Asking a girl 'out'

Ok, so there's this girl I think I quite like who lives nearby. I see her most days and just idle chitchat occurs for a few minutes before we carry on with our days.

How do I approach this? Usually girls come to me and make the effort in getting a friendship started and once there's a basic level of friendship I feel a lot more confident in pushing a more romantic line. So this is all new to me approaching a girl who I'm not really friends with.

Any hints?

Reply 1

Psychos

Usually girls come to me and make the effort in getting a friendship started

*envies* lol just kidding..... :cool:

Reply 2

Tyler Durden

17

joeawful

Ok, so there's this girl I think I quite like who lives nearby. I see her most days and just idle chitchat occurs for a few minutes before we carry on with our days.

How do I approach this? Usually girls come to me and make the effort in getting a friendship started and once there's a basic level of friendship I feel a lot more confident in pushing a more romantic line. So this is all new to me approaching a girl who I'm not really friends with.

Any hints?

Hint 1: it's a good thing that you're not friends, it will make things easier.

Hint 2: say something along the lines of:

"I can tell you're getting frustrated at only being able to see me for these few, short minutes every day... so I have a plan! Then you give her your phone/a piece of paper and pen and tell her to write down her number."

or, if you are both free at that point say something similar before getting her to go and have a coffee with you then and there. Then get her number at the end.

Reply 3

strongmotive

Not sure about the whole coffee idea if I was honest, make a move, be outgoing take her somewhere where she will like, i can't see coffee being a great move unless you're taking her to borders.

Reply 4

Tyler Durden

17

strongmotive

Not sure about the whole coffee idea if I was honest, make a move, be outgoing take her somewhere where she will like, i can't see coffee being a great move unless you're taking her to borders.

This isn't their 50th wedding anniversary.

He doesn't really know the girl yet... how is he even meant to know what she likes?

Reply 5

strongmotive

Sehnsucht

This isn't their 50th wedding anniversary.

He doesn't really know the girl yet... how is he even meant to know what she likes?

Well he could ask friends or smth like that, but what I'm saying is people could think more outside the box when asking a girl 'out' rather than the good ol' we'll go have a drink.

Reply 6

Tyler Durden

17

strongmotive

Well he could ask friends or smth like that, but what I'm saying is people could think more outside the box when asking a girl 'out' rather than the good ol' we'll go have a drink.

Hang on, let me get this straight, you want this guy to hunt down her friends and ask them what this girl might like to do on a first date?? Gotta say, that'd be pretty weird...

The perfect thing about going for coffee is that if you decide that the girl's actually worth spending time with and that you like her, you can go and find something else to do afterwards. And if not, you're not stuck somewhere for hours with someone you don't wanna be with having spent a tonne of cash.

The only way guys need to think outside the box is by not attempting to impress the girl with lavish first-dates. Impress her with yourself. It's your chance to get to find out if she's worth your time, not your chance to do absolutely everything you can possibly think of to try to trick her into seeing you again (that covers things like stupidly expensive meals, buying loads of drinks, etc).

Coffee is a place to start. That's all. But a very good place to start!

Reply 7

Pixie_256

I agree with the majority, take her for coffee/drink and get her number at the end :smile:

Reply 8

sweetfloss

15

Maid_Marian

I agree with the majority, take her for coffee/drink and get her number at the end :smile:

Seconded. As a girl, that would be an approach I wouldn't be intimidated by; rather than popping a line and trying to get my number straight off!

Reply 9

happy watermelon

Maid_Marian

I agree with the majority, take her for coffee/drink and get her number at the end :smile:

yep...go with the coffee!
it would look scary and stalkerish if you approached her friends to find out what she liked.

Asking a girl 'out'

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