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Do some people naturally command more respect, regardless of their actions?
I think we all maybe have earnest or silly moments where we have felt a bit stupid or not commanded much respect. My query is does everyone have to earn being well regarded or seen as attractive or respected or whatever, by the content of what they say and the effort they make with how they present themselves, or do some people just naturally command more respect or are seen as more attractive/desirable to a degree regardless of the specifics of what they say? Can they get away with silly moments more and have people still regarding them well?
I hope that made as much sense as it did in my head, hope someone knows what I'm getting at.
I hope that made as much sense as it did in my head, hope someone knows what I'm getting at.
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I mean to say not just about respect, but about desirability to the opposite sex also...
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I believe the answer is yes - some people naturally command more respect or attraction, regardless of what they do or say. Humans are mostly pretty judgmental. When we meet people we make all sorts of inner assumptions and associations based on how they dress, their facial features, their height, and how they hold themselves. Someone with a baby face isn't taken as seriously as someone with an older looking face. People who slouch or have shifty eyes don't command as much respect as people who stand up straight and speak with a firm voice.
Sexual attraction is another matter entirely. Although the things people do and say can make up for a certain lack of looks, I have definitely found myself much more attracted to people I knew nothing about than guys I knew to be nice or smart. Attraction is an individual and sometime inexplainable thing though, so I'm not quite sure what kind of comments you're looking for on that topic.
Sexual attraction is another matter entirely. Although the things people do and say can make up for a certain lack of looks, I have definitely found myself much more attracted to people I knew nothing about than guys I knew to be nice or smart. Attraction is an individual and sometime inexplainable thing though, so I'm not quite sure what kind of comments you're looking for on that topic.
I think some people do have a head start in regards to gaining respect due to their physical appearance or their general demeanor. I think everyone knows someone that has so much charisma that they can get away with doing or saying pretty much anything even though most other people would be judged for doing the same thing.
Personally if I had to choose one characteristic that commands respect I would plump for confidence. It is hard to not respect someone that clearly respects themselves and seems so self assured that they do not have to be concerned about how others are perceiving them.
Personally if I had to choose one characteristic that commands respect I would plump for confidence. It is hard to not respect someone that clearly respects themselves and seems so self assured that they do not have to be concerned about how others are perceiving them.
I'm tall and I don't
some people naturally command the respect of others simply by thier bearing.
Some give off natural airs of authority
some people are instinctively trusted (I am - people turn to me with thier problems)
Its just the way tehy are. Some people are natural leaders
Some give off natural airs of authority
some people are instinctively trusted (I am - people turn to me with thier problems)
Its just the way tehy are. Some people are natural leaders
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I think we all maybe have earnest or silly moments where we have felt a bit stupid or not commanded much respect. My query is does everyone have to earn being well regarded or seen as attractive or respected or whatever, by the content of what they say and the effort they make with how they present themselves, or do some people just naturally command more respect or are seen as more attractive/desirable to a degree regardless of the specifics of what they say? Can they get away with silly moments more and have people still regarding them well?
I hope that made as much sense as it did in my head, hope someone knows what I'm getting at.
I hope that made as much sense as it did in my head, hope someone knows what I'm getting at.
I do and I think how attractive someone is can make a difference, depending how shallow the other people are, particularly if it's the opposite sex.
People have different idea's of what respect means.
Some people demand a certain level of respect, they do not need to earn it.
The same trait one might find respectable in a person, another might find the complete opposite.
We as individuels hold a certain level of influence of how we are percieved.
We each harness the power of self control and self awareness and should generally have an idea of how our words and actions effect other peoples reactions to, and perceptions of ourselves.
its all in the eye of the beholder.
Some people demand a certain level of respect, they do not need to earn it.
The same trait one might find respectable in a person, another might find the complete opposite.
We as individuels hold a certain level of influence of how we are percieved.
We each harness the power of self control and self awareness and should generally have an idea of how our words and actions effect other peoples reactions to, and perceptions of ourselves.
its all in the eye of the beholder.
Anonymous
I think we all maybe have earnest or silly moments where we have felt a bit stupid or not commanded much respect. My query is does everyone have to earn being well regarded or seen as attractive or respected or whatever, by the content of what they say and the effort they make with how they present themselves, or do some people just naturally command more respect or are seen as more attractive/desirable to a degree regardless of the specifics of what they say? Can they get away with silly moments more and have people still regarding them well?
I hope that made as much sense as it did in my head, hope someone knows what I'm getting at.
I hope that made as much sense as it did in my head, hope someone knows what I'm getting at.
Of course some people are naturally more likely to command respect and be found attractive. For one thing, if a person is good looking it will help (I read somewhere that good looking people earn more on average, for example). But the main quality that wins people over is charisma and charm. If you have both of those then people are going to be a lot less critical in their assessment of the actual meaning of the things you say. Charisma is essentially about emotion. It's beyond the meaning found by the sum of the of the words a person speaks. It's not logical, but it's extremely powerful.
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Of course some people are naturally more likely to command respect and be found attractive. For one thing, if a person is good looking it will help (I read somewhere that good looking people earn more on average, for example). But the main quality that wins people over is charisma and charm. If you have both of those then people are going to be a lot less critical in their assessment of the actual meaning of the things you say. Charisma is essentially about emotion. It's beyond the meaning found by the sum of the of the words a person speaks. It's not logical, but it's extremely powerful.
I don't think it's looks so much or how attractive a person is. I think there's lots of fairly unattractive people who command respect simply by their attitude and their presence more than their looks. I'm not going to respect someone because they're good looking, I think if anything, I'm going to respect them less, but if a person has strong eye contact, an authoritative air, sharp to the point speech then they're far more likely to gain respect.
Let me give an example. I was enjoying a night in with a girl I'd met and invited round my place, she was talking about it being her 30th and I made some inane earnest comment like 'my sister's 30' whilst we were having an intimateish moment, she just bluntly goes, 'enough talk of your sister' in this condescending disrespectful, blunt way. And I thought well, if I was really charismatic and attractive to her, surely I would be wearing the trousers more and she wouldn't give much of a **** if I said something a little silly because she'd be wanting me and have a good view of me. I guess the alternative view is that she did regard me well but was trying to stand up for herself and not seem like she was that taken or impressed with me.
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Let me give an example. I was enjoying a night in with a girl I'd met and invited round my place, she was talking about it being her 30th and I made some inane earnest comment like 'my sister's 30' whilst we were having an intimateish moment, she just bluntly goes, 'enough talk of your sister' in this condescending disrespectful, blunt way. And I thought well, if I was really charismatic and attractive to her, surely I would be wearing the trousers more and she wouldn't give much of a **** if I said something a little silly because she'd be wanting me and have a good view of me. I guess the alternative view is that she did regard me well but was trying to stand up for herself and not seem like she was that taken or impressed with me.
What a bitch
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What a bitch
I took it 'cos I was in bed with her and kissing her, and I had quite an ego at that moment.
NW8_SW1_EC3
What a bitch
What would you have done, considering the rest of the evening was intimate and great.
Honestly, that sounds more like she was annoyed that your every thought wasn't consumed with getting into her pants at the time. Women are very sensitive you know! (</patronise>)
Do some people command more respect? I think so yes, and has been mentioned before it's mostly about confidence. For example, there's a girl I go to college with, she's rich, very attractive and kinda forceful. However, she's also deeply insecure and it shows whenever it can. Fishing for compliments, telling you how other attractive women aren't actually attractive for whatever reason that sort of thing.
She thinks she's the bees knees and lets you know it, but she's also pretty needy. So she really forces the "I'm great" attitude and it's grating. There's only so much you can hear about her before you just want her to shut up and consider the rest of the planet If she were genuinely confident, she probably wouldn't be so forceful and would be more likeable. Despite all those things she has going for her physically, she's her own worst enemy.
On the other side, there's a girl I sit with in psychology who's absolutely drop-dead gorgeous...but doesn't seem to know it. She's not loud, not quiet and not full of herself. She's also obviously intelligent and *gasp* listens to you when you speak. She is vastly more commanding of respect, despite the fact she's not rich or loud. She's also very warm, which I think helps.
Do some people command more respect? I think so yes, and has been mentioned before it's mostly about confidence. For example, there's a girl I go to college with, she's rich, very attractive and kinda forceful. However, she's also deeply insecure and it shows whenever it can. Fishing for compliments, telling you how other attractive women aren't actually attractive for whatever reason that sort of thing.
She thinks she's the bees knees and lets you know it, but she's also pretty needy. So she really forces the "I'm great" attitude and it's grating. There's only so much you can hear about her before you just want her to shut up and consider the rest of the planet
If she were genuinely confident, she probably wouldn't be so forceful and would be more likeable. Despite all those things she has going for her physically, she's her own worst enemy.On the other side, there's a girl I sit with in psychology who's absolutely drop-dead gorgeous...but doesn't seem to know it. She's not loud, not quiet and not full of herself. She's also obviously intelligent and *gasp* listens to you when you speak. She is vastly more commanding of respect, despite the fact she's not rich or loud. She's also very warm, which I think helps.
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