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Why does this keep happening to me?

Wherever I go, the first few months people seem to really like me and then quite quickly they lose interest, stop inviting me out etc. This has happened at Uni, Secondary and Primary school.

I'm apparently a nice guy, I don't lie, I don't chat s*** about others, I respect people's opinions and their space yet people just don't seem to like me. In fact, I'm starting to feel really lonely. Even in my University Business Studies group chat, people no longer ever respond to my questions/messages (despite it saying seen) but they always respond to everyone else.

Why is it people always lose interest in me? Is it because I'm quite independent (people know I still like to socialise). Is it because I'm boring? What could the issue be?

It's no coincidence it's happened at every different level of education

TL;DR People initially are very interested in me, they then lose interest and if anything look down at me. Why? Got any advice?

Reply 1

BrainyBengali

If you're a nice guy, seems like you're the first to be taken for granted. It's unfair, but they're the easiest to forget about and boss around.

Keep being you - they're obvs not worth your time if they don't value you. Someone will one day :smile:

Reply 2

queenofswords

Well unfortunately loads of people think snakes are more fun an exciting to be around than nice people.

The popular girls in my secondary school were the biggest snakes around.