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I hate my social life in college!
Its bloody ridiculous! I just can't seem to get into a good social group at the minute! Everyone is staying with their mates from school and this continues into the secons year as i've heard from someone. All of my mates have went to another college and i'm really alone all the damn time which makes me look like a loner. However, i am enjoying my courses so thats good. how do i solve this problem because things are so awkward. i feel ****e tbh.
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Invent a dance. Everybody will want to know how to do it and who will be there to teach them? Yes, that's right, you. You'll be the talk of the town and the people will call you Mr Pop (Pop being short for Popular that is).
any other suggestions?
What do people generally do for lunch? If I'm working as part of a group (eg doing a presentation) I make a point of asking whoever else is there 'what yous doing for lunch?' or 'mind if i tag along for lunch?'. People usually wont refuse. Do that once or twice and then take it as a given that you will be with them and then ask 'where will I meet you guys for lunch' or something? Thats what I did anyway.
Open up a self defence or fencing society 
People will love to join!! 
If it's not too personal, what college do you go to?
I can check up the societies there already.
People will love to join!! If it's not too personal, what college do you go to?
I can check up the societies there already. Kagutsuchi
Open up a self defence or fencing society People will love to join!!
If it's not too personal, what college do you go to? I can check up the societies there already.
People will love to join!! If it's not too personal, what college do you go to?
I can check up the societies there already. queen elizabeth sixth form college.
I don't know. People ask this kind of thing a lot, and I think you'd have to be some kind of genius social engineer to proactively change a situation like this around.
Jesus, that was quick. Are you some kind of genius social engineer or something? That's really bloody clever. I'll have to remember that one.
This is more my skill-level.
AppleHutch
I make a point of asking whoever else is there 'what yous doing for lunch?' or 'mind if i tag along for lunch?'. People usually wont refuse. Do that once or twice and then take it as a given that you will be with them and then ask 'where will I meet you guys for lunch' or something?
UnspokenTruth
Invent a dance
AppleHutch
What do people generally do for lunch? If I'm working as part of a group (eg doing a presentation) I make a point of asking whoever else is there 'what yous doing for lunch?' or 'mind if i tag along for lunch?'. People usually wont refuse. Do that once or twice and then take it as a given that you will be with them and then ask 'where will I meet you guys for lunch' or something? Thats what I did anyway.
yer but it isn't them asking you. its like you would still be seperate.
idiot
This is more my skill-level.
Come on, it worked for the chicken, everybody loves chicken.
justinliu
just look out for other people on there own and stick with them or just sit with the same person at lunch you sit next to in your class - at least you've got something in common. just ask if you can tag along even if you don't say much, people are not that harsh.
however, the thing is there are so many cliques in my college (silly i know) and no offence but i feel uncomfortable around hippies, goths etc etc.
UnspokenTruth
Come on, it worked for the chicken, everybody loves chicken.
i did the stevie wonder on the telephone dance for two years straight whenever wherever i could and it needless to say provoked mixed responses.
the what you doing for lunch idea is more flawless.
I am in a similar situation as you, cept im in 2nd year and my list of "friends" wears thing.
The strangest thing after reading this thread though lol is of all the societies I joined last year Fencing is the one ive found myself coming back to this year..in fact as i type this im just after coming home from it. And the strangest thing was I actually had fun, and interacted more with people unlike I did last year. Ive adopted this mindset where Im so far out of the loop that no matter what I do I cant really get much further out of it, and in the end tonight I came away, not exactly with friends but a satisfied feeling that I at least interacted with newer people, and hopefully over time that will grow....Im no expert lol but go with the fencing suggestion, if anything at least its a killer workout in itself *falls asleep*
The strangest thing after reading this thread though lol is of all the societies I joined last year Fencing is the one ive found myself coming back to this year..in fact as i type this im just after coming home from it. And the strangest thing was I actually had fun, and interacted more with people unlike I did last year. Ive adopted this mindset where Im so far out of the loop that no matter what I do I cant really get much further out of it, and in the end tonight I came away, not exactly with friends but a satisfied feeling that I at least interacted with newer people, and hopefully over time that will grow....Im no expert lol but go with the fencing suggestion, if anything at least its a killer workout in itself *falls asleep*
Psychos
I am in a similar situation as you, cept im in 2nd year and my list of "friends" wears thing.
The strangest thing after reading this thread though lol is of all the societies I joined last year Fencing is the one ive found myself coming back to this year..in fact as i type this im just after coming home from it. And the strangest thing was I actually had fun, and interacted more with people unlike I did last year. Ive adopted this mindset where Im so far out of the loop that no matter what I do I cant really get much further out of it, and in the end tonight I came away, not exactly with friends but a satisfied feeling that I at least interacted with newer people, and hopefully over time that will grow....Im no expert lol but go with the fencing suggestion, if anything at least its a killer workout in itself *falls asleep*
The strangest thing after reading this thread though lol is of all the societies I joined last year Fencing is the one ive found myself coming back to this year..in fact as i type this im just after coming home from it. And the strangest thing was I actually had fun, and interacted more with people unlike I did last year. Ive adopted this mindset where Im so far out of the loop that no matter what I do I cant really get much further out of it, and in the end tonight I came away, not exactly with friends but a satisfied feeling that I at least interacted with newer people, and hopefully over time that will grow....Im no expert lol but go with the fencing suggestion, if anything at least its a killer workout in itself *falls asleep*
i mean, i know what you mean, life is so dull when previously in my old school i had plenty of m8s and we always had a gr8 time, but now i'm just in a stage of a great culture shock!
Avo
Wear an interesting hat.
I think some people see the name "Anonymous", and it confuses their inner lizard-brain into thinking they're back at a certain other forum. It's definitely a temptation I sometimes have to fight off (usually I don't resist at all).
Anonymous
queen elizabeth sixth form college.
Is that in Stockton? I go to Prior Pursglove in Guisborough and the name just rings a bell thats all
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