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Am I lazy or is it more complex than that?

I'm perplexed by the sheer struggle that it takes me to find the willpower to do the smallest of necessities, to the point where it has hindered my career, relationships, and life circumstances in general. I feel I've missed out on much and don't want to in the future(I'm 26). So am I congenitally lazy, or could it be something more complex that I don't understand, some abnormal behavioural or thought process? Help appreciated greatly.

Reply 1

Sweyn Forkbeard

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What do you do when you could be doing other (useful) things?

Reply 2

naivesincerity

OP

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go on the web, go for walks etc

Reply 3

Sweyn Forkbeard

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Right - so would you say that computers and the Internet take up a considerable amount of your time to the point where your automatic response to boredom is to open your browser?

Reply 4

naivesincerity

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Yeah I guess, but it's not always been the case-at uni I had no PC and went for walks and listened to music

Reply 5

naivesincerity

OP

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Help really would be most appreciated.. perhaps someone has similar experiences?

Reply 6

ph9

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you could be depressed or have low self esteem or something like that.

you depressed?

OP

don't think so no

Totally know what you mean. I am massively lazy and it does screw your life up. I'm considering seeing a doctor as I think I might have some tiredness thing going on. Also it may just be a motivational thing like you haven't found anything to feel passionate about. If you get into the habit of being lazy it tends to get worse as it becomes a struggle to do even the most basic things.

Reply 9

=nuke=

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I think I'm a tiny bit similar; I have a million ideas and goals and things but I never actually get anything done. I prefer to sit around and think or go for a walk... and think. I'm more of a thinking ladyface than a doing ladyface and it's not really a good way to be on this planet.

Reply 10

ph9

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are you a ridiculously anxious person?

you could just... you know, be really lazy. but since you say you're 26 and it's affected your career and life in a big way, i don't know, that sounds a bit past laziness to me

Reply 11

naivesincerity

OP

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Guy Secretan

Also it may just be a motivational thing like you haven't found anything to feel passionate about.

That's the weird thing I am in an understated way quite passionate, I have dreams, it's just that I kind of live in an abstract world.

Reply 12

Guy Secretan

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naivesincerity

That's the weird thing I am in an understated way quite passionate, I have dreams, it's just that I kind of live in an abstract world.

Yeah I can totally relate like I go on walks, sometimes I sit and feed the swans for an hour or so and think about the economy and random crap. I am thinking of joing a gym and also maybe going on testosterone patches or something because apparently they give you more energy. I know what you mean though I have tried loads of things but always go back to thinking for hours on end or going on TSR lol rather than doing work.

Reply 13

ph9

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does this mean you are generally chilled out people? you don't get stressed? because if so, that's amazing and i wouldn't mind swapping

Reply 14

naivesincerity

OP

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Haha at least someone feels the same. but you can't have been too horrifically affected, I mean you work as a doc, right?

Reply 15

=nuke=

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ph9

does this mean you are generally chilled out people? you don't get stressed? because if so, that's amazing and i wouldn't mind swapping

I can't speak for anybody else but I think it's quite stressful; the people around you want you to do a million wonderful things and you just can't get them done. And it's quite frustrating as well. I have a load of ideas for a TV show and I'm trying to write it at the moment... I don't doubt myself or my ability to get it out there but I just keep putting it off and think about it instead.

Reply 16

Marlowe

You think you're lazy, yet you (presumably) went to Cambridge?

You got four As at A-level, requiring either private school or a considerable amount of work/attendance at state school. I don't think a 'congenitally' lazy person could find the fortitude to achieve something like that.

I think it's probably just a mental rut you've found yourself stuck in.

Reply 17

naivesincerity

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Marlowe

You think you're lazy, yet you (presumably) went to Cambridge?

You got four As at A-level, requiring either private school or a considerable amount of work/attendance at state school. I don't think a 'congenitally' lazy person could find the fortitude to achieve something like that.

I think it's probably just a mental rut you've found yourself stuck in.

I don't know where you got all that from. That someone else's profile you've read?

Reply 18

Guy Secretan

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naivesincerity

Haha at least someone feels the same. but you can't have been too horrifically affected, I mean you work as a doc, right?

Are you be serious? If so google Guy Sercretan Although incidently I did apply to do medicine though was rejected because of below parr grades which I attribute largely to this problem.