I'm really confused and hurt right now. My Boyfriend recently went back home to visit his family, met up with an old friend and fooled around. I just found out that my boyfriend of 5 months, was masturbating with another person while they watched porn together. The fact that he's done this in the past before I knew him doe'snt realy bother me, but I kinda figuered that since he now had me and our sex life was pretty amazing ( or so I thought ), that he would'nt feel the need to 'share' himself so intimatly with another person. In a strange way I feel cheated upon even though they did'nt have intercourse and he's trying to assure me that they never actually touched eachother. ( Merley watched porn together and got eachother off by watching both the porn and eachother ).
I really dont know what to think! Has anyone else ever encountered a similiar problem. I mean, I'm very open sexually with him and I thought that I fufilled him but now I have all these doubts about our relationship. It's as if all that trust we worked so hard to buid up, just vanished in the blink of an eye. The really suckie thing is, I told him before he left that we should try phone sex (his idea originally) and that I would love to tell him just how bad I wanted him over the phone.....BUT he never called me to 'talk dirty' and whenever I started to stear the conversation in that direction I was quickly told that I should'nt and that his family was in the same room...ughhhh.
so so upset....please any comments would be helpful.
I should also mention that we were both virgins when we gave ourselves to eachother. First lover's, and all that etc etc.
Seriously, that's out of order!!!!! I'd see that as cheating, and if my bf did that to me, I'd see it as a reason to break up... If he's with you, and committed to you, he shouldn't even think about doing that with other people..;console;
Was the friend a guy or a girl? Although if he was getting off on the other person masturbating then it doesn't really matter. But if he was just ******* along to some porn with another guy in the room, it's pretty weird, but I wouldn't say it's cheating.
Its up to you. You are hurt by this. I would give it a few days before taking up decisive action (cool off the sex at the mo) and then decide if you want to break up. If he has been watching porn films with a bloke, then the last time I saw this happen in here, most girls werent bothered. With a girl, well...
Was the friend a guy or a girl? Although if he was getting off on the other person masturbating then it doesn't really matter. But if he was just ******* along to some porn with another guy in the room, it's pretty weird, but I wouldn't say it's cheating.
The friend was a guy. :cringe: He's never displayed signs of homesexuality and I suppose that there's always the possibility of him being bi, but its just the fact that.....he and I always used mutual masturbation as a form of heavy foreplay and it was very intimate act between us, so for him to have gone to someone else and done this. It breaks my heart
If it was a girl, it would class as cheating in my view. If it was a bloke, I would find it very weird and ask if he bi?
EDIT: Just read your response. It was a guy I wouldn't really see it as cheating as such, but it is definitely a bit strange and would point towards signs of him being bi if he was getting off watching another guy *******.
Since it was clearly an act that had significance in your relationship, I would certainly understand you being very hurt. Its up to you whether you forgive him, a bit of time and space then see how you feel, hope it works out okay
The friend was a guy. :cringe: He's never displayed signs of homesexuality and I suppose that there's always the possibility of him being bi, but its just the fact that.....he and I always used mutual masturbation as a form of heavy foreplay and it was very intimate act between us, so for him to have gone to someone else and done this. It breaks my heart
Well do you know that he was actually getting off on the fact that there was another guy going at it as well? Because if not really he was just looking at porn.