What should I do?

I *think* this belongs in here as it's basically about a relationship. Well my relationship with my mom.

Basically, now I've started at Uni she's ringing me every day at least twice asking me what I'm doing, where I've been, what's for dinner, basically interrogating me. So I told her today that it annoys me a bit, in a joke(ish) manner because her 2 brothers do that to each other just to ignore them so i said to her, "I know how (my uncle) feels now!" . I kind of meant it because it does annoy me.

Why should I have to tell her EVERYTHING I've been doing, EVERY day? Does anyone else's mom do this?

Or have I just been plain nasty to her? I dunno.

EDIT: I have "bumped" this old post as it is relevant. Please see new post at the bottom. Thanks.

Reply 1

Metrobeans

You're not being nasty. Your mum probably hasn't got used to you not living there any more.

I think you should tell her that she needs to stop as politely and delicately as you can. After all, she's only doing it because she cares, and proabably doesn't realise that it's frustrating for you. Maybe you could offer to send her emails or phone at times to suit you.

Reply 2

Citizen Zero

My parents phone asking about dinner, going out, what you doing now etc etc!

It's normal; she's just worried about you. Once she knows you're fine, she'll cut you some slack!

Reply 3

Addi

Question, are you the first of her children to leave home?

Doesnt sound nasty to me, but pretty soon you'd exause all forms of conversation if you're talking twice a day. Suggest a nice long chat once a week and only tell her the details you want to when you do talk.

Reply 4

That would drive me mental. I'm thinking of instigating at least a two week gap in conversations once I move away on Saturday. I couldn't cope with being constantly checked up on or nagged into explaining what I'd done at every minute of every day...

Reply 5

noodles!

Yeah, I'm the first to go to Uni in a long time since my Aunt around 30 years ago =/

I know I shouldn't let it annoy me. She claims I'm not chatty enough, but if I want to tell her something I'll tell her... I know she's just worried but when she phones I sound grumpy BECAUSE shes phoned and then she thinks I'm miserable here (for those who read my last rant on here about Uni, I'm OK now...).

Reply 6

geebs2005

yea shes probs just letting you know even though you are at uni and stuff shes still there for you and stuff tryin to make you feel loved etc

Reply 7

Rainygal

I'd perhaps tell her that you'll ring her when you're free instead of you ringing her?

Reply 8

noodles!

I'm bringing this thread back up because what I said in my original post still stands. I do talk to my mom when she phones me and has something to talk about, or if I ring her and want to know something etc.

But when she rings for no reason and all she can say to me is "what you doing" it just... annoys me really. Still.

You can tell me she's missing me but I've been home twice at the weekend and I've still gotten aggro, like telling me I can't go somewhere etc. So I'm now not going back til Christmas I think.

And yet despite all this my cousin told me today that my mom told her that I upset her by not talking and now I feel guilty but I have nothing to say to her sometimes!!