depressed heartbroken :(

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i'm both of the above, and it's really beginning to become too hard to cope, me and my boyf split up ages ago due to him being abusive, however , he still rings me etcetera..i have been cutting myself for a few weeks, not sure why, makes me feel a bit better

and i just broke down into tears at college and yeah i dunno what to do

sorry for complaining i'm just..
:frown:

Reply 1

username47781

20

You might think your boyfriend is making you feel better, but he is bad news. Come on he abused you, you have got to let him go. Have you seeked any help?

Reply 2

Francophobia

1

Having been in a very similar situation myself, I'd suggest talking to someone about this. It doesn't have to be a therapist -- it could be your GP or anyone else who you trust and think could help.
It's also really not a good idea to keep in touch with your boyfriend. He abused you, after all. It's very hard at first, but don't contact him and don't let him contact you.

Reply 3

kyletms

doctor kyle says: take a day or two off college and do something fun

doctor kyle recommends: in-line skating, candy floss, cloud gazing...

Reply 4

Ashes_to_Ashes

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stacey4415

i'm both of the above, and it's really beginning to become too hard to cope, me and my boyf split up ages ago due to him being abusive, however , he still rings me etcetera..i have been cutting myself for a few weeks, not sure why, makes me feel a bit better

and i just broke down into tears at college and yeah i dunno what to do

sorry for complaining i'm just..
:frown:

Don't say sorry, this is what TSR is here for!
I'd say definately try and talk to someone about it, a friend, family member, GP, whoever you feel comfortable with.
Don't take your boyfriends calls, he doesn't deserve your time, and never blame yourself...
Don't let his insecurities infest within you, and seek help,

Good Luck :smile:

Reply 5

Sugar_Puff_Fairy

13

You must keep remembering WHY you split up with this guy - you are much beter of without him!
Talk to someone who actually cares about you, like a friend or your mum or something. Self-harming might temporarily relieve some of the pain but in the long run it will just hurt you more, because you can get over an abusive relationship and move on, but you can't remove the scars.
You must realise you don't deserve to be abused, in any way at all, so you have to stop doing it to yourself - otherwise, what was the point in breaking up with your boyfriend?
Just take some time out for yourself, focus on what makes you happy and surround yourself with people who want you to be happy, don't take his calls, or do and tell him that it's over 100% and he should leave you alone now.
Don't go through this alone, I bet loads of people are happy to help you, and you shouldn't be ashamed to ask for help.

Reply 6

qubog

12

Tell your mum. A problem shared is a problem halved and mums always know what to do.

Reply 7

stacey4415

OP

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Not many things do make me happy..i was with him for about two years, within those two years iw as sort of brainwashed, he was so nasty to me yet i depended on him and thought he was amazing, every time he shouted at me or something, i'd beg for his forgiveness thinking i had done something

and a lot of my friends fell out with me over those two years, as i have completely changed, i went to the doctors she prescribed some anti depressants but they aren't working!!

I just feel like right now i will never get over him, have any of you been in a relationship for a few years, then were you able to get over him? i know it's pathetic however i seem to depend on him, love him, worship him even thoguh he treats me like rubbish!!

depressed heartbroken :(

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