to get on amazingly and she would call me every day for a chat and now the most i hear is a random text when she gets bored and has no one else to talk to. Really upset.

If she texts you, ignore it. She's not worth it! She probably texts because she knows she'll get some attention from you! If you ignore her, she'll get the message that since she didn't want to know you, you don't have time for her either.

Sounds harsh, but isn't meant to be! I would probably be rather like you in this situation!

Reply 5

kyletms

forget about her - rise above it and realise that you deserve better.

alternatively, start a rumour that she has an STI - that'll learn her

Reply 6

username47781

I'd just ignore her if she is going to behave like that, but don't start any rumours like someone above suggested, it really isn't worth it and solves nothing.

Reply 7

xagx

if i were you i'd just cut her off she doesn't sound like any friend of yours, however its obvious that you dont wanna do that so from a female opinion and i guarantee you this will work and if it doesnt nothing will, u have to ignore her like shes ignoring u dont dare speak to her or get in contact until she gets in contact with u which if you hold out long enough i guarantee will happen but thats not it once shes got in contact with u act offish because no offense but she clearly knows u really like her and that isnt attractive to women, women want people they cant have if u get my gist so u need to act kinda different however dont let on that your annoyed because this shows u are bothered but just act slightly uninterested and tel her about all the cool stuff you've been up to (may involve some lies) but dont ask what shes been up to because u want to make out like u dont care.. ignore her and act uninterested long enough and she'l be putty in your hands.

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