Two questions (puberty & relationships)

First question is about puberty. I just turned 16 and my voice hasn't broken. Do you think it will stay high for the rest of my life? I've had those crack up-down moments quite often for about a year but my general voice is the same as it was maybe 2-3 years ago! I've had a huge growth spurt in the last year if this makes a difference.

Second question is about relationships. I need some advice.

Girl A: Went out with in a childish relationship for 2 weeks in year 7, we went to the movies once and held hands ( :rolleyes:

) but never kissed or anything. She often reminisces with me jokingly about the love we had. She is absolutely stunning and has a great personality. If i asked her out she'd say yes.

Girl 2: Pulled her (first ever) at a party a few months ago. Went on a date to starbucks the next week but was v. awkward and not much conversation went on - but since then we've gone out together with friends and know eachother a little better now. I know she'd say yes if i asked her about but i'm scared that when we're alone (not with friends) it'll be quiet and awkward again.

Basically I'm scared to ask either of these girls out despite knowing what they say. It's just i've never had a proper girlfriend so wouldn't really know how to go about it. I also imagine people thinking "oh my god why is she going out with him!"

Arrrgh! i will answer any more questions you have if it helps you to give advice

thanks!

Reply 1

squeak

21

Anonymous

First question is about puberty. I just turned 16 and my voice hasn't broken. Do you think it will stay high for the rest of my life? I've had those crack up-down moments quite often for about a year but my general voice is the same as it was maybe 2-3 years ago! I've had a huge growth spurt in the last year if this makes a difference.

Second question is about relationships. I need some advice.

Girl A: Went out with in a childish relationship for 2 weeks in year 7, we went to the movies once and held hands ( :rolleyes:

) but never kissed or anything. She often reminisces with me jokingly about the love we had. She is absolutely stunning and has a great personality. If i asked her out she'd say yes.

Girl 2: Pulled her (first ever) at a party a few months ago. Went on a date to starbucks the next week but was v. awkward and not much conversation went on - but since then we've gone out together with friends and know eachother a little better now. I know she'd say yes if i asked her about but i'm scared that when we're alone (not with friends) it'll be quiet and awkward again.

Basically I'm scared to ask either of these girls out despite knowing what they say. It's just i've never had a proper girlfriend so wouldn't really know how to go about it. I also imagine people thinking "oh my god why is she going out with him!"

Arrrgh! i will answer any more questions you have if it helps you to give advice

thanks!

1. your voice will break one day. and if not, no one will care. i mean look at the darkness or mika or whatever -they made a career out of extremely high voices.

2. you seem more comfortable with girl A. So I'd say go for her. But if you want girl 2, hang out with her more on your own -see if it is awkward. If it's not and it's good, then ask her out.

3. who cares if someone says 'omg why is she with him' because at the end of the day she's is with you, and there is a reason for that -she likes youu! The people who say it don't have anything better to do than slate other people, so don't stress over them -it's not worth it!

duno what else to say really, apart from grow a pair and go for it! what's the worst that could happen.

Reply 2

silverbolt

19

i wouldnt worry too much about your voice not breaking that will come in time and if not - well it'l be a novelty for new people lol and an ice breaker.

You like both girls - easy answer there as well - go for the hotter one

Reply 3

dobbs

17

I just want to answer something on the voice breaking thing - may I point out that you as an individual probably won't really notice your voice break. You may think you sound the same as 2 years ago but it's likely you don't.

In my opinion, I'm 22 and I feel like nothing has changed to my voice in the past 10 years! :rolleyes:

But it has, because it's a gradual change and you don't tend to notice it. If you can find a recording of your voice from 2 years ago then you'll realise there probably has been a change.

It's not just one day you have a high pitched voice and as you're talking your voice just drops down low! :wink:

The relationship thing - meh, you have the opportunity of going out with 2 different girls you like. I don't see the problem? Choose one, if it goes wrong, go for the other? :rolleyes:

Reply 4

Ichamackalooloo

2

I thought all men's voices broke? obviously not.

Reply 5

Goodkat

I never noticed my voice breaking at all. Although now my voice is really fairly deep, so it has obviously happened, I just could never really pinpoint when it happened, it seemed to be a more of a gradual change than anything.

Reply 6

TeamBlueGravy

12

choose girl A man!! If not give me her number :wink:

Kam.

Reply 7

Robob

17

How do you know they'll say yes?

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

StarryEyedSurprise

I think you should go for the first girl. You're obviously more comfortable with her.

Are you small for your age?

As i said i've had a huge growth spurt, its taken me to just under 6ft.

I asked Girl B to the cinema today and i think its become obvious she now sees me more as a friend, because she asked if some of her friends can come too. She's obv not interested in a relationship. We're going (about 5 of us) next week.

As for Girl A.. too scared! :biggrin:

Thanks for all advice so far.

Reply 9

The Strangest Quark

Don't date a girl you have persistant awkward silences with, it's a sure sign of having little in common, and doesn't bode at all well for a relationship.
It sounds as though you don't have trouble talking to girl A, If I were you I'd choose her out of the two :smile:

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Edit: Just saw your last post. Don't be scared, ask her. Better to try and fail, etc...

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