Conditions of Cheating

If a partner, in a relationship, uses intimate discussion with others online to gain sexual gratification, is that an act of cheating, compromising the relationship sufficiently enough to warrant one partner leaving the other.

Opinions and experiences please, welcome from hetero and homo individuals.

Reply 1

Tyrannosaurus Cal

15

Depends on the partner. I'd feel betrayed, even if it's not completely "cheating"

Reply 2

Bubblebee

15

Not in my book no. :redface:

Reply 3

nanananabatman

10

I don't quite know if I'd term it as cheating.

Reply 4

Schmokie Dragon

17

Kanet

If a partner, in a relationship, uses intimate discussion with others online to gain sexual gratification, is that an act of cheating, compromising the relationship sufficiently enough to warrant one partner leaving the other.

Opinions and experiences please, welcome from hetero and homo individuals.

(By "you", I mean anyone in this situation)

There are no black-and-white rules. If you know your partner considers cyber-sex/internet flirting/porn or whatever to be cheating, you have a duty to uphold that if you want the relationship to work. By all means discuss boundaries, but it is rarely excusable to do something that your partner would be unhappy with (in a cheating sense) simply because you disagree with them. If you have a different idea as to what is cheating, talk about it together.

Some people are fine with sharing partners, or letting their partner have sex with others. Some don't mind drunken kisses. Some think internet talk is alright, and some don't like you looking at your preferred sex at all. If you are not happy with the boundaries, and can't come to an agreement, leave. But don't cheat.

So yes, if you know they don't like what you plan to get up to, and you do it, they are perfectly entitled to leave.

Reply 5

bunthulhu

14

mynameiscal

Depends on the partner. I'd feel betrayed, even if it's not completely "cheating"

Same here. Depending on the individual circumstances, i.e. if they knew the person in real life, or had plans to meet up, there was any emotional involvement, some sort of progression - I'd class it as cheating. If not, still a definite betrayel and one which I wouldn't tolerate.

Reply 6

bubblepopelectrik

If it were me, then I would probably be hurt and upset. But I don't know if it would be worth splitting up over!

Reply 7

stepheh

12

i don't mind porn.
But if my boyf was actually talking to someone.. that wouldn't be on at all

Reply 8

tis_me_lord

14

Don't do anythin' you wouldn't do in front of your partner.

Reply 9

louisedotcom

13

I dont think id be over the moon about it, but talking dirty to someone online (I assume thats what you mean) doesnt constitite 'cheating' in my opinion, and I wouldnt end an otherwise good realtionship because of it.

Reply 10

BlackHawk

17

It totally depends on the relationship. Some couples are happy to flirt with, and kiss other people without it being cheating. A couple should know the ground rules with regards to things like this. As each relationship is different, it's hard to judge.

Reply 11

Goodkat

It depends on the specific circumstances; what was said etc

I'd be pretty pissed off about it though, I don't know how I would react; as it say it depends on the individual circumstances. Either way, it wouldn't be good for my partner I tell you that.

Reply 12

generalebriety

16

From the perspective of a "homo individual", I think this boils down to ridiculous semantics. If your partner's not happy with it then it's cheating.

Reply 13

danny8522003

It depends on the relationship.

I don't see why doing something you enjoy or 'gain sexual gratification from' should cause a relationship to break down if there's a strong enough relationship there in the first place.

Both members of the relationship have to be happy however, so if the other person feels uncomfortable about it then come to a comprimise.

There's a lot more that can be said, but suffice to say outrightly breaking up with someone over this is silly.

Reply 14

sweetfloss

15

Kanet

If a partner, in a relationship, uses intimate discussion with others online to gain sexual gratification, is that an act of cheating, compromising the relationship sufficiently enough to warrant one partner leaving the other.

Opinions and experiences please, welcome from hetero and homo individuals.

I dunno about cheating, but I'd feel pretty damn betrayed!

Reply 15

Hel

Schmokie Dragon

(By "you", I mean anyone in this situation)

There are no black-and-white rules. If you know your partner considers cyber-sex/internet flirting/porn or whatever to be cheating, you have a duty to uphold that if you want the relationship to work. By all means discuss boundaries, but it is rarely excusable to do something that your partner would be unhappy with (in a cheating sense) simply because you disagree with them. If you have a different idea as to what is cheating, talk about it together.

Some people are fine with sharing partners, or letting their partner have sex with others. Some don't mind drunken kisses. Some think internet talk is alright, and some don't like you looking at your preferred sex at all. If you are not happy with the boundaries, and can't come to an agreement, leave. But don't cheat.

So yes, if you know they don't like what you plan to get up to, and you do it, they are perfectly entitled to leave.

All perfectly said. I agree completely. I keep finding more and more reasons to rep you. :wink:

If I haven't done it already, you'll get one from me soon!

Reply 16

Schmokie Dragon

17

aww, yay!

Reply 17

lea164

conditions of cheating depends on the relationship. Its like some people see flirting with the opposite sex as cheating whereas others only see actual intercourse as cheating. In a relationship it is best to talk about what you personally constitute as cheating or being unfaithfull so as not to end up hurting the other person.

Reply 18

Brown Eyed Girl

I wouldn't be happy, But Its not like your bf/gf running of and having Sex. I would definitely not be happy if my bf was going on line and "cybering" with random women...

But I wouldn't turn around and go, OK, Bye bye now.

Reply 19

ßlαcksωαn

17

I wouldn't like him to do that. Because it would probably be behind my back and I'm not into lying and keeping secrets and that crap. I wouldn't say 'it's over, piss off', though I would tell him my thoughts on it and to stop it.

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