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Well why can't you be with him?
Are you still hung up on him because of how the relationship ended? Did he end it? I agree with RainyGal, you need closure and so if it means realising how or why the relationship ended then set out to do that, once you have, once you understand, you will be able to move on. It can't be healthy to be in that situation.
Repeated question, why can't you be with him? Surely that's one of the most important factors here?
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The reason we can't be together, it's really complicated, it isn't as if he did anything to hurt me so that's why I still love him. It's just circumstances. I know he's not perfect, but who is? and I know I'll probably find someone else eventually, but at the moment I feel crap and it's not got better since the day it happened.
So short of doing anything drastic to forget about him, I don't know what to do.
So short of doing anything drastic to forget about him, I don't know what to do.
Complicated? Elaborate, I have a lot of time tonight ^^ anything to keep me from chemistry.
Hmmm WELL I would say due to all the things mentioned above, leaving it is probably best. It might be hard but next time you talk to him, explain how you want to stop talking to him because you want to get over him and it would be hard if you kept contact. Make sure you say you will contact him when you are ready. Then just work hard at something you enjoy strive to be best at it, socialise, don't think about him, make new friends, possible make a new special friend ^^
So to summarise; talk to him about stopping contact, stop contact, delete him from your phone and contact lists, take heart in hobbies, socialise, get a nice boyfriend ^^
Hope I helped ya dear
So to summarise; talk to him about stopping contact, stop contact, delete him from your phone and contact lists, take heart in hobbies, socialise, get a nice boyfriend ^^
Hope I helped ya dear
I've walked away from someone who I've loved for eight years. During those eight years, I made damn sure that I was busy at all times. If I woke up in the middle of the night and thought about him, I forced myself to go online or to get some work done- the quality and time i spend at my work has drastically. I got my hair cut, I go out every day wearing perfect make up which takes ages to apply, I go shopping, I started kung fu classes, I read intellectual newspapers, books, etc. I volunteer at loads of places, and I also work night shifts. So I had such little time to dwell on it. When I did, I just let it be and stopped fighting it- I know I'll miss him. I know I'll cry. I let it happen, then I get over it. So long as he, and nobody else, can ever tell. When tomorrow comes, concealer and mascara will make it look like I never cried even a single tear. That's how I coped/ am coping.
sounds like you're me, just without the family crap. Unforutantely even trying to find new people doesn't help it just happens and from what people tell me you meet someone else when you do could be a while could be tomorrow but i seem to think until i meet someone worth forgetting about him it won't happen. The trick is not for it to get you down, try to make things associated with him associated with some thing else like songs...
In terms of speaking once in a while i'm guessing you 2 were best friends as well you're bound to want to speak even if you know its not what you should be doing, for those hours you do speak everything is fine again.
I would say to people i'm over it, it kind of helps but i'm pretty sure thinking about him every day isn't being over some one...it sucks but heopfully someone else comes along eh! probably haven't helped since i'm yet to be on the otherside. ah well...he's over it now apparently so at least thats one of us...
In terms of speaking once in a while i'm guessing you 2 were best friends as well you're bound to want to speak even if you know its not what you should be doing, for those hours you do speak everything is fine again.
I would say to people i'm over it, it kind of helps but i'm pretty sure thinking about him every day isn't being over some one...it sucks but heopfully someone else comes along eh! probably haven't helped since i'm yet to be on the otherside. ah well...he's over it now apparently so at least thats one of us...
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I've walked away from someone who I've loved for eight years. During those eight years, I made damn sure that I was busy at all times. If I woke up in the middle of the night and thought about him, I forced myself to go online or to get some work done- the quality and time i spend at my work has drastically. I got my hair cut, I go out every day wearing perfect make up which takes ages to apply, I go shopping, I started kung fu classes, I read intellectual newspapers, books, etc. I volunteer at loads of places, and I also work night shifts. So I had such little time to dwell on it. When I did, I just let it be and stopped fighting it- I know I'll miss him. I know I'll cry. I let it happen, then I get over it. So long as he, and nobody else, can ever tell. When tomorrow comes, concealer and mascara will make it look like I never cried even a single tear. That's how I coped/ am coping.
That is such a waste of eight years
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