Hi everyone,
Just a bit of context. My boyfriend is 25, I'm 17 (please no comments and digs about the age gap, theres 17 years between my parents, its nothing major to us) and his friend is getting married next year. We've been together 7 months so not a really long time but we basically live together (he's only home a few nights a week, & when he was laid off from work he lived with me for a few months) and we're really close. We have a really open & honest relationship and can talk about stuff openly, and I've spoken about this to him but we can't come up with a solution.
In short, his friends stag do will more than likely involve strippers (the friend in question is really into that idea).
I don't like to admit this but this makes me feel insanely jealous and insecure, and I worry about him being attracted to these strippers, getting off over them, or whatever. Whatever it is I feel really off about it and when he told me I literally had to try and stop myself from crying over it in front of him, as I didn't want to make him feel bad. I've spoken to him about it and he said he can just go on his phone when it happens or leave the room. But he's easily peer pressured and after a few drinks / under the influence of his pushy friends, I said I don't think he'd be able to say no, and he actually upon thinking about it agreed. He's very dedicated and said he'd rather not go than it jeopardise our relationship, and I don't want that to happen: firstly I don't want to cause a rift between him and his friends and secondly who am I to control what he does? He's his own person & I totally respect that, it's just some things like this do really bother me.
Further, the friend in question is, in my eyes, a bit of a dick really. He's very patronising and makes fun of my boyfriend all the time for coming down to see me (he lives over an hour away and drives up every Friday after work to spend the weekend with me) etc etc, and so having a mature conversation with him (i.e my boyfriend going to talk to him about it) isn't an option either because he'd just poke fun at him or whatever.
I'm really stuck on what to do and honestly feel bad for feeling this way. Does anyone have any advice? Thank you!