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Think I might be antisocial!

I think I might be an anti-social person. Not in the hoody-throwing-beer-cans-at-old-ladies sense but in that sitting around in my room watching a dvd or whatever by myself is just as appealing as sitting about with other people. Maybe I just need more alone time than other people. I don't want to be anti-social!

Plus I am too lazy to make new friends. I'll hang out with the people in the halls but actually making really good friends seems to me to be an organic process rather than the forced number-taking and telling everything about yourselves right away in order to form a friendship. I just can't be bothered with that.

Please tell me it's not just me...

Reply 1

samba

I'm the same. I have no time for random inane chatter or banalities with random people for the sake of it. Nothing inherently wrong with it though.

Reply 2

Artemidoros.

I'm exactly the same, i'm into forming groups of friends and all that jazz

Reply 3

qubog

Ahh thanks guys I feel better now. A lot of people on TSR seem to be of the opinion that everyone has to make friends, and lots of them. Whilst I have nothing against that I just don't see the point in making lots of friends just for the sake of it. I'm past the age when being popular really matters :smile:

Reply 4

Robob

I prefer to have more than just a select bunch, but it's each to their own I guess.

Reply 5

Panda xxtrex

Hell, I'm the same. I get the impression that most of the people that frequent this forum are.

As introverts we may be shy and reserved, but we have depth, to which I certainly prefer than to being the opposite extrovert, you know, loud and outspoken (and dumb :-/ ). :cool:

Reply 6

Unique Brunette

im exactly the same... and i don't think its anti-social.
if we're happy that way then good for us :smile:

sometimes, being away from ppl is the best thing :p:

Reply 7

k-lee C

you're not anti-social! tis more than fine to be disenchanted with the superficial chit-chat that usually goes on. i love making friends, but a few real ones rather than just hundreds of acquaintences (i.e. drinking buddies). less is more. quality not quantity. and so forth :biggrin:

also, op, i am in love with your avatar :love:

Reply 8

generalebriety

The word is "unsociable", not "anti-social". :wink:

I'm with k-lee C on this.

Reply 9

xeonman9000

Maybe you should stop watching so much Peep Show (I often think I'm turning into Mark).
Then again, it's so true to life that there's no point in making a friend, they'll probably just turn out to be racist.

Reply 10

Elements

You're not the only ones! I am like that too. :smile:

Agree and identify with alot of what has been said here. :yy:

Reply 11

Robob

I'm in the minority :frown:

Maybe I should go make my own thread :p:

Reply 12

Psychos

I was in Queens Halls last year and I ended up being pretty anti-social. I got dropped in floor where everyone was pretty much a dance crazed maniac so theyd play loud music to all hours, came home drunk at ungodly hours in the morning and then play football in the tight corridors. Just wasnt my cup of tea tbh, I prefer a more low key atmosphere, so I was usually the guy who appeared for like 20 seconds then disappeared into his room.

I tried a few times to spark friendships, while I was on friendly terms with most people on the floor....it was pretty obvious I wasnt going to gel with them on a great level so why even bother pushing it.

Either way, do what you're happy with, If you couldnt be bothered to socialize, then don't, as long as you can do so ofc.

Also, anti social should be the correct term, back in the day it used to describe the nerdy people who stayed in the attic reading comics and stuff (an obvious exaggeration) but, nowadays politics has it applying to yobs and such....which is annoying.

Reply 13

Francophobia

I'm the same -- I prefer having a small group of close friends who I actually have things in common with to a large group of acquaintances who I, well, don't.
Being introverted isn't being 'anti-social'; it just means that you find solitude more relaxing than socialising, and there's nothing wrong with that. It's just a way of being. :smile:

Reply 14

qubog

xeonman9000

Hah, i'm not Mark but I think I might be Jeremy. My boyfriend and I have had loads of rows along the lines of Jeremy saying to Mark "you're always doing posh spazzy things like tidying up and ironing your socks!"

Thanks everyone for the responses, I feel a lot better now for not wanting to be best friends with the entire uni. I will now enjoy sitting in my room with a cup of tea all the more :biggrin:

Reply 15

Charlieee

I'm so glad I'm not the only one who doesn't have that many friends at uni. Whenever I hear of others at uni it always seems like they have loads of friends and they party every night, whereas it isn't the same for me.
I have a few friends at uni, although I don't see them too often and prefer chatting to my mates at home on the internet, but sometimes I just feel really shy and don't see the fun in going out drinking and getting drunk.
I'd find sitting and chatting and watching dvd's or playing games more fun to be honest!