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breaking up with girl friend tomorrow, bricking it.
I and my gf of 2 and a half years(friends for a year before that) have come to an agreement to split for uni tomorrow as we both leave next week. We both agreed to this along time ago - over 2 months. While i really do love her and could easilly have gone out with her for another 2 years i just feel from reading some threads on this forum and after talking to my mates that this is the most painless way to leave it. After all i would hate for something silly to happen like a one night stand and cause me to lost a girlfriend but a best friend as well.
Just looking for abit of moral support
I really cant remember life without her apart from having lots of fun with the whole chasing girls thing.
Anyone got any ideas how to recover from the loss/get back in the game.
(mostly recover from the loss at the moment)
Just looking for abit of moral support
I really cant remember life without her apart from having lots of fun with the whole chasing girls thing.Anyone got any ideas how to recover from the loss/get back in the game.
(mostly recover from the loss at the moment)
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I was with my ex for 5 years when he finished with me randomly one night! I was heartbroken for two weeks then as hard as it was I started going out with uni friends. I didnt really enjoy myself at first. But I soon got back in to the swing of things and things were great!
You really need to do whats best! Like you say the last thing you want to loose is a best friend too! So see how things go whilst apart...things do actually get easier!
You really need to do whats best! Like you say the last thing you want to loose is a best friend too! So see how things go whilst apart...things do actually get easier!
I can't think of anything that could make it easier.
It's not like, she's cheated on you, or you've been drifting apart, or your or her priorities have shifted...you're separating whilst in love. The only reason for it is your respective choice of university. Although I speak from no experience, I can only imagine how painful it will be... it will take a long time to get over her; you'll miss her, etc etc. It'll always feel like you're together due to the circumstances of the "breakup" and you may end up feeling guilty if you ever start liking someone else when you get to uni.
Good luck.
It's not like, she's cheated on you, or you've been drifting apart, or your or her priorities have shifted...you're separating whilst in love. The only reason for it is your respective choice of university. Although I speak from no experience, I can only imagine how painful it will be... it will take a long time to get over her; you'll miss her, etc etc. It'll always feel like you're together due to the circumstances of the "breakup" and you may end up feeling guilty if you ever start liking someone else when you get to uni.
Good luck.
haha i bet theres girls sat thinking 'uhoh.. i hope thats not my boyfriend'
I thought it for a second and then... well... hopefully not :P
But yeah, thats pretty crappy. Me and my boyfriend decided to give it a go just because distance alone didnt seem a good enough reason until wed atleast given it a go, but theres no saying if it will work or not.
And sat here whilst hes at uni I know how painful it is when you love someone and theyve done nothing wrong, but you cant be together
Grr being in love !
I thought it for a second and then... well... hopefully not :P
But yeah, thats pretty crappy. Me and my boyfriend decided to give it a go just because distance alone didnt seem a good enough reason until wed atleast given it a go, but theres no saying if it will work or not.
And sat here whilst hes at uni I know how painful it is when you love someone and theyve done nothing wrong, but you cant be together
Grr being in love !
Going to uni is no reason to split with her - you love her, and I assume she loves you, so I don't see why don't you just make the effort to make it work? Loads of long distance relationships work out fine, my own included!
I think you'd be as well trying to make it work, if it doesn't at least you gave it a shot.
I and my gf of 2 and a half years(friends for a year before that) have come to an agreement to split for uni tomorrow as we both leave next week. We both agreed to this along time ago - over 2 months. While i really do love her and could easilly have gone out with her for another 2 years
Are most of your "loves" as dispensible as this?Anyone got any ideas how to recover from the loss/get back in the game.
Don't be stupid. Prostitution isn't the answer.
Angel83
Think hard about this, you may end up regretting it for the rest of your life. So what about other negative experiences - live your own life not theirs.
I get the impression that when he says he and his girlfriend have "come to an agreement" about it, it means they've already thought properly about it and talked about it together; I very much doubt it's a rash decision.
There could be regrets either way though; if he stuck with his girlfriend it could mean he missed opportunities to have fun or meet someone new at university, which could mean that later on he regrets not making the most of the new start university gives you. It's entirely possible that he might end up later on feeling that he should have at least tried to make it work whilst he and his girlfriend were at uni, but with an important decision like this there are upsides and downsides to either choice.
Are you a total fool?
As far as I can see, you don't have a real reason to break up. Why would you give up someone you truly love? Is being a Jack-the-lad who gets a different girl every night really preferable to being with someone you love and have a history with?
While it's true that not all LDRs do work, they can work - I've been in an LDR for three years, and that's with us being in two different countries. We love each other and we make it work - so if you and your girlfriend love each other, why can't you?
As far as I can see, you don't have a real reason to break up. Why would you give up someone you truly love? Is being a Jack-the-lad who gets a different girl every night really preferable to being with someone you love and have a history with?
While it's true that not all LDRs do work, they can work - I've been in an LDR for three years, and that's with us being in two different countries. We love each other and we make it work - so if you and your girlfriend love each other, why can't you?
It seems you are simply breaking up with her because of Uni and the perception that the grass is greener on the otherside. Obviously if you are going to sleep around at Uni then yeah break up with her. But it seems such a waste to do that when you say you do love her.
Can't help but feel you are just staying with her until tomorrow just so you can have your cake and eat it.
Can't help but feel you are just staying with her until tomorrow just so you can have your cake and eat it.
have my cake and eat it? what the hell?
People are calling me rash and having a go at me for no reason. Both myself and gf have talked about this for months and have even had this week decided for the last month or so. The way i see it is that most uni relationships do not work. I really want to leave it in a position where we can stay friends. While i understand the view "if you love each how could you split up". I would much prefer just to split up now and avoid possible even harder situations where something silly could happen and i could end up losing a really good friend. Besides two years is a very long time for an 18year old to have a girlfriend i dont want to regret going out with someone for so long while i was young if we ended up breaking up anyway.
People are calling me rash and having a go at me for no reason. Both myself and gf have talked about this for months and have even had this week decided for the last month or so. The way i see it is that most uni relationships do not work. I really want to leave it in a position where we can stay friends. While i understand the view "if you love each how could you split up". I would much prefer just to split up now and avoid possible even harder situations where something silly could happen and i could end up losing a really good friend. Besides two years is a very long time for an 18year old to have a girlfriend i dont want to regret going out with someone for so long while i was young if we ended up breaking up anyway.
I would much prefer just to split up now and avoid possible even harder situations where something silly could happen and i could end up losing a really good friend.
If you already think now that something "silly" could happen, then you obviously can't be in as much love as you say. I reckon you are definitely doing the right thing breaking up.
i dont want to regret going out with someone for so long while i was young if we ended up breaking up anyway.
Huh? Does anybody regret going out with someone for "so long" (provided their time together was happy and fulfilling)?
Anonymous
have my cake and eat it? what the hell?
People are calling me rash and having a go at me for no reason. Both myself and gf have talked about this for months and have even had this week decided for the last month or so. The way i see it is that most uni relationships do not work. I really want to leave it in a position where we can stay friends. While i understand the view "if you love each how could you split up". I would much prefer just to split up now and avoid possible even harder situations where something silly could happen and i could end up losing a really good friend. Besides two years is a very long time for an 18year old to have a girlfriend i dont want to regret going out with someone for so long while i was young if we ended up breaking up anyway.
People are calling me rash and having a go at me for no reason. Both myself and gf have talked about this for months and have even had this week decided for the last month or so. The way i see it is that most uni relationships do not work. I really want to leave it in a position where we can stay friends. While i understand the view "if you love each how could you split up". I would much prefer just to split up now and avoid possible even harder situations where something silly could happen and i could end up losing a really good friend. Besides two years is a very long time for an 18year old to have a girlfriend i dont want to regret going out with someone for so long while i was young if we ended up breaking up anyway.
So because most uni relationships don't work, you want to make sure that yours doesn't work?
That's like saying that because most people die from cancer, you might as well kill yourself if you get cancer.
Anonymous
I and my gf of 2 and a half years(friends for a year before that) have come to an agreement to split for uni tomorrow as we both leave next week. We both agreed to this along time ago - over 2 months. While i really do love her and could easilly have gone out with her for another 2 years i just feel from reading some threads on this forum and after talking to my mates that this is the most painless way to leave it. After all i would hate for something silly to happen like a one night stand and cause me to lost a girlfriend but a best friend as well.
Just looking for abit of moral support I really cant remember life without her apart from having lots of fun with the whole chasing girls thing.
Anyone got any ideas how to recover from the loss/get back in the game.
(mostly recover from the loss at the moment)
Just looking for abit of moral support
I really cant remember life without her apart from having lots of fun with the whole chasing girls thing.Anyone got any ideas how to recover from the loss/get back in the game.
(mostly recover from the loss at the moment)
i dont think i could do what your doing. its sounds so much like my relationship. my bf and i have decided to be email gf/bf however stupid that may be lol x
I understand how you feel, because me and my boyfriend thought about spliting up before uni. We have been together 18 months, and we decided to give t a go.I was initially terrified about what would happen, and thought maybe I was doing the wrong thing. But after this first week I have been at uni all my fears have gone. It just fells right, and I know that we can get through it. So at least give it a go - don't just throw your relationship away when you might have made it work. By now though you may have already split up, so this advice could be useless.
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