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I'm being threatened. Quite scared.

One of my bloody good mates is a bloke and we always have had a flirty relationship, obviously nothing would happen as I love him just as a friend. Sadly his grlfriend doesn't see it like that.

She has just sent me about a hundred texts saying she is going to 'make [me] pay for turning him against [her]'... don't ask me how the hell I've done this, but now I'm rather scared. If she cared to look she could find out a hell of alot about me, from tsr, from old msn convos, emails, he even has my timetable on his laptop.

So basically this girl is hounding for my blood, knows exactly where I live, where and what times I work and when I'm in uni. I can only assume she has his phone without his permission as she wouldn't know mine.

I don't know what to do, I'm sat here virtually ****ting myself incase she finds me (she is a big girl) and I can't even go to uni, and I can't tell him she has been texting me cause he would throw a wobbly at her and I don't want it to be my fault if they split up.

Reply 1

Tyler Durden

17

Start carrying a flick-knife.

Or hire a bodyguard. I'll do it if the money's right.

Third option would be to tell the bloke. Explain you're a bit scared by it all and can he please get his psycho girlfriend to calm the **** down. Explain that you don't want him to make a big deal out of it though.

Finally you could reply to the girl telling her that if she threatens you again you will go to the police and report the abuse you're getting. If necessary you will take out a restraining order against her etc etc. It's all bull**** of course (unless you do have to resort to such tactics) but it might make her think before doing anything hotblooded.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

Hehe, I can just imagine sitting down in a lecture with two big burly bouncers either side :biggrin:

I don't know how I can tell him, I assume he is in uni and she has his phone which makes it akward.

Reply 3

Tyler Durden

17

Plan A: Talk to him and tell him to get her calmed down.

Plan B: Talk to her and give her the police spiel.

Phone the phone. ---> If he answers proceed to plan A / If she answers proceed to plan B. ---> Chill out and go to Uni. :smile:

Reply 4

ßlαcksωαn

17

meh stand up for yourself.

Reply 5

silverbolt

19

100 texts plus and she hasnt done anything?

sounds like a paper tiger to me.

Show her bf the texts see what he has to say about her.

Oh and big doesnt mean sqaut - quick tip a kick between the legs works just as well on women as it does on men

Reply 6

Tyler Durden

17

silverbolt

quick tip a kick between the legs works just as well on women as it does on men

Are you saying being kicked in the vagina is as painful for a girl as being kicked in the balls is for a bloke? Seriously... I doubt it. Even if it is: stop giving away our sex's trump card - it's all we have when they bring up the pains of childbirth etc.

Reply 7

simeon125

10

well... if ur plannin to play hermit the hedehog in ur dorm, thats bad move, yes she may be a "big girl", but now that ur involved its not like u can hope that she cools down a bit & forget. Girls dont forget and hiring a bodyguard isnt a solution!! still all these texts, sounds more words to me than fists, so if you dont call her, then let her bf instead kno that shes houndling you, & get him to quietly have a word with her. Good luck

Reply 8

silverbolt

19

Sehnsucht

Are you saying being kicked in the vagina is as painful for a girl as being kicked in the balls is for a bloke? Seriously... I doubt it. Even if it is: stop giving away our sex's trump card - it's all we have when they bring up the pains of childbirth etc.

its true - the labia and clitorus have masses of nerves in there same as testicles do.

And besides they get multiple orgasms - beats everything :biggrin:

Reply 9

Petit chou

15

The exact same thing happened to me, one of my mates who i'm quite close to was going out with this complete psycho who gets joy out of people hating her. And she was asking me loads of questions about him over myspace like asking about another girl he was close to (she doesn't like him having any girl mates she even didn't like him being mates with one who was a lesbian!) so i said i'd seen him with her but it didn't look like they were going out as they weren't holding hands or showing any signs (she was in uni at birmingham so kept asking questions to make sure he wasn't cheating). But then she forwarded that message to him but edited it to make it sound like i said he was cheating on her so he got pissed off with me i had to end up giving him my myspace password so he could see what i had actually said. So he dumped her and she started threatening me saying that i'd better watch my back when she gets home for christmas.

I **** myself cos she has a history of punching people, she even opunched someone infromt of the college counseller when her and this girl were sent there to resolve their issues! Luckily she never did anything probs cos she knows i wouldn't be afraid to strike back if she did try lol.

Reply 10

20083

2

Often you will find that if someone really wants to do something, they won't bother threatening. She wants this reaction from you. Just delete the messages and carry on as normal.

Reply 11

strawberry_wise

13

Explain to her that you are just his mate, and offer to keep your distance from them both for a while.

and in future, don't flirt with people's boyfriends...

Reply 12

Ink

12

Why should she offer to distance herself from *her friend*? She's done nothing wrong - flirting isn't always a precursor to something more. Some people just relate on a harmlessly flirtatious level. The girl he is dating sounds like a psycho, and she might actually feel empowered if anon cowers away and stops speaking to guy in question.

If you are good friends with him, you need to tell him what a psycho his girlfriend is. If he's not aware of it, he needs to know and it's up to him whether he wants to date her after that. Wouldn't you want to know if your SO was going crazy on your friends behind your back?

I'm being threatened. Quite scared.

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